HOW PORN SAVED OUR MARRIAGE, YES... PORN

As I’ve mentioned before, I’ve always been a good girl, I play by the rules, I have high moral values, I live a Christian life style, but honestly how we saved our marriage was through one of the most unlikely tools of all… PORN… now I know what you’re thinking, porn is disgusting, women with oversized fake breasts, screaming at the top of their lungs while some disgusting hairy fat guy slams his gut into them as hard as he can, and yes, at times your correct(sort of). So much of porn from ages past was despicable, disgusting, even down right barbaric, but when a local friend who serves as a Christian marriage counselor suggested we use porn as a tool to better teach each other what we like, and enhance our lackluster sexuality, we reluctantly investigated.

 

For the last 2 decades religion and scientists have warned about solo porn use and the damage it causes, to both relationships and the brain, BUT GUESS WHAT HAPPENS when researchers studied couples who used it together openly and honestly? FIREWORKS! no negative harm to the brain, no damage in the relationships, sex drives increased ten fold, couples came closer together in and out of the bedroom. IN ESSENCE, PORN MAGNIFIED AND BETTERED EACH AND EVERY RELATIONSHIP!

To our pleasant surprise, much of todays modern videos are meant for couples, containing instructional videos, romantic scenarios based on realistic couples such as ourselves, showing scenes of positions, seduction techniques, locations to do it in, and so forth. Accompanied by actors who truly acted as if they loved and cared for each other helped us overcome the rightfully negative stigmas that so often affect porns reputation.

We started with simple videos, illustrating different positions, oral techniques, and eventually moved on to couples scenarios, one of my favorite being the roleplaying games (which I should probably discus soon in another post). Ultimately through porn we were both able to find out more about the opposite sex, what they enjoy, what we can do to please them, and what we like personally.

Never before had we understood each others turn ons so clearly, it was as if an invisible wall or barrier fell to the ground and allowed us to unleash a new wave of sexual skills upon each other night after night. over the past year we've downloaded Googles 110 short videos to better sex, each of which has brought new insight to our sex life.

While this solution may seem a bit extreme to many Christians today, I understand their concern, and it is valid, however when approached together todays modern pornographic media has the ability to open new doors to each and every couple. It did for us!

 

Research shows that couples who watch porn together at least once a week reported being more committed and sexually satisfied than those who watched porn together less frequently or not at all. Fifty-eight percent of women who watched porn with a partner said that it had a positive effect on their sex life, and more than half said it has given them the confidence to ask for what they want in bed.

 

When you watch porn more often you watch videos of various categories of course for a change. And when you go for different videos you get to know many things that you might never have heard or seen. Few things about sex could make you aware giving you ample knowledge of sexual intimacy

ADDED BONUSES INCLUDE:

 

It’s a great conversation starter
Always had that one, slightly kinky fantasy you’d been dying to try out with your guy but didn’t quite know how to bring it up? Well pop on some example porn and test the waters. See how he reacts to the idea of this fantasy and if he seems to be enjoying it, start the conversation about maybe trying it out sometime.
It’s a great way to experiment with new positions
“Hmm, that position looks…interesting. Wanna try?” No sweeter words will ever be heard by your guy. In all honesty, even if you guys fail miserably at pulling it off, you are likely to get a lot of good laughs from it and some memories you’ll still be able to slyly joke about with one another for many years to come.
It makes for some of the easiest foreplay
Wanna get turned on and quickly? Turn on a little porn. We are naturally visual people – it takes a strong person to watch some of the most basic sex scenes in film and not get a little turned on, so to ask someone to watch full out porn and not feel anything….that’d be a miracle. Use it to your advantage and his.
It can help you be real with him
Let’s be honest, some dudes just don’t get that we can’t have an orgasm in 3.5 seconds like the chicks in the porn flicks they’ve been watching since puberty. Watching porn with him gives you the ability to point out some of the blazing inaccuracies that porn has, and to point out when they’re actually doing it right.
Your will definitely masturbate after watching porn
which is the solo reason of pornography. Masturbation reduces stress and induces great sleep which helps you to get more relaxed and re-energized


Your fantasies about your favourite sex moves and sex desires will be explored once you start watching porn films. You gradually find out what you actually crave for or what could give you hard orgasm and satisfaction.
So, ladies (and men) never be ashamed of watching porn and enjoy porn movies with no guilt at all and never worry about what others will think. It’s perfectly fine to watch porn. With so much benefits and relationship advantages couples, and definitely women should watch porn.


