EMBRACING OUR SEXUALITY: FINDING YOUR HIDDEN MILF

Unless you've been living under a rock to avoid social media headlines as of late, let me fill you in  about a trending and controversial topic. MILF’s

Recently in the news the former heart throb and tennis star Anna Kournikova had been seen out in public in her hot mom outfit, and was referred to as a “Milf” by a twitter star. In case you don’t know what that means let me fill you in… She’s a “mother I’d like to F**K”. To some women this term is disrespectful, to others it comes as a badge of honor and pride.

MY FEELINGS ON BEING CALLED A MILF

Last year a young male friend called me a MILF. “Thanks?” I wasn’t sure if I should be insulted or not. “You don’t know what a MILF is, do you?” “Yes, I know what a MILF is!”  I lied, a little. I’d heard the term before, usually in connection with porn, but I had never actually been referred to as one. Wow! The nerve of this guy! Shouldn’t he buy me dinner first or something? Seeing the wheels in my head spinning, he quickly backtracked, “I’m not saying I want to f--- you.  I’m just saying, you’re a MILF.” “All right. That’s better.” I think….

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My friend’s remark stuck with me all night. I couldn’t comprehend why this guy called me a MILF. Hadn’t he just seen me use my spit to clean spaghetti sauce off my shirt? Did he think I slept around? Could he see my thong?  (I pride myself on being a vigilant thong-tucker.)

And what exactly was a MILF? Was a MILF a slut or a siren? More importantly, if I smiled and thanked him for calling me a MILF, was I inviting him to put his hand on my boob? As a mom, being perceived as sexy was right up there on my list of priorities with “learn to knit,” “buy a tea cozy,” and “confirm that Facebook friendship request from the girl who stole my boyfriend in 11^th grade.” I wondered if society could ever allow a mom to be sexy without turning her children into a caveat or disclaimer. (“That woman sure is hot, EVEN THOUGH she has kids…”)

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After he left I Googled “MILF.” After scrolling through numerous porn site listings, I found a definition on Wikipedia that seemed fairly inoffensive: “MILF ▪ (slang) Mother/Mom I'd Like to F---: A (putative) mother or woman of childbearing age found to be sexually attractive.” Well that’s not so bad. In fact, I could totally get behind that.
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I was pondering this further when I heard a thump… and then a yell. (I usually wait for the yell before I respond.)

.As I kissed my daughter’s head and applied a pink, pig-shaped ice pack to her newly acquired boo-boo, it suddenly dawned on me I had actually been paid a huge compliment! To be seen by this great, funny guy, who was at least 10 years my junior, as a viable sexual candidate was really flattering! He had met all three of my children, watched me wrangle them at the dinner table, and heard me shriek “GET IN THE TUB NOW!” till my pulsating vocal chords were visible through my open mouth. And he still thought I was pretty. Wow!

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I realized that being called a MILF meant so much more than being sexually attractive. It meant embracing motherhood and sexuality simultaneously. The concept was revolutionary! I started noticing MILFs everywhere! At the park, at the movies, at the market. Beautiful women, hot women - and I noticed all of the men checking them out. They wore everything from cardigans to sweats; jeans to suits. Some were models of fitness, others were new moms – swollen breasts straining against their cotton T’s. They came in all shapes and sizes (and many had a proclivity for picking at their kids’ pretzel goldfish) but I noticed they all had one thing in common: they weren’t “hot” despite their children – they were “hot” because of them. 
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There was no denying it. Being a MILF is a badge of honor. And you know what? I am going wear that badge proudly. Right over that spaghetti stain on my shirt.
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DID I MARRY A PRUDE OR A SLUT?

Let's face it momma bears, being a mother is a challenge, so much so that we tend to lose our identity as an individual, and as a wife. But worse as a counsellor, mother, loving wife, and sexual therapist nothing burns my fuse more than the “Bait & Switch Wife”, a woman who when dating is a sexual freak, someone who is a sexual goddess and flirtatious catch, only to then once married immediately shut down her sexuality, stop putting out, stop engaging sexually, and let herself go.

Why does this irritate me so much? Imagine you’re going to buy a really expensive car, a car so amazing and pricey that you’ll never have to (or be able to buy another car again), you get one chance, and you have to pick the right one. You spend months getting know this car before you commit to purchasing it, finally you’re ready! You sign the papers, you drive it off the lot, and all of a sudden it breaks down, its mirror falls off, the paint suddenly begins to peel off, the doors won’t stay closed. You’ve been duped, you thought you were buying a high class car, when instead the seller had bait and switched what you’d bought. And worse there are no returns. NOW APPLY THIS TO YOUR MARRIAGE…

Sexual compatibility in a relationship is 50% of the glue that holds you both together, if he had known he was going to be duped (bait and switch) would he actually have married you? He’s stuck with a broken down wife, you promised to be his sexual freak, to rock his world every other night, and instead he’s stuck with a cold, heartless prude that doesn’t care to meet his needs, who completely misrepresented who she was.
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For a man the sexual compatibility is 50% of the relationship, what does this mean? You’ve just reduced his overall happiness by 50%, your marriage is now 50% less special and happy to him, you lied to him about who you where, he fell in love with one woman, and you became another. You literally just stabbed him in the back with a knife, and expect him to remain loyal to you. Here’s the deal sweetheart, some men will, some wont. You broke your half of the marriage broken, why shouldn’t he?

