ITS ALL IN YOUR HEAD: ENJOYING & CRAVING SEX

MY FELLOW WOMEN-- LISTEN UP!!!

Why is it so hard for us to show our men some love every once and a while?

As young girls we are frequently protected and watched over as "daddy's little girl" all the way until we finish college and move out on our own, during this time we usually live a simple life, pampered of all needs, food, water, shelter, entertainment, etc. Time moves on and we meet a special guy who loves us for who we are and treats us like a goddess, queen, and princess, they open doors for us, buy us fancy gifts, take us on romantic dates, vacations, and so the list goes on. Somewhere along the line our brains are programmed to believe that we are above men when it comes to "giving" and putting in effort" in our relationships. We become numb to the fact that men go above and beyond to meet our EVERY NEED, financially, physically, emotionally, romantically, even sexually when we feel the need.







Sadly that same desire and feeling of needing to give back to the relationship is a difficult one to come by... Sure, we all learn how to be great house keepers, mothers, and parent, but at no point do most women ever recognize that we completely ignore men and their basic needs. We never learn to be support him emotionally, romantically, or sexually. IT ALWAYS HAS BEEN AND ALWAYS WILL BE ABOUT US... Is it any wonder why most men by the time they reach 40 completely ignore or even despise their wife? Is it any wonder that after decades of being denied romance, love, and affection, that they distance themselves from us in every aspect of life? Is it any wonder why they seem like a shell of their former selves? WE DID THIS TO THEM--AND ONLY WE CAN FIX IT!

BUT HOW DO WE MAKE THE COGNATIVE CHOICE TO MAKE THE CHANGE? AND WHAT CHANGES DO WE NEED TO MAKE  TO REGAIN OUR HUSBANDS HEART AND SOUL?

1) ROMANCE & AFFECTION.

When was the last time you surprised him romantically? And I'm not just talking about a nice meal or giving him sex at the end of a date...


Have you ever planned a romantic date for your husband? Maybe planned a weekend getaway where you could either pamper each other or just make out like you did in college? When was the last time you dressed him up and took him out for a nice dinner and cuddled up in the car to kiss afterwards? A man needs romance too, not much, but he does need it, without it things start to feel one sided in the relationship, he starts to think you don't really care about his romantic surprises, and that you don't love him enough to show that you care back.

2) HE NEEDS YOU TO CHASE AFTER HIM, AND WOO HIM JUST AS HE ALWAYS HAD FOR YOU.

We've all heard that a woman needs foreplay to unlock her sensuality and allow her to let her sexuality flow and flourish, but did you know men needs foreplay too?


One of a mans most desperate needs is to have a wife who chases after him in terms of seduction! A good wife understands the art and science of seduction, she owns herself and her skills, uses outfits, body language, and various scenarios to her advantage. HE NEEDS TO SEE YOU WANT HIM! Learn to seduce him weekly, dress up! put on something seductive, show some cleavage, its literally the least and laziest thing you could do for your relationship.

3) A SEXUALLY CONFIDENT GODDESS WHO JUMPS HIS BONES EVERY CHANCE SHE HAS.

Do I actually need to talk about this one? yeah... you get the picture :)

Think about it ladies, in terms of your duties as parents and adults things are pretty balanced

MEN:                                                                        WOMEN:

Work 8-10 Hours a day                                             Babysit 8-10 hours a day
Grocery Shopping                                                     Grocery Shopping
Mowing the Lawn/Yard Work                                  Laundry/House Tidying
Home Improvement Projects                                    Crafting Hobbies/Projects
House Cleaning Chores                                             House Cleaning Chores
Car/Home Maintenance                                            Children Maintenance
Parenting, Teaching                                                   Parenting, Teaching
Cooking                                                                     Cooking
Honey Doo Errands                                                   Soccer Mom Type Errands

But NOW LETS COMPARE WHAT BOTH GENDERS PUT INTO THE MARRIAGE...

MEN:                                                                        WOMEN:

Picking Creative Date Agendas                                 Hold hands
Paying for meals                                                        Cook a romantic meal a couple times a year
Opening car doors/doors                                            Listen too him/ Support him emotionally
Buying frequent gifts/flowers                                    Hug him daily
Arranging Romantic hotel weekends                         Kiss him daily
Surprise vacations                                                      Keep up hygiene standards/grooming
Listening to her & emotionally supporting her          "allow him to use our body for sex"
Satisfying her sexually when she wants "it"
Taking the lead during sex
Protecting her physically/emotionally/Mentally
Supporting her and Encouraging her
Loving her & Showing it daily
Kissing her Daily
Hugging her Daily
Massaging her regularly
Body Image (daily exercise 30 minutes)
Maintain Grooming to high standards
Shave Regularly
Surprising her with romantic dinners
Driving her everywhere when together
holding her hand





while this list may not be entirely complete in your specific relationship, but do we SEE ANY PROBLEMS WITH THIS LAST LIST? Our duties as adults and parents are generally very balanced, yet when it comes to loving our spouse our husbands do 4 times the amount we do. I mean think about it, all most women really do to contribute to their marriage is; hold hands, kiss him, support him by chatting, cook a nice meal a few times a year, and let him get it on with us once a month... SEE ANY PROBLEMS HERE??? WOULD YOU FEEL LOVED IF YOU WERE IN HIS SHOES AND RECEIVED SUCH MINIMAL ATTENTION AND LOVE IN RETURN? The fact of the matter is many wives just don't know that their husband feels completely alone and abandoned in his marriage, he feels as if he's lost the woman he fell in love with and is doomed to die in a loveless and sexless marriage. IT BREAKS MY HEART because I was once this woman, as I know so many of you are.