We've all heard prudes make excuses such as "Guys shouldn't watch porn because it creates unrealistic expectations for their women", Well then, by those same standards "Us women shouldn't watch romance movies because those guys don't exist and it creates unrealistic expectations for men"... The point is we watch it not because it is what we fully expect from our partner, but because it makes us feel good, and can help teach our partner about things we like to enhance our relationship!

 

Make Porn Work for You

Figuring out what you’re into through porn is actually quite easy, there are only a few steps, and none of them are hard (but the dicks/phallic objects are). The only semi-difficult thing about using porn to personalize your sex life, is that it might take some time to explore what’s out there. There are a lot of different folks and they all have different strokes!

The Steps:

1. Keep an open mind! I’m serious. I’m into some weird shit (or some non-traditional shit, I should say, because I don’t believe in kink shaming). This process might show you that you’re really into anal when previously you thought it was disgusting. It happens and it’s okay. It means nothing about you as a person, and you might actually end up changing your mind about what you’re comfortable with. Also, keep in mind, it can be interesting to explore kinks or themes you don’t understand the attraction of. I watched midget porn once because I didn’t understand what that fascination was about (I still don’t, but I can say that I’ve tried).
2. Categories are your friends: Start in a category you’re comfortable with and watch some videos, then branch out in that category to things you didn’t watch at first. Once you’ve acclimated yourself to that, choose some common themes and hop on over to that category. The important thing is to keep changing categories!
3. Know/Learn your limits: If you find something you really don’t like, you don’t have to keep trying – knowing something you don’t like might get you closer to the things you do like!
4. Use the features! Pornhub (the site I use, but is in no way sponsoring this post) will sh0w you what porn stars are in the film, what channel that video came from, and related videos. This is how you can find things you really like! If I accidentally pick a video I’m not super into, I always try the related videos first before doing an entirely new search and it works about 90% of the time. Ditto if you think one porn star or another is really hot!
5. Keep trying! This takes time. The things we like can change, can turn out to actually not be something we like at all, or can just be plain old hard to figure out. Don’t get discouraged, I promise you’ll find your niche with lots of practice!
6. Communicate: Once you find something you like, let your partner know (eventually, or if you ever choose to have one). Personally, I like to begin new sexual relationships by trading links to porn videos we like, so that we’re able to see what the other is into. Not only is it hot, you can also learn something new and find things you have in common with potential partners.
7. CONNECT WHILE YOU WATCH: it isn't about replacing your partner, its about getting to know each other through the process. Watch each others reactions, touch them, talk with them and ask about what they like and dislike.
8. DONT COMPARE YOURSELF TO THE ACTORS/ACTRESSES: the biggest mistake men and women make are thinking things like " my spouse wont be attracted to me as much because the actors are super fit, have big breasts. penis, etc. All people when they watch erotic videos don't watch with the intent of replacing their lover, if anything they are simply looking to add some skills, warm each other up, and open our minds to new, fun things.

 

So how do you pick a porn that won’t send one of you screaming for the hills? As with most things in a relationship, the key is to communicate with your partner and figure out what sort of skin flick will get the two of you raring to go. There are plenty of films that market themselves as good picks for couples, with scenes that they swear will be sure to guarantee a romantic night in. Don’t make the mistake of letting a marketing department make your decision for you. Just like the best diet is the one that works for you, the best porn for couples is the porn that both of you want to watch. That porn might have good acting and an elaborate plot; but maybe it’s just twenty straight minutes of up close shots of genitals rubbing against one another. As long as you’re both turned on, it doesn’t matter whether the film is actually marketed as “couples friendly.”

 

 

10 Good Reasons Why Women Should Watch Porn

 

 Porn is no longer a hush-hush subject for women. Here’s why watching the right smutty videos can be beneficial for women in a variety of ways.

 

Gone are the days when porn was taboo, and masturbation was an unspoken thing, especially for women. While porn can sometimes be seen as intended for men, women are watching more porn now than they ever have. If you’d notice, there are now some increasingly popular sites that cater more to women’s tastes.