DON’T ALLOW LIVING MISSERABLY, HAVING AN AFFAIR, LEAVING THE MARRIAGE, OR HAVING AN OPEN MARRIAGE TO BECOME THE ONLY OPTIONS

So what do you now expect him to do? Abandon 50% of his needs? Pretend as if they don’t exist? Suppress the anger, resentment, sadness, despair, and loneliness that you’ve stripped from this marriage? Or, does he leave you entirely? Does he cheat? Or does he ask for an open marriage to meet the 50% needs that you can’t or won’t fill? Whatever he decides you have NO RIGHT to complain, or argue his decision from the ISSUE YOU CAUSED.


If he chooses to stay but is miserable, if he leaves you because of your misrepresentation, if he cheats to do what you won’t, or if he does the honorable thing of asking your permission to have sex outside the relationship, YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO COMPLAIN. THIS IS YOUR FAULT.  You robbed him of a happy life and relationship, you dug your grave, either fi it or lay in it…

Here’s the thing, most women who are so cruel to pull the old “bait and switch” on their man to trick them into marriage do it by accident, they really did desire sex, and they’ve just forgotten how to get in touch with their sexual side for various reasons (discussed later). They realize they’ve botched their duties and vows as a wife and want to change. They realize they need to change and revert back to the girl he fell in love with, some change and cure the marriage, others become chronic “I should’ers”, making excuse after excuse year after year as to why they haven’t fixed themselves yet. “WHEN WE CHANGE "I SHOULD" into "I WILL", and eventually "I DO" you will see a new man come forward in your life, 50% happier, not a man burdened by the heavy load of life, but a man full of life and optimism who moves mountains for the wife and family he loves.

“This is a major reason many husbands clam up. A man whose wife frequently denies him sex will first be hurt, then sad, then angry, then quiet. And most men will never tell their wives why they have become quiet and distant. They are afraid to tell their wives. They are often made to feel ashamed of their male sexual nature, and they are humiliated (indeed emasculated) by feeling that they are reduced to having to beg for sex.”

The bottom line is men need sex just as much as they need air, food, or water, IT IS A NECESSITY, as is it for you, and especially for your marriage. Once a week just won’t cut it, twice a week may, but happy and healthy marriages consist of at least having intercourse twice a week, and adding on top of that a good make out session or oral love making session. Talk with your man about how often sex is enough for him, and how often you need it. The word “Should” is killing your marriage, and your man, if you love them both don’t allow them to suffer chronically.
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SOURCES OF SEXUAL REPRESSION IN WOMEN

Wives objections to sexual expression can come from a few different directions. These include:

• Their religions – This one kinda goes without saying. Bigger religions tend not to be liberal on the sexual expression front. If a girl has had a religious upbringing, expect her to have some sexually-limiting frames in her head, most of which have been twisted and warped by incorrect teachings on sexuality. Don’t get us wrong, there are true and legitimate principles regarding sexual sin, it’s just that most of todays teachings have been twisted into an idea that just isn’t biblically correct, I can tell you that if you wear the color red you have committed sexual sin, but that doesn’t make it true or condemnable by God… Just as many of todays sexual teachings have no truth nor validity in them either. Overcoming religious trauma can be difficult, but it needs to be discussed. What do you both believe is sexually correct or incorrect? It needs to be a topic of understanding.

“As adults, we develop something I call the inner “religious police.” Our inner religious police ensure that we stay obedient (enslaved) to the dogmas and creeds of Christianity” if its not true then why follow at all?

• Their families – This tends to go with religiosity in a family, but it's not always the case. Have a judgmental father? Slut shaming mother? Also a topic of discussion…
• Their friends – Girls who have friends who aren't sexually expressive themselves will offer judgment to those who are. This means that girls will often have to worry what their friends will think of them if they were to do something outside of their social group norm.

• General sociocultural conditioning – There is a consensus in many cultures that female sexual expression should be limited. And that women who are more sexually expressive should be less respected. Girls can get labeled all kinds of things if word gets out about them doing something kinky. The Madonna/Whore complex.

• Past boyfriends/hook-ups – This can be the most powerful. Her past sexual relations can have massive implications for what a girl has done and will do. Judgment by a sex partner puts a big brake on sexual exploration. Fortunately, it also means as her sex partner you're in the best position to change her attitude. That's what this article is all about.
• Lack of sexual experience – You can't know you like a steak-dinner if you've never tried a steak-dinner. Girls who haven't experienced a lot don't really have a definitive idea of what they're more partial to in sexual terms. They're also much more susceptible to all of the above factors impacting on their view of sex.