BUT HERE IS THE KEY: HOW DO WE CHANGE?

We know he needs romance and affection, we know he needs to be chased to see we do love our husband, he needs to see us seduce him and make passionate romantic love to him often. It really is the least we can do, and even that isn't that much. So my advice is this! Take these 3 responsibilities and fulfill them to the max!





Learn to be a romantic wife, plan dates, surprise him with gifts, take him to a secluded spot and just kiss him like you used to when you were young love birds. Seduce him like only a porn star would, and do it often, become a sexual scholar and have every trick in your pocket imaginable for you to flirt, tease, and seduce him at any given time, any given place. But most of all, learn how to embrace your sexuality, your body, his body, to the fullest of your potential! Become a sexual goddess who leaves no doubt in his mind that he is loved, take care of your body, wear seductive clothing often, talk dirty regularly, be the sexual freak you promised you would be before marriage.




I know what many of you may be thinking...I want to be seductive, I want to love sex, I want to do things in bed that pleasure him but so many sexual things make me uncomfortable or I dislike them...

HERE IS MY SUGGESTION ON WHAT WORKED FOR ME!

SEX is 75% MENTAL! ITS ALL IN YOUR HEAD!
So often we psyche ourselves out and dampen sex before it ever begins, thinking to ourselves things like "agh, I want to enjoy sex but I'm just not good at it" or "I want to be sexy and seductive but just don't know what to do", or " I know he loves blowjobs but I hate giving them, and really don't want to swallow", or even "I feel awkward when he asks me to...". SO SO OFTEN I WOULD kill sex before it ever happened, my attitude and mindset was just not where it needed to be!

HERE IS WHAT I DID, AND YOU SHOULD TO:

AFFIRMATION! you need to convince yourself the you are sexy! that you do know what your doing! that things you dislike doing are actually fun and exciting, and that you are great in bed.

Sit back for a few minutes, close your eyes, and imagine yourself waiting at home for your man to return, your dressing up in your finest garter, slipping on some silky stockings, some 4 inch heels, a hot black bra that pushes your breasts up, your hair is done, colorful lipstick, you stand near the counter waiting for the door to open slowly. Your husband walks in the door and freezes in his steps, his eyes are huge, jaw gently drops to the floor, he starts to stutter shocked and confused as to who you are and what you've done with his prude wife. "Hi baby" you say seductively, slowly you walk over to him making sure to give him a peek at your booty, he starts to talk but you put your finger over his lips and say "shhh" your slutty wife is here to take care  of you tonight" and with that you push him against the wall, passionately kissing him deeply as you unbuckle his belt, frantically trying to get him butt naked within the minute. you drop to your knees and pull out his hardening cock and drop your jaw with a  "mmm omg its so big!" you slap it against your cheek with a smile, give it a kiss, and then devour it as if its water to a woman dying of thirst, his body tenses up, his eyes roll back as you stare at him with his penis in your mouth, he moans in ecstasy, you moan back as you suck furiously and teasingly. You then jump to your feet and lead him by the penis to the bed where you straddle him, whispering to him that "you need to get fucked  by your big strong husband" "please fuck me baby I need your huge cock in my dripping wet pussy", and with that you've won back his heart, with that he knows you love him and have made it a priority to love and romance him. You moan as he leads you both to orgasm vigorously, you see he is about to cum and you beg him for it, you jump to your knees and stick out your tongue, stroking him until he covers your chin with cum as he groans louder than he ever has. teasingly you lick up a drop or two with a kinky smile. YOU JUST LOCKED HIS HEART. HE IS YOURS AGAIN. NO OTHER WOMAN CAN EVER EVEN SO MUCH AS TEMPT HIM. HE KNOWS DEEP DOWN HIS MOST BASIC NEEDS HAVE BEEN MET BY HIS BEAUTIFUL WIFE.





You see, we have to visualize sex if we are to feel comfortable in the bedroom, we need to imagine ourselves doing the things that make us uncomfortable or that we don't like, so that we can see in our mind that it can be fun and exciting if we put more effort into liking it. We need to tell ourselves in our minds that we are a sex goddess, that we love sex, love seducing him, love giving head, love cum, WE LOVE HIM, AND WE LOVE PLEASING HIM!

I would honestly encourage you to masturbate about things that you don't like or don't want to do, if you hate giving head, then suck on a dildo while masturbating. If you don't feel sexy in lingerie, put some on and masturbate about him doing you in it. If you cant stand cum, imagine him doing you and cumming on your face or mouth, the more we embrace these things in our mind the more we'll love doing it.









THE ONLY THING PREVENTING YOU FROM LOVING YOUR MAN AND SELF IS YOURSELF, YOUR MIND, YOUR DEDICATION, YOUR IN YOUR HEAD! TAKE YOUR HEAD BACK!