So for those women who are afraid of watching unrealistic, multi-orgasmic women with huge fake breasts being pounded by overly muscular men, you now have more sensual and romantic options to choose from such as Passion HD and X-Art. [

Porn can be an incredible tool for improving your sexual satisfaction, both by yourself and with a potential partner. It can help you delve deeper into your own sexuality, learn more about the opposite sex, and discover new things that you never even knew you liked in bed.

 

Why you should try watching porn

If you are not yet one of the sexually savvy, independent females who already watch porn, here are 10 reasons why you might want to start:

 

#1 To know your body. One of the biggest reasons to watch porn is to get to know your own body better on so many different levels. You will get a better understanding of what your body is fully capable of and what you like when it comes to sex. Some women never get to understand what their own body is able to experience sexually, simply because they haven’t seen it firsthand. This is where porn can be a helpful means of getting to know your body on a deeper level, and have more appreciation for what it can do. Simply having sex doesn’t give you an outside perspective on the act, and sometimes, it lacks the visual stimulation to get you aroused. Porn can help you to discover hidden sensations and spots that you don’t even realize are there.

#2 To discover more about yourself. In addition to learning more about your body, you will also be able to experiment with pleasuring different spots and establishing new techniques for having a mind-blowing orgasm. You will also discover new aspects of your sexuality, new positions, and get a better idea of what turns you on the most.You might even be surprised to find some new fetishes that you never even knew you liked, until you see it played out in front of you. There is a whole world of sexuality to explore that could help you get more in tune with yourself as a result.
#3 To pick up some new tricks. Porn is one of the best ways to learn new tricks to try with a partner that will enhance the pleasure for the both of you. Not only will these tricks benefit your partner, but you can also learn new ways of pleasuring yourself with or without toys to achieve different levels of arousal.If your sex life is suffering from monotony, porn can help spice things up under the sheets. Even watching porn with your partner is a way to get the fire started and make for a more intense lovemaking session. Just always keep in mind that the people in porn are actors, and that they may slightly exaggerate how much pleasure can be gleaned from certain acts.

 

#4 To get turned on. Porn can help get you turned on and increase lubrication to prepare you for sex. It can be a great prelude to sex, helping to open up your mind to fantasy, and build up your arousal to enjoy sex even more. This can help when your partner wants to have sex, but you just don’t feel in the mood, as porn can be the perfect way to ignite that flame.

 

#5 To relieve stress. Self-pleasuring while watching porn can be a great stress reliever after a tough day. It also helps if you haven’t had any action lately and need to get rid of some of that pent up sexual frustration. Having an orgasm naturally relaxes your body and provides much-needed release. Porn is also helpful when you are having trouble getting aroused on your own, and you need a visual aid prior to stimulation.

#6 To keep your engine running. Even when you don’t have a sex partner, it helps to keep the blood flowing, so you don’t go into a state of sexual regression. Sometimes, going too long without sex can cause you to become so sexually repressed that you ignore your basic sexual needs. You might even begin to express your frustration in different unhealthy ways. Watching porn can help to keep you aroused, excitable, and serves as proof that your female parts are still working as they should. Your vagina is a muscle after all, so consider it a form of exercising your sexual muscles.
#7 To know how to take care of yourself without a partner. It has to be one of the most liberating discoveries when you first come to the realization that you can get yourself off without a partner. It’s that independent woman mentality that keeps you on top of your game, and serves as a reminder that you don’t need a partner *even if you want one*, because you can still orgasm without one.

 

#8 To feel sexier. There’s just something about porn that makes a woman feel sexier, her secret romps under the covers make her feel like a more covetable sex goddess when she is actually having sex. Watching porn can boost your confidence and can show a potential partner that you have mastered your body. You will come across as a woman who knows exactly what she wants, and knows how to get it.

 

#9 To learn more about the opposite sex. Porn is like an instructional video on how to pleasure the opposite sex or the same sex, if applicable. It can open up your eyes to new ways to please your partner and keep them satisfied within your sexual relationship.You can learn about your partner’s body in a way that will prepare you to take what you’ve learned and apply it in the bedroom. Some people who watch porn secretly wish that their partner would do the same, in order to learn new ways to enhance their sexual experiences.