Generally speaking, any one of these things, or a combination of them, may have conspired to keep you in a sexually-restricted little box. TAKE SOME TIME TO DISCUS THESE SECTIONS TOGETHER.
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Freak in the sheets vs. Classy woman (He needs both)

Let’s all just admit it; sometimes we just really want to be a complete slut. Now I don't mean I just want to hook up with lots of guys or even with any acceptable guy. I mean that I want to find one guy who I find attractive and trust and I just want to be a complete freak with him. Let out my inner slut and let him have his way. You aren't alone in this feeling. And guess what? Your Husband wants you to be the “Slutty Sally” you used to be while dating.

Women experience extreme duality when it comes to sex. I call this the classic battle of Good vs. Evil. Right vs. Wrong. Light vs. Dark. Wholesome vs. Inner Slutty. I believe that most women feel as though they have to classify themselves into a sexual category. This feeling of being in the ” right” and ” approved” of category can completely shut down the sexy, fun, excited, wild, hot and expressive girl inside. The wild more slutty side feels as though she is not accepted for what she brings to the table so she hides in the corner not willing to break free from her cage. She expresses herself with anger, rage, sadness, depression and eating herself into numbness. I am going to identify this personality inside and call her ” Slutty Sally”.

Slutty Sally is inside each and everyone of us girls.

She longs to be expressed and she longs to be acknowledged. Slutty Sally wants to be part of our whole self. She brings excitement, creativity, and sensuality. She awakens our sexual essence. Slutty Sally has the ability to make us feel alive. She can allow us to express our sexual wants and desires. She will open us up so we can feel , connect and express our deepest sexual desires.

Slutty Sally is here for a reason. She brings us into our beauty of embracing our sexual self. Slutty Sally is super fun. She is extremely open. She loves to receive and give pleasure. Slutty Sally loves to share her essence with her man. Slutty Sally loves to make her man crave her, long for her, devour her. She knows what she wants and she is not afraid to create sexual dynamite.

Slutty Sally is confident in the bedroom.

She wears exciting attire and seduces her man and herself in the most sensual of ways. Slutty Sally is a sexual woman, she is not a little girl. She walks with her hips, she licks her lips, she caresses her body and she consumes her mans attention. Slutty Sally wants to be approved of and accepted. She wants you to love her and accept her. Slutty Sally is absolutely amazing and she will allow you to express your sexual self in the most beautiful of ways. Embrace her….Love her….Accept her. Allow her free from her cage so she can bring back that missing piece.

As a woman I know that Slutty Sally is easy to disapprove of. She can feel wild and uncontrollable. She can make us feel ashamed and dirty. Inner Slutty Sally can bring back many sexual memories that activate feelings of guilt, shame and resentment. Slutty Sally became an enemy. She became someone we feared. Slutty Sally could not be trusted. What other choice did we have…we shut her down. We put Slutty Sally in a cage to punish her for her crimes and uncontrollable urge for sexual satisfaction. We decided that Slutty Sally could only do us harm.

Slutty Sally wants to be free.

She is screaming at you to let her out. Slutty Sally will behave herself. The two of you can co create to awaken your sexual diva and allow your sexual essence to be felt and expressed.

Allow your inner Slutty Sally to merge with who you are.

She is absolutely amazing and she deserves to be loved. Slutty Sally will bring you excitement, creativity, pleasure, laughter, sexiness and you will absolutely love being the seducer.

Here are 6 ways that you can love and connect to your inner Slutty Sally!

1. Allow yourself to have sexual thoughts

Our mind is such a powerful tool when it comes to revving up our sexual energy. Go deep into yummy thought about expressing yourself in a sexual way. We can become so wrapped up in everyday tasks that we can disconnect from our sexual energy. When we focus on having at least 3 sexual thoughts a day and really enjoy these thoughts, our sexual essence will come alive.

2. Ditch the undies for a day

This small little trick can really keep you connected to the beautiful, sexual goddess you are. When we pick a day that feels right to us and wear no panties it is absolutely amazing. What a great way to plug you into sexual thoughts and sexual energy.

3. Wear something that is absolutely slutty

This is such a fun thing to do. I personally have a bag of 10-15 dresses that are pretty slutty. When I am planning a romantic candlelight dinner or even just a movie night, this can really spice any evening up. We don’t have to leave the house.

Just wear it for yourself.

When we pick dresses or super sexy tops out, we want to feel comfortable so our energy can expand. So pick something slutty that you also feel amazing in. Allow yourself to remember what a seductress you truly are. This will remind you of your inner slutty sally and she will be so happy that you are playing with her. She loves to be wild and untamed. Let her express herself.

4. Eat some sensual food (a banana or some ice cream) while thinking slutty thoughts

This one is so much fun and can be done so simply. The next time you are eating a banana, don’t just chomp away. Take small, yummy bites. Allow the sensation of the soft banana to be felt on your lips and on your tongue. Think of all the pleasure you are receiving from eating this delicious banana. Go slow and be gentle.

