The 13 Types of Orgasms — What They Are & How To Have Them

 

Are you satisfied with your sex life? As a sex-positive, intersectional feminist and sexologist, I hate hearing that people aren't having great sex or aren't experiencing enough full-bodied pleasure in the act. We deserve to have regular orgasms. Although many of us are still learning, debating, and practicing (the best part), what's essential is understanding that we are all capable of experiencing orgasm in a variety of different ways.

No more one and done! THE RULES TO MULTIPLE O'S

"The average woman is built to come again and again," says Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, coauthor of The Multi-Orgasmic Woman. Meaning that once you've mastered that first peak, the climb to the next one is absolutely obtainable. "Women don't require a refractory period like men do, so we're able to stay aroused for longer and have an orgasm a second and third time with little effort," says Dr. Abrams.

Of course, sometimes just having a single full-body earthquake offers one hundred percent sack-satisfaction, and some of you might feel like calling it a night after your usual one-timer. That's fine. After all, having the option is the key to a smokin' sex life. However, for those times when you can't get enough of the good stuff, simply take these moregasm tips to heart (and to bed) and discover how to double your fun.

The first step in plural peaking: Tune in to the mind-body connection. If you go into a sex with limited expectations of your orgasm, you'll actually cause your body to limit its pleasure responses. In other words, if you assume you can only come once during intercourse...you will. Many women have numb vaginas because they mentally deep down think sex is wrong, boring, or for men, these women wont ever feel pleasure vaginally until they lose themselves in passionate love and learn to love sex.


Secondly, consider this your ultimate down-there workout motivator: Strong PC (pubococcygeus) muscles have been demonstrated to be a crucial component to having multiples, says Beverly Whipple, PhD, coauthor of The G Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality. (Remember, when they're not making you moan, these Kegel muscles — which surround the vaginal canal — are the ones that enable you to withhold urine.) "Since your orgasm is essentially an intense contraction of your PC and pelvic floor muscles, strengthening them increases blood flow to the area and enables you to experience a deeper pleasure sensation and a repeated series of pulses," says Laura Berman, PhD, author of The Passion Prescription. The biggest weakness in women and why they cant have multiple O's is because their pelvis and vagina is weak... If he's encouraging you to do PC exercises take the hint, he wants to give you mind blowing orgasms!

Now that you're naked (and in the right mind-set), take the heavy lifting out of your first peak. To do that, point your man south. "For most women, clitoral stimulation from oral sex is the easiest way for them to climax," says Dr. Abrams. "And having your guy help you get there before intercourse means that your body will be geared up to come again and respond to the added vaginal stimulation during sex, rather than still struggling to orgasm for the first time."

Once you come for the first time, you're probably in the habit of pulling away from him because you're so sensitive to his touch. And rightly so: "After an orgasm, a lot of nerve pathways have been stimulated, and there's been a tremendous surge in blood flow," says Whipple. "So it's completely natural for some women to want to take a break from stimulation in those moments immediately following."

But here's the difference between a sack session that finishes here with a happy ending and one that continues on to multiple peaks: If you fall into a stupefied pleasure coma, you're done. If you resume touching an area that is not hypersensitive, you bring it on.

To do it, "give the vaginal area a break for a minute, and have your partner suck your fingers, kiss you or caress your breasts," says Dr. Abrams. "The stroking in other regions will keep your nerves and sensual energy on high alert while your nether regions cool off just enough to take his caresses all over again."

BUT... The # 1 rule to experiencing vaginal/multiple orgasms? Go Sol-O

Masturbation is the key to your sexuality as a woman, how can he possibly please you, hit the right spots, or thrust at the right angles if you don't knwo how to hit those spots yourself? weekly masturbation is a must for every wife who wants to be horny and multi orgasmic... perhaps the most crucial step to peaking with a guy. It allows you to feel out your climax triggers and then show them to your man.

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a6131/how-to-have-vaginal-orgasm/

THE KEY TO DIFFERENT ORGASMS...