#10 To gain insight about sex in general. Porn is like a world of possibilities waiting to be explored. Learning about your own body, your partner’s body, and other aspects of the sexual experience can be liberating and spark your interest in new things. Some women never get a chance to experience all of the different pleasures that sex has to offer, and therefore, never realize what their own body is capable of. When learning about other techniques, types of sex, taboo subjects, and so forth, you are also learning about how other people in the world have sex.

The internet is filled with tons of porn that caters to every preference. Whether you want to go with soft core or hard core, romantic or primal, masturbation or a full-on orgy, there’s sure to be a pornographic video out there that will fulfill your needs!

 

Here’s a few criteria that can help you narrow your selection down a bit.

SAFE WEBSITES FOR COUPLES & WOMEN: Pornhub, X-Videos, Spankbang

Good Topics For Couples & Women:

 Top video categories for women include: X-Art, Passion HD, Erotica X, TUMBLR!!!!!! (my personal favorite, just search google for tumblr with a topic: (Ex: porn for women tumblr, Pussy licking tumblr, big penis sex tumblr, ffm threesome tumblr, etc.)

• Amateur
• Milf
• Squirt
• Ffm
• Mfm
• Big penis
• Swap
• Hotwife/cuckold
• BJ / deep throat
• Pussy lick
• Solo mastur
• Lesbian
• Tied up
• Blindfold
• Gangbang
• Roleplay (school, office, doctor, etc.)
• Dildo
• Cum/ swallow / facial
• Sex positions

For so many women erotic videos have been a taboo subject, with many of us being too shy to admit the subjects we like, recent research showed many women have preferences, favorite actors, topics, etc.

Notice something? Lesbian videos are the top viewed films among all women?! Why is that? Here are some reasons: 

#1 It’s something foreign to them.

#2 They want a taste of the “forbidden” fruit.

#3 It’s a way for them to live out their fantasies.

#4 Two – or more – is better than one.

#5 They can learn a thing or two to teach their spouse.

#6 It appeals to their senses more.

#7 It’s less degrading.

#8 They feel extra naughty watching it

Biblically we know that lesbian and gay marriage are banned in gods eyes, but as for lesbian and gay sex it is not banned, for even god commended the lesbian prophet Ruth in the bible for taking on a new lesbian lover. I dipped my toe verrrry slowly into female on female videos... I was shocked at how much I loved them, the way women kiss, touch, smell, flirt, use foreplay, caress, hold, cuddle, moan, etc, all blew my mind away! these are the things I wanted during sex! it was only by watching this type of erotic film that I was bale to embrace my own sexuality, and teach my man how to touch me the way I wanted. LESBIAN SEX ED IS A MUST FOR EVERY WIFE!

A very christain reader recently commented to us about his wifes experience with female erotica, saying:

I found out my wife watches porn. Why? She’s always up for sex.
—Daryl from Peoria, Illinois

"My wife over the past 3 months has changed, and changed for the better at that. A once prude and sexless being had somehow turned into a daily sex freak who pounced on me every single day (if not more). How had this transformation happened? Female erotica... At first I was angry and shocked she would engage in such media, but after a long talk with a friend who was a professional counselor he helped me see why she should continue to do it.

"Solo sex lets her be selfish: She doesn’t have to worry about reciprocating oral or climbing on top or explaining that her sweet spot is 4 millimeters north of where you’re focusing. She can just lay back and let Tumblr and her vibrator do the work. As long as you two are still having sex with each other, I wouldn’t worry that she takes matters into her own hands every now and then. (If you’re not having as much sex as you’d like. Her X-rated habit may even be good for your relationship: New Canadian research finds that some couples who watch porn end up experimenting more in the bedroom. If you’re that sore about being excluded from the occasional party, try gently ribbing her about her dirty browser history. Say something like, “Threesomes, eh?” with a knowing wink. 

Then let her know that you’re always game to take over for the Magic Wand. " 

Erotica had literally saved our sex life, a once sexless being had become a new person that I so dearly love, our intimate relationship in the bedroom has made our normal relationship outside of the bedroom ten times better! We now watch couples videos, female videos, together, and she watches it from time to time alone to keep her desire as high as possible. Porn really did save our marriage."

PORN SAVED OUR MARRIAGE, PORN SAVED MY SEX DRIVE, PORN IF USED WISELY AND TOGETHER CAN MAKE YOUR FAMILY WHOLE, AND YOUR LOVE GROW EXPONENTIALLY.