Enjoy the satisfaction of awakening your senses and get lost in sexual thought. If you are feeling a bit frisky, you can always give the banana a little deep throat actions as well. This is so much fun and if your guy is near you, it can be super playful as well.

5. Write out a sexual fantasy and allow yourself to go deep into detail

We all have so many sexual fantasies. What’s yours? Take some time and write it down. When we allow ourselves the space to discover our inner sexual fantasies, then take the time to write them down, we can really remember our slutty sally self. She has deep desires and really loves expressing those desires. Try this. You can go slow at first. Pick a desire that you feel is something you would like to expand on and allow yourself to get lost in a story. A story of complete pleasure and bliss. You will feel so much sexual energy and a sexy smile will definitely be on your lips as you are diving into the world of unexpressed desires. If you are feeling brave you can always put your story in an envelope and send it off with your partner to work. They will love reading what your slutty sally wants and they too will get pleasure from reading this.

6. Listen to seductive music and move your hips slowly and softly

Oh , this one is my favorite. There is nothing like slow, sensual movement to awaken our inner slutty selves. Our hips hold so much power and pleasure. Our hips have the ability to allow sexual energy to flow and we can receive so much pleasure.

If you’re here - You’re a slut and you know it.
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SIGNS YOU’RE A SEXUAL WIFE (MILF STATUS)

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO EMBRACE YOUR SEXUALITY (AKA NO SHAME)

• To be a slut means to own your sexual desires.
• To be a slut means to take up space with your erotic power.
• To be a slut means to be a sexually liberated woman.
• To be a slut means you know how to be a freak in bed.
• To be a slut means his sexual pleasure is just as (if not more) important as yours.
• To be a slut means that sexuality is expressed anytime and everywhere.

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  Sluts take care of their body. Get in shape by eating well and exercising. Being fit has a remarkable ability to increase a woman's self-confidence. Choose a good skin care regime for your face and hands.
• Sluts take care of their mind. Have something intelligent and interesting to say. That's at least as important as sporting skin-tight Lululemon yoga pants at your daughter's parent-teacher interviews.
• Sluts discus sex with friends: Throw a passion party, where you invite all of your friends over to buy sex toys. It’s like a Tupperware party on steroids.

• Sluts Go on a shopping spree at an adult store. Buy all the things you’ve dreamt about trying. Blindfolds. Handcuffs. Flavored lube. Dildos. You name it.
• Sluts masturbate 2-3 times per week to maintain a high sex drive, watch erotic videos alone, read erotic novels to get wet, and practice sexy moves in the mirror

• Sluts aren’t afraid to sext their man whether it be just a conversation, or pictures, they’re up for anything to get their man and themselves horny.
• Sluts create sexy plans and scenarios for when he gets home, or ways to surprise him while out on dates.

• Sluts are well educated! Sexually well educated, they read about sex, blogs, advice columns, porn, etc. they understand sexual knowledge is power.
• Sluts occasionally wear sexy clothing at home, and specially out on dates or in public

• Sluts fantasize, fantasize, fantasize.
• Sluts check out the young hung stud they see in public

 DON’T BE ASHAMED TO FANTASIZE (WE ALL DO IT)

I’ve always fantasized that I walked into a nightclub. It was a kink night with a freaky crowd. I asked a guy if he wanted to come back with me. He did. I asked him if he minded extra company. He didn't. I invited his friend to join us. And another. And another. We got a cab. I invited the cab driver to join in too, but he was too scared (he did take my number, though, and we did the dirty at a later date). If two's company and three's a party, five's definitely an orgy.

It turned me on, standing in the hotel reception with four hot guys, aware that the chap at reception knew that we were booking into one suite and what we were clearly planning to do inside—me, in a word. It must have been obvious that they were all going to fuck me. I wonder if he fantasized about that. I've fantasized about him fantasizing about it. It was good, dirty fun. One of them was inside me. One of them was working on me.

One of them gave me something to shut me up. One of them gave me something to keep my hands busy. It worked because I was the center of sexual attention. I wanted it. I was in control. I was shameful but not ashamed. I was wanton, almost a caricature, a porno fantasy, a make-believe slut. I came with their hands all over me, their eyes watching me, their dicks prodding me. It was fantastic—fantasy made flesh. Like my genitals were eating a pot of honey.

Fantasy and roleplay play a vital part in the life of a MILF or a sexy wife, never underestimate the power your mind has to make you horny.

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO TALK DIRTY

There are certain things that are a given in relationships: trips to Ikea, spooning, the dirty dishes row and – according to new research – sexting. Sexting is a massive part of relationships. So big, in fact, that three in four Americans say they sext their partners

Dirty talk is so personal and a lot of people are shy.