 

Cue Nicki Minaj. Her Minajesty recently announced that “[she] demand(s) that [she] climaxes” and that every woman should demand the same. She goes on to say that giving and receiving pleasure should be 50/50. Whatever 50/50 looks like to you in any given sexual encounter or experience, that's up to you and your partner to negotiate before, during, and after.

 

Seriously friends: Your body is capable of some of the most intense, satisfying, and healing energy-producing force. An admirable sex expert Lou Paget says that vagina-bearers can experience 10 different types of orgasms, while penis-bearers can have eight. But, I think there are 12.

 

Betty Dodson, the Godmother of Orgasms, has some of the best tips and advice about climaxing. Dodson speaks to the experience of the orgasm via the lens of what it feels like — not just the mechanics of what makes it happen. She says “clitoral and penile orgasms result from stimulation of the pudendal pathway, while orgasms that result from G spot, vaginal, and rectal stimulation often involve the pelvic nerve. Stimulating the pelvic nerve, via the rectum, can also lead to pleasure in some surprising ways.”

 

From healing migraines and relieving stress to soothing pain, boosting your immune system, and giving your body an effective workout, orgasms really are a cure-all.

 

So, let’s take a look at 13 types of orgasms — and how you can achieve them.

The This Isn’t Working Orgasm.

Also known as female blue balls, this type of orgasm is one no woman can avoid. If it hasn't happened yet, it will. It can be caused by stress, lack of focus, or being too eager, and results in you not getting turned on enough to orgasm.

G-SPOT

Some experts say this small, spongy area above the front vaginal wall is a myth. Otherwise known as the Graffenberg spot, it is, according to Lelo, “the most mysterious of erogenous zones. For some, it’s downright mythical, with the big G’s mere existence still subject to ongoing debate. Try telling that to the estimated 30% of women reporting that they achieve their orgasms through penetration alone.”

Exactly. It doesn’t really matter if you believe it or not — what matters is this: If applying pressure to this mysterious area in your body feels fantastic, then go for it.

How to have one? Use a circular “come hither” motion and with applied pressure, and massage the area slowly. Don’t be afraid to get your hands a little wet and maximize orgasmic potential by gently having the labia kissed at the same time.

BREAST & NIPPLE ORGASM

According to a study reported on Science of Relationships, “researchers discovered that stimulation of the nipple activated an area of the brain known as the genital sensory cortex. This is the same brain region activated by stimulation of the clitoris, vagina, and cervix. What this means is that women’s brains seem to process nipple and genital stimulation in the same way.”

So, it IS possible! Sometimes, it’s easy to forget that our brains are actually the biggest sex organ that we have — and their influence on how we experience pleasure on the whole is huge.

LIP KISSING & SUCKING ORGASM

Your lips are packed with closely set nerve endings, classified as a mucocutaneous region of the body similar to the outer vulva, nipples, and clitoris. This means that they have the power to get you aroused.

This type of orgasm requires some time commitment. Slow lip synching, tongue rolling, and teasing are all part of building up your arousal and should, in my opinion, be a part of foreplay all the time, anyway. Achieving orgasm this way requires deep focus, but it can happen. Women who give quality blowjobs also typically comment that they have orgasms while giving head for this reason.

ANAL ORGASM

Yes, your butt. For ALL women, anal intercourse feels fantastic when done gently and correctly.

If you want to try it, use a healthy dose of lube and slowly work your way in and around the anal area, while preparing for penetration. Anal penetration should at first be a slow process, especially if you’re new to the sensation. The tight muscles and thin epithelial cell layer within are subject to tearing, but they are also able to provide you with sensational pleasure. Graduated bead strands are a good starter toy to add to your sex toolbox. My favorite orgasm comes anally, the pressure on the gspot leads to extreme double orgasms at the same time, added with clit stimulation by him and nipple stimulation wits possible to have 4 types of orgasms at once, you’ll be screaming in pleasure!

