THE RULES TO GAINING AND MAINTATINING A SEX DRIVE FOR WOMEN:

WHY IS THE FEMALE BRAIN OUR #1 TOOL IN BECOMING HORNY OFTEN?

When it comes to the female libido most women raised in religious settings have a hard time understanding what it takes to gain and keep our own sexual interest. How do I become interested sexually? How do I maintain my sex drive when I'm in a long term relationship? What am I supposed to be doing to have a libido that matches my husband? All can be easily addressed when we examine the female mind, which is our greatest and most valuable tool to staying horny.

We've all been there... "Why don't I want sex anymore?", "I want to want it, I enjoy it, but I just don't anymore". These are common things we as women all experience at one point or another, we all have our own reasoning or excuses about why we have chosen to ignore the most important aspect of our marriage, but whatever the reasoning its important we understand how the female brain is the most important thing we need to understand and use in order to have a desire to be intimate together. Studies have shown that sex literally helps a woman fall in love with a man (spouse or not), so ladies if your not getting it on, chances are you wont stay in love for long with out it...

THE RULES OF THE FEMALE BRAIN:

RULE # 1: OUR MIND IS OUR BEST FREIND, AND WORST ENEMY... DE-STRESS!!!

Our minds are often overwhelmed, lets just admit it... The first step in wanting to be more intimate is understanding that sex is important, without this foundation all other advice is meaningless. Once we understand sex is vital to our marriage we then start the process of tearing down the mental walls we've built over the years that are preventing us from wanting to connect deeper with our spouse.

STRESS

Stress is something we cant avoid, it plagues our lives daily, but what we can control is how much we let it influence us and how we feel. There are many ways to de-stress and clear our minds and spouses or parents, including:

KEEPING OUR HOME CLEAN:

MAINTAINING A SENSUAL BEDROOM:

YOGA:

EXERCISE:

SHOWERING DAILY:

HAVING A HOBBY (DAILY):

HAVING 1 DAY A WEEK FOR ME TIME:

I've found for myself doing these simple things helps me to maintain my sanity with a few children, Keeping my home clean helps minimize depression, Yoga clears my mind, Exercise gives me a release to take out my anger/stress, Showering helps give me a healthy outlook of life and my day, Doing things that make me happy daily and once a week me time helps me to remember that I am an individual, not just a spouse/parent. The most important part is the bedroom though! No couple can ever hope to have a healthy sex life if there's dirty clothes, garbage, smelly socks, baby toys, pictures of parents, etc. laying about the bedroom... Your bedroom MUST BE your sanctuary as a couple, it is your temple, clothing should be put away, trash should be gone, pictures should be of you two only, make the bed daily, minimize clutter, have sensual candles or candle warmers on daily in here. Doing this one thing not only helps me clear my mind at the end of every day, but allows me to focus on me and my man solely.

RULE # 2: PUT SEX ON THE BRAIN... OUT OF SIGHT=OUT OF MIND... AKA YOU NEED TO BE FANTASIZING 30 MINUTES DAILY.

I'll be the first to admit, if I don't write things down I forget to do it, out of sight = out of mind... When we don't think about, view, or practice sexual things we'll never actually end up doing them for real. Prepping the female mind is as important as gas is for a car, women who refuel daily have little to no chance of not ever feeling horny (AKA if you make time to be sexual on your own time, you will make time to be sexual with your husband).

DOING SEXUAL THINGS INCLUDES:

MASTURBATION 2-3 TIMES PER WEEK:
WATCHING A EROTIC VIDEO ALONE:
READING AN EROTIC STORY:
PRACTICING SEXY MOVES IN THE MIRROR
SEXTING WHILE HE'S AWAY
CREATING A SEX PLAN FOR WHEN HE GETS HOME
READING A SEX BLOG OR ARTICLE
WEAR SEXY CLOTHING AT HOME OR IN PUBLIC
CHECK OUT THE HOT YOUNG STUD WE SEE RANDOMLY
FANTASIZE, FANTASIZE, FANTASIZE
LOOK AT TUMBLR ON GOOGLE (RANKED #1 SEX EROTICA FOR WOMEN)

It really is so simple, those who make time in practicing sexual things end up being sexual every 2-3 days with their spouse. We discuss many of these in great detail in other articles, but in summary its easy to take our sexual interest up from 5% to 200% simply by doing these things often. Masturbating often is a must, plain and simple. Watching an erotic video online or in your bedroom is a sure way to make you feel horny, as will reading an erotic novel. Practicing or planning sex gets our mind moving and warms us up with naughty thoughts, as will checking out other guys (if your guy approves of course). Also learning to dress sexy will help you gain confidence and love your body the way we need to, until I let myself be sexy I could never feel sexy. I highly encourage you to read the modesty article associated with this issue.