Dirty talk is one of those things when your partner is like, “Dirty talk to me” and you’re like, “What do you mean by that?” Do you want me to tell you a fantasy-based of mine or do you want me to degrade myself? It’s such an umbrella term so it’s like, ugh, I don’t know what to do. So yeah it’s not something natural like, “Hey baby I want you to suck my cock”, it becomes more of a conversation about, “What do you mean about dirty talk?”

Sexually advance women know that dirty talk is just as vital as the sex itself, start slow, build up your skills.

A MILF doesent just ask what you want, they make demands! Rather than ask “do you want?” they say “I’m going to” as in I’m going to fuck your brains out, or I’m going to suck your big hard cock, they don’t ask “where do you want to cum?”, they demand him to “cum on my tits, cum on my face, Cum inside me, Cum in my mouth”, and so on. They know what their man likes and they ask for it, “spank me, Fuck me, Kiss me, Bend me over, Suck my pussy/tits, etc.”

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO BE A SEXUAL FREAK (VERY AGGRESSIVE)

Enthusiasm is what separates the men from the little boys, the women from the shy girls, IT IS THE HEART AND SOUL OF MARRITAL SEX. It’s the thing that turns once a week or month sex mindset into “oh my gosh, can we do that again in an hour” mentality.

A Sexual woman makes plans to surprise him, in the morning, in the car, on a date, in the bedroom, after work, and so on. She understands that blowjobs are vital, he needs them in the car, in the kitchen, he needs you to randomly rip off his pants without so much as a kiss and go to town on his manhood, He needs lingerie, dirty talk, and most of all he needs a confident slutty freak who can dominate him from time to time sexually.

Most of all be vocal, if it hits a good spot give him the ole porn star moan or squeak, beg him, claw him, demand him to ravish you, make it clear you’re a beast and cant be tamed. If the neighbors don’t know your name you’re not doing it right.

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO DRESS PROVOCATIVLY (OCCASIONALY, NOT ALL THE TIME)

A sexual woman choses age-appropriate clothing, show off your best features. If you've got legs to die for, flaunt em. Your boobs won’t always be that high, so you have to flaunt it while you can, and even when you are a mom, you can get away with the slight flaunt. Show some skin.  Yes my Darling, you read it right.  You are not Mary Mother of God, for goodness sakes have some fun!  Wearing sweatpants and a long sleeve T with a hoodie, no matter how colorful and coordinated it is, has NO sex appeal.  None... Put on some lipstick Put on something fragrant. Colorful panties.  Again, stop staring at the words like you don’t know what I’m saying and close your mouth.  Come on girlz, it’s just soooooo much fun to wear sexy little undies that only YOU know about! Of course you don’t have to do this daily, but try and maintain a 50/50 glam balance.

ALWAYS maintain a well-trimmed or shaved pubic region, shave your pubic hair into a ridiculous design, like a heart. a MILF is always on top of her game, at minimum wear girlish or kinky lingerie under your clothes from time to time. Modesty has its time and place, but for heavens sake ladies lets show some solid cleavage 40% of the time, you’re not a grandma yet.

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO TAKE DIRTY PICTURES

A sexually proud woman wants her man to be proud of her, nothing exudes confidence like a sexy photo via text message. “First and foremost, start slow! Start with something you’re comfortable with, over time drop more and more clothing, if you're still worried then you can take pictures that don't show your face, for example: boob, thighs, stomach, booty, arms, abs, cock, etc. Only when you're comfortable with showing your face should you do so. STAR SLOW, doing so will allow you to enjoy the experience and learn to love it over time and practice.” Explore yourself, make him remember what he has, entice him, want him to be proud of us and our sexuality, had a bad day, did something right.

Have a boudoir shoot done. These are great for women of any age. Let a professional photographer and make-up artist make you look and feel your sexiest. I have spoken to many women who have had these done (including breast cancer survivors) and all have said it was a wonderful experience for them...and their husbands.

Explore yourself, make him remember what he has, entice him, want him to be proud of us and our sexuality, had a bad day, did something right.

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO FLIRT WITH OTHERS (IF OK WITH YOUR SPOUSE)

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again, a wife open and able to flirt with others is wife that’s horny and wet on a daily basis. I mean who among us hasn't secretly fantasized about being bent over by some total stranger? ALL OF US, that's who ;)

Explore the real possibility of having a threesome–with people that mean nothing to you. You’d be amazed the sexual boost of desire that comes when you open up the doors of your sexual marriage. Hook up with a complete stranger. Maybe that means sharing a few drunken kisses during a party or maybe that means going back to his apartment.

Join Tinder or such. And actually meet up with someone from Tinder for a meaningless fling. Go to a club and see how many numbers you can get from hot guys. Hit on them before they have the chance to hit on you. Ultimately flirtation with men other than your man is only going to benefit the both of you, you because you’re getting more hot young dick, and him because you come home hot and wet ready to pounce.

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO BE CHRISTIAN AND LOVE SEX

There’s nothing wrong with sex when done within God’s guidelines, NOTHING. Break free of the chains of religious trauma and shame, and you’ll find yourself a new woman.