U-SPOT

The urethra. Yes, the pee hole. Surprised? Well, as Lou Paget states in her educational interviews, the urethra is actually surrounded on three sides by the clitoris. This is because your clitoris is actually a lot bigger than you think it is — it goes three to five inches deep inside you. When your U-spot is stimulated, the erectile tissue surrounding the opening engorges with blood, thus triggering the Skene’s Glands to produce prostatic fluid (the stuff of squirting) and you to become aroused.

A-SPOT

This is your inner vaginal zone, also known as the anterior fornix. Look for it at the front vaginal wall, up towards your belly-button area. Some say it’s a great pressure point because it can be considered as indirect stimulation of the G-Spot — much like the U-Spot and clitoral hood are indirect stimulation of the clitoris itself. This zone is best explored when you’re quite aroused and your muscles are super-relaxed.

DEEP SPOT/CERVICAL

This is also known as the deep-spot orgasm or posterior fornix. It's similar to the A-Spot in that it responds best to pressure, rather than repeated stimulation. Finding this area is the result of deep penetration.

For some vaginas, this area may be quite sensitive and possibly feel painful rather than pleasurable if the pressure is forced. Many people report experiencing intense orgasms with stimulation of this spot; some say it feels a little like anal sex, which makes sense, as the posterior fornix shares the same nerves as your anus. If you can become warmed up enough and wet enough as you relax the cervix becomes touchable and extreme orgasms can occur just by pressure alone, orgasm after orgasm after orgasm is possible ;)

One master quotes "Sexual positioning is important in reaching the posterior fornix. I'm 7.75" fully erect, with no significant curvature (maybe slightly up), and I've been able to consistently reach my GF's posterior fornix in 2 positions. Frontally (face to face), by placing 2 pillows under the small of her back, her ankles on my shoulders, bending her knees back alongside her head (as closely as comfortable for her / she's pretty flexible!), then thrusting deeply over top of her cervix into her posterior fornix".

I have my wife anchored to orgasm when I'm inside her if I push in as deep with my cock as I can and just hold it there. I anchored it by doing this every time she had an orgasm while I was inside her. As soon as I felt the muscle contractions, I would push my cock in as deep as possible and then hold it there in one long, drawn out thrust that never pulls back out until AFTER she cums. Now, if I'm thrusting her and she's even a tiny bit aroused, I don't have to wait around for her to cum naturally from it. I can thrust deep and hold it there without withdrawing back out and she immediately has an orgasm. Give it a try! I find it helps me last longer because I don't need to go so fast and furious to make her gush. I can literally choose the exact point in time that she orgasms...

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Give-Your-Woman-Vaginal-Orgasms-Using-The-Deep-Spot-Method-And-Then-Using-Your-Penis&id=6653207
http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/how-to-have-a-cervical-orgasm

CLITORAL

“You’re much more likely to reach the big O if your partner takes a more leisurely route around this most sensual of areas before honing in on the clitoris itself.”

Almost all of us with clitorises are capable of having a clitoral orgasm, and, in fact, many of us aren’t capable of coming to orgasm via the other styles. This is because the clitoris can be considered the hub of pleasure; that little love button holds the key to numerous bundled nerve endings — approximately 8,000. Compare that to the penis' 4,000.

Whether you're receiving oral sex, applying pressure, or breaking out your favorite pleasure product for a more consistent vibe, clitoral orgasms are definitely ranked as a favorite. Your clitoris is best served with a blend of direct and indirect stimulation; the more you become aroused, the more sensitive and erect it becomes. This is why foreplay is such a big part of the overall pleasure-inducing experience.

ZONE ORGASM

Zone orgasms are ones that are experienced via stimulation of an area that isn’t necessarily thought of as erotic. These are orgasms that are brought on by stimulation of that “special sweet spot.” Areas such the clavicle, nape of the neck, inner thigh, or prostate can lead you to experience a zone orgasm. Zone pleasure is great to explore on your own or with a partner, to see what moves you.