RULE #3: TAKE CARE OF OUR BODIES BY EATING WELL AND EXERCISING DAILY

How many of us have ever felt sluggish at the end of the day, or even look in the mirror and hate what we see because we've let ourselves go? Our body image and shape has huge implications on how we view and treat sex, women who don't exercise daily always tend to lack energy to have sex, and feel bad about how they look, which is deadly to any libido... Ways to increase our body's health/sex drive include:

EXERCISE
YOGA
KEGELS
STRENGTH TRAINING
CARDIO
EATING HEALTHY

We all know by now exercise is a must, but most women don't realize certain types of activities can benefit us in specific ways! Strength training for example increases our testosterone, which is usually out of balance in women, leading to no desire at all! Cardio helps us keep our bodies full of energy (and looking hot), Yoga helps our flexibility as well as mental health, Kegels as discussed in other articles is Essential to a happy and strong vagina where blood flows more (aka you're naturally hornier), And by now hopefully we all know diet helps us with weight and overall energy.

RULE #4: USE SEXUAL AIDS

Sexual aids come in many forms, such as:

CHOCOLATE
RED WINE
FEMALE PILLS
EROTICA
TOYS
CLOTHING
SLEEPING NAKED OCCASIONALY

Clothing that fits tightly and compliments our body helps us feel good about ourselves and allows comfort in flaunting ourselves sexually, toys are must! erotica is my best friend, I use it daily either reading short stories, or watching a romantic erotic video clip online, but most important is the chocolate and wine factor. Chocolate is our best friend, it helps us feel happy, and as for wine one reader posts "The day I had my first glass of red wine my libido went from 0% to 10,000% in only an hour, it immediately makes me gushing wet and ready to practically beg him to fuck my brains out, since I've made it a daily habit to have 1 glass and I actually want more sex than he does". I can attest to the same, RED WINE IS A MUST FOR EVERY WOMAN LACKING SEXUAL DESIRE.

RULE #5: RELIGION HAS NO PLACE IN THE BEDROOM

I wont discus this one in detail, but I would refer you to our "Religion" blog post discussing how religious teachings can single handedly destroy our sex drives. Simply put, RELIGIOUS LEADERS OR CHURCH IN GENERAL SHOULD HAVE NO INFLUENCE ON ANYHTING AND EVERYTHING SEXUAL IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP. The catholic church sadly shamed every aspect of sex hundreds of years ago, and since all of Christianity comes from Catholicism they naturally copied this. Fortunately the church has since admitted to its lies of changing doctrine and now recognizes sex as good. Sadly the rest of Christianity has yet to stop practicing the lies of Catholicism.

RULE #6: THE BEST MIND ENGAGING SEX COMES FROM SEDUCTION & FOREPLAY, NOT SEX

In my sexperience the best sexual memories I've had aren't even of us having sex! its the seduction, the flirting, the sexy moves, noises, circumstances, the shock, the awe, the moans, the lust of a passionate makeout. Women who enjoy sex understand they should practice and encourage their man to practice things like:

FLIRTING
SEDUCTION
TEASING
KISSING
ORAL SKILLS
TOUCHING SKILLS
SEXY SUPRISES
ANYTHING LEADING UP TO SEX

RULE #7: SEX NEEDS TO BE FUN, NEW, DIFFERENT, SPONTANIOUS

Anyone who's ever been in a long term relationship can testify that if you don't change it up sex life gets dull. Improve things like:

NEW POSITIONS
NEW SEDUCTION TECHNIQUES
NEW KISSING,TOUCHING,THRUSTING,OR ORAL MOVES
ROLEPLAY
BUCKET LIST FANTASIES
BONDAGE
VOCALNESS
ENTHUSIASM
SHOCKING & JAW DROPPING
FUN

RULE #8: YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR SEXUAL DESIRE, NOT HIM

Most importantly, you must realize your sex drive, your orgasm, your sexual enjoyment IS NOT HIS RESPONSIBILITY (although he will try to help you), your sex drive and enjoyment is determined by how much you put into it.