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO WATCH PORN (WITHIN REASON)

Research shows that couples who watch porn together at least once a week reported being more committed and sexually satisfied than those who watched porn together less frequently or not at all. Fifty-eight percent of women who watched porn with a partner said that it had a positive effect on their sex life, and more than half said it has given them the confidence to ask for what they want in bed.

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO MASTURBATE FREQUENTLY

Masturbation is the key to unlocking a MILF’s sexuality, with it the world is her playground, without it the world is asexual… Toys to me have opened up my sexual eyes as to what my body is able to accomplish. For example, through dildo’s I learned how to stroke myself to eventually have a g-spot squirting orgasm, through tiny plugs I was able to test myself anally and see if I enjoyed it or not, through vibrators I had my first screaming orgasm, through dildo use I trained myself to give blowjobs, and recently used them to perfect my deepthroat abilities, through eggs we were able to give me orgasms in public at restaurants discreetly (what a thrill and rush), and finally through blindfolds I was able to come in tune with my other senses.

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO HAVE SEX OR BE SEXUAL IN PUBLIC

Nothing can kill the mood quicker than the feeling of redundancy, repetition, going through the motions expecting and receiving the same results. At times we both would daze off, check our phones even, take a pause for a snack and never finish, that’s what happens when we didn’t change up the pace, location, or moves from time to time. PDA is as important to a man as it is to a woman, the rush of screwing in the backseat, or the thrill of being bent over in a public bathroom stall will do wonders to her sexual desire.

Maybe next time your out on your date wear a skirt, go panty-less, give him a flash while out for ice cream or in the car.

            DON’T BE ASHAMED TO TRY OR EVEN ENJOY ANAL

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Anal sure isn’t for everyone, but for those who do it right it can be intensely pleasurable for both sexes, perhaps explore a butt plug first if your nervous.

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO ENJOY GIVING HIM BLOWJOBS

“In a long term relationship one of the most effective ways for a girl to get the upper hand is high quality fellatio skills, while on the other side of the coin the quickest way for a girl to disqualify herself as a poor excuse of a wife is to be the girl who “doesn’t give blowjobs.” Remember ladies, somewhere out there is a girl who wants to steal your boyfriend, and she’s willing to get down on her knees to do so. Do not underestimate how many keeper points blow jobs will get you.” You have to do it weekly, END OF STORY. END… OF… STORY… I won’t include the many reasons to do so, but please do check out the links.

Here’s what the women of our blog had to say about BJ’s and our responsibility + enjoyment.

Do you actually like sucking cock, or do you just like to give pleasure?

“It's for sure both. It makes me feel so sexy. It tastes good. It feels good. I love the way I can make him moan. I love telling him he's not allowed to cum yet so I can keep sucking. I love feeling him in my throat. I love how wet it gets me. I love the taste of his cum. I love swallowing it all. I love when he decides he wants to cum all over my face or boobs at the end. I love the whimpers of "Oh fuck" that I give him. I love the way he's always out of breath after I've sucked him dry. I love the fact that I can orgasm from it if I think about it enough.” –Jessica-

“It makes me feel sexy and naughty which is a huge turn on. It's a odd question because if my partner didn't get any pleasure from it, I wouldn't do it cause it wouldn't be a sexual activity, ya know? It's not like the movement is appealing...like if I didn't have a boyfriend (or partner) I wouldn't spend my time sucking on a dildo to get the same feeling. But the act of sucking my partners cock makes me feel good on a higher level than just making him happy.” –Tori-

“For me, I just love making a guy squirm, seeing the faces he makes, and hearing the things he says. I get no real physical pleasure from doing it, but the experience is so rewarding. I love it.”-Beth-

“Feeling it get hard in my mouth is awesome :) My favourite part is feeling his cock twitch in my mouth when he’s trying so so hard not to come.” -Kalie-

“Love giving blow jobs because it’s like my thing. I love the noises they make and how their legs shake and swallowing. Just makes me feel dirty/sexy… and the fact most guys have said they’ve ‘”ever had a blow job like that in their life” makes me feel good.”-Tiffany-

“I’m pretty sure I enjoy giving head just as much, if not more than my bf like receiving it.. Apparently I’m kinda awesome at it too, because I’ve gotten ‘that was the best I’ve ever had’ on many occasions, have been told my mouth sent them to nirvana, and my most recent had to pull me off because I was gonna ‘kill’ him if didn’t stop. I live to hear those things.” Willow-

“I love to give a nice and long bj. Hearing the moans, seeing him squirm. It makes me so wet it’s ridiculous. I would give more bjs if I had the opportunity to my boyfriend. But we both work a lot.”-Holly-

“Giving makes me feel super sexy. I like having the control but also love the feeling of submission I get from giving. I can’t really decide what my favorite part is. On a purely physical level, I love the feeling of his head in my mouth; it just feels nice. It’s fun to suck and run my tongue over. But I also love his little whimper of “Oh fuck, baby, I’m gonna cum.” It’s such a turn on and I love watching him squirm when I tell him he’s not allowed to cum yet. I really just love going down on him.” –Allisson-