BLENDED

Blended orgasms are when more than one area is being stimulated at the same time. Simple. One hand here, a mouth there, a leg wrapped tightly around and pulling you closer…

Try massaging your nipples and breast tissue while rubbing a vibrator on your vulva, or penetrating your anus while stroking your labia. Sex is about pleasure, connection, and many other wonderful things — but sometimes, sex is also about getting the job done and releasing the sexual energy within your body.

FANTASY/MENTAL

Fantasy/mental orgasms happen because of stimulation of your biggest sex organ: your brain. These orgasms are brought on via intimate thoughts and exploratory fantasies nestled deep within your mind.

Have you ever woken up from a sex dream where you experienced one of the best orgasms you've had in a while? Have you ever fantasized so hard about that babe on the subway that when you get to your office you needed to excuse yourself and spend a couple of minutes alone in the restroom? These are the orgasms that, after some training, can be had just with your thoughts. No touching.

MULTIPLE ORGASMS

Multiple orgasms come in two forms: sequential (one right after the other, with rest time in between) and serial (one right after another).

How to have them? Enticing your body to have multiple orgasms will definitely require some down time for self-exploration. Some of us are hard-wired to have difficulty experiencing even one orgasm, let alone multiple. If this is you, know that you are not alone.

Using a variety of techniques, stimulants, or fantasies is what can bring you to more easily achieve the multi-magic. If multiple orgasms are your goal, then once you've reached your first orgasm, take a second, regroup, breathe, and then try to have another.

I recommend reveling in the rushing endorphins after one orgasm and then reapplying a building pressure to that same spot, whether it be your clitoris that is already erect, your anus, or the walls of your vagina.

http://www.seductionscience.com/lounge/threads/g-spot-multi-orgasms.1038/

 

 

The Fine Art of Penis Thrusting & ONE LAST TIP LADIES TO EXTEND YOUR O'S

Shallow Thrusts

A shallow thrust can be used to heighten a woman's arousal by only putting the head of your penis inside. Shallow thrusts help men last longer because when most men thrust deep, they pull back all the way. The pulling back action can be highly arousing for most men because the head of the penis rubs against the full length of the vagina. The frenulum – located right below the head, is the most sensitive spot of the penis.


Deep Thrusts
The deep thrusts are very arousing for a woman because it pushes all the air out the vagina, creating suction. It also allows you to position your pelvic bone directly onto her clitoral region, allowing her to rub her clitoris against your pelvic bone. How can you combine short and deep thrusts to maximize your lasting power and her arousal? By practicing the ancient technique below.

9 shallow thrusts — 1 deep thrust

8 shallow thrusts — 2 deep thrusts

7 shallow thrusts — 3 deep thrusts

6 shallow thrusts — 4 deep thrusts

5 shallow thrusts — 5 deep thrusts

4 shallow thrusts — 6 deep thrusts

3 shallow thrusts — 7 deep thrusts

2 shallow thrusts — 8 deep thrusts

1 shallow thrusts — 9 deep thrusts

• In addition to depth, you can also vary the direction in which you thrust. Here are a couple of examples:
  
  
  
  
  • Upper Rubbing – Shallow strokes pointing your penis upward to stimulate her G-spot.
  • Lower Rubbing – Angle your penis downward to stimulate the lower part of the vagina.
  In addition to depth and direction you can also vary the speed of thrusts depending on time, place, and pleasure desired from your lover. Combine these techniques with sincere affection and understanding of your partner's pleasure zones to create an incredibly strong and mutually satisfying sexual connection.

Now I never really noticed it before, but apparently, I hold my breath when I get close to orgasm. I didn't even realize I did it until like ten minutes ago. My orgasms were never intense, I just figured they were supposed to be mediocre.

Guys. I noticed that I was holding my breath and decided to try to orgasm and breathe through it.

Major. Game changer.

My orgasm lasted longer and was like 10x stronger and more intense. It took a little more effort to get to that point, but holy shit does it make it so much better. I also noticed if I have multiple while holding my breath, each consecutive one was weaker than the previous. If I breathe through them, they actually maintain most of the intensity as the first one.

So if your orgasms are just kinda "meh", see if you're holding your breath or tensing up too much and try to breathe through them and relax.