“I love watching his face and all the moans he can’t contain! My favourite part though is after he’s come and I continue a little longer, then finish by licking the his whole length while looking him straight in the eyes. It drives him wild!”-Britany-

“I enjoy it a lot, more so than receiving oral. Its a huge turn on and I can orgasm while doing it. A man who shows reactions is the sexiest man ever”-Joanne-

 “Because I like receiving, and it would be shitty of me to expect enthusiasm down there if I wasn't willing to go to town on a guy's junk myself."-Kimberly-

“I love pleasing a man. I love hearing him moan. I love being in control of his pleasure. I love insisting that he relax and let me do this! I love the feeling of him inside of me. I love feeling him grow as he becomes more excited! I love the intimate connection that we form”-Lisa- 

"It's the hottest thing ever when a guy is moaning in bliss and throbbing in your mouth. There's nothing like it."-Renae-

"I love hearing a man moan and cum because of what I'm doing to him...but the moans are the best part. It sucks when a man isn't vocal."-Olivia-

"The moaning. There is nothing...and I tell you, NOTHING better than hearing a man genuinely moan. Not that fake porn shit. Sucking dick is pretty addictive because it is quite empowering. "I also enjoy the feeling of a man 'burst' in my mouth. I can literally feel the throbbing as he cums. It's just so great!!!"-Ivy-

DON’T BE ASHAMED OF SWALLOWING CUM

“Would you rather get a blowjob from a girl who swallows your cum or from a girl who doesn’t do it?” Hint Hint, he wants you to swallow... It’s ruining his orgasm and connection to you, he's being tempted by other women who will do what you won't...

Spermatophobia refers to the condition of having an abnormal, extreme, and persistent fear of sperm. And let me tell you something sister, if you’re afraid of getting splashed or better yet tasting his orgasm the same way he tastes yours… there’s gonna be problems… Serious Trust problems…Practice slowly, refer to the link for help.

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO HAVE SAME SEX ATTRACTIONS



If you haven’t done so already please read our same sex attraction posts explaining the erroneous application of Christian condemnation of this practice. It’s been proven upwards of 93% of women have same sex inklings and attractions to other females. I get off weekly from watching girl on girl, I ADMIT IT.

DON’T BE ASHAMED TO HAVE A KINKY SEX LIFE ON A WEEKLY BASIS( Get a clitoral piercing)

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   “The best thing about having a pierced clitoris is the constant arousal you feel, all throughout the day. It’s something that will keep me happy even in the most boring situations…”-Rebecca-
• “I love my clitoris piercing because it makes my vagina much easier to stimulate. Guys don’t have to work as hard to bring me insane amounts of pleasure.”-Tina-
•  “The best thing about having a clitoris piercing is how much better oral sex is. If you though having a guy go down on you was good before, wait till you get your clitoris pierced…”-Becca-

• “I actually never was able to get a orgasm from penetrative sex… But that was before i got my clitoris pierced… Now it’s so easy to get an orgasm.”-Jessie-
• “I used to be terrible at flirting with guys. But ever since I’ve gotten my clitoris pierced, I feel this constant wave of sexiness that makes flirting with guys as easy as pie…”-Gianna-

• “Ladies, if you’ve never had multiple orgasms before, you’re missing out. I was in the same boat, until I got my clitoris pierced.”-Stephanie-

WHAT IT COMES DOWN TO IS MEN NEED THE THINGS ON THIS LIST TO ENJOY SEX, THEY WANT YOU TO BE HIS PRINCESS IN PUBLIC, YET HIS FREAK IN THE SHEETS IN THE BEDROOM (AND ELSEWHERE).
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So What's the Appeal of a MILF?

So whats the big appeal of a 22-45 year old woman who has children, who at times can be a total mess juggling children, errands, and barely managing to maintain her sanity?

The look:

The bod:

The experience

The desperation for a good hard fuck

We crave attention

We want to give pleasure as much as we want to receive it.

 Here’s the thing, a lot of us as wives think to ourselves “I’m amazing in bed, he’s so happy, we have sex more than enough (once a month or less) to keep him happy and our marriage strong”.

The sad truth is most husbands will tell a far dramatically different story… “She’s a prude”, “She rarely ever goes down on me, and when she does it’s for a minute or two”, “She‘s lazy in bed, puts no effort into keeping sex fun”, “She doesn’t even begin to satisfy me in bed”. “She’s sexually starving me”. You’re a prude, you just don’t realize it…

So If you're wondering if you're a prude or not try asking yourself these questions:

Have you ever had sex in a car? Then you haven’t ever had a bf/gf sexual experince

Have you ever had sex in public? Then you aren't exciting enough for him.

Have you ever given him a random I love you blowjob? Then you simply don't understand his needs.

Have you ever surprised him out of the blue wearing lingerie? Then you lack effort.

Have you ever watched porn alone? Then you are religiously traumatized.

Have you ever masturbated with a dildo? Then you don't know how to please yourself.

Have you ever talked so dirty it would make your momma blush? Then his mind is on other girls.

Have you ever been fucked so hard you couldn’t walk straight the next day? Then you haven't fucked.

Have you ever flashed your breasts while out in public? Then you fear others above him.

Have you ever begged him to cum on your face? Then you lack connection to him.

Have you ever swallowed his cum? Then you don't deeply love him.

Have you ever made out with more than 1 guy in a day? Then you're inexperienced.

Have you ever fantasized about a threesome? Then you can't ever hope to please him.

Have you ever sexted him? Then you don't know how to flirt.

Have you ever sent him nude photos? Then you don't care to impress him.

Have you ever tried anal or a plug? Then your a coward.

Have you ever roleplayed to each other’s fantasies? Then you have no imagination.

Have you ever been tempted to share him with your friend? Then your robbing each other.

Have you ever moaned like a pornstar while he banged you? Then he hasn't become addicted.

Have you ever had sex for longer than 3 hours? Then you haven't ever made love.

When it comes down to it we need to be asking our men what they want and need in bed. We think we’re rocking their world, when in reality they’d rather be banging the bimbo down the street who actually puts in the work to maintain her MILF status, who goes above and beyond to satisfy the guy she loves. Are you a prude, are you a MILF slutty wife? The choice is yours, but you know what he needs to be 50% happier in life and in marriage…

 

 

 

NOW DONT THINK WE'D NOT COVER THE DOUBLE STANDARD GENTLEMEN ;) WHAT DO WOMEN LOVE ABOUT DILF's?

Now we’ve had MILFs and cougars, what about us guys? If women are able to transform themselves from sex kittens to cougars via the right wardrobe and a little light flirting with their offspring’s male friends, what term does the more mature man have on which to pin his identity?

Dads become DILFs when they embrace fatherhood, when they strap on the shearling and calfskin papoose, and when they give up Sunday-morning hangovers in favour of swing-pushing sessions. The pre-DILF dad used to pilot his kid’s pram around the park using an uninterested one-handed grip, walking on the off-side of the vehicle, free hand shoved into his pocket, giving the impression that he would rather be anywhere else. Why? Well, fatherhood used to scare a man. It meant that one chapter of his life (his youth – AKA fun) would close and another (the rest of his life – responsibility, domesticity, prudence and maturity) would take over. He dreads It. The pre-DILF didn’t realise that being a dad, being a responsible and mature grown man, could be entertaining, fulfilling, rewarding – and devastatingly attractive.

A DILF is easy to spot,his sweater game is untouchable. The faintest whisper of chilly weather comes around and he has every kind of stylish-yet-masculine sweater he could ever need.

He has an innate talent when it comes to both little kids and small animals. He just has this calming, open presence that lets small things know he is okay to crawl all over. He is liable to be found on the carpet at Christmas, being jumped on by a few nieces and nephews, and probably the family puppy. And he is totally game for it.

When it comes to holding babies, he is very careful, but always good at it. (And damn, does he ever look good with a tiny baby in his arms.)

His ability to grow a little scruff is second to none, and somehow he looks even more dignified with a little five o’clock shadow going on.

One of his signature looks is “it’s the end of a long day at work, so I’m rolling up the sleeves of my conservative button-down shirt to relax for a nice drink or meal.”

He is always good about calming you down and giving you a little pep talk when you’re getting too much in your head. He has this disposition that puts people at ease, and if he can handle some of your more consuming freak outs, he’ll be a natural when it comes to helping a kid with their scrapes and boo boos.

He is totally comfortable in his skin and confident with who he is. He doesn’t mind holding your purse or wearing a pink sweater or (eventually, you imagine) carrying a little girl’s Barbie backpack around all day so she can go play.

He is very good about doing little chores, and can pick up after himself. When kids come around and are making a mess, you know he’ll be there to get crayon portraits off the wall and get the dirty dishes out of the sink.

He is at ease in the kitchen, and even if he’s not a good cook himself, is always down to help you prepare or chop something.

Overall, he has a joy and appreciation for life that in some ways reminds you of a child. He is happy and optimistic (and can often make you see the brighter side of things).



Have you ever seen a woman flustered? She has the look of lust, animalistic desire? That's what a DILF can do to a woman looking for a strong man.

Not to mention how he can instantly turn her from laughing and happy to horny and wet by just a quick kiss in the right spot ;)

Not to mention we melt the second his cock springs out of his pants ;)

A DILF knows how to put his woman first, its all about her pleasure before he gets his

A DILF knows how to be vocal and expressive

A DILF can be gentle as a prince, or rough as an animal, depending on how she likes it.

A DILF isn't afraid to allow her the freedom to experience new things sexually

A DILF is the man I'm married to ;) Love you boo!!