Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, and the art of Kegels

Erectile Dysfunction & Premature Ejaculation

SO… GENTLEMEN…

WE LOVE YOU…

BUT…………………………………………….

 

A majority of our discussions have been primed towards the women in our lives who just can’t tackle the mental hurdles of getting into a healthy sexual mindset, but today lets gear our focus to a oh so common problem that men deal with at times. Hundreds of women have asked us to discuss this issue, and todays the day! Erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation…

How many of us have been in the heat of the moment making passionate and furious love, kissing, groping, moaning, and he goes to slip it inside of us, only to either get soft quick, or cum within a minute, leaving us sexually frustrated and angry inside.

 

ERECTILE DISFUNCTION:

Many things can cause erectile dysfunction, learning to fix these things could be the difference between a regular and frequent love life, or sleeping on the couch. Here are some of the causes:

Age: Men tend to lose blood flow to the pelvic region with age.

Diet: Poor dieting can lead to poor blood flow, lack of stamina, and overall negative self-esteem.

Self-Consciousness: men who lack sexual knowledge or are ashamed of their bodies tend to feel performance pressure and thus can’t get it up or keep it up.

Exercise: Guys who don’t exercise at least a few times per week tend to struggle with blood flow and body image issues. Taking time to exercise daily is often the first step to gaining back blood flow and confidence for men.

Over use: frequent daily masturbation can lead to erectile fatigue, put it down boys.

Lack of attraction to spouse: this ones on us ladies, even though he loves you he may not be as attracted to you after adding those 30+ pounds after marriage, this one is on us to get back to the gym and keep his mind into us instead of that hottie walking down the street in a tight dress.

Stress: mental block, plain and simple. Take some time to relax, find a hobby, take up yoga,

Mental block: This is a HUGE one, so many wives tend to push their husband away sexually for years or decades, or choose to have sex out of duty/because he needs it instead of doing it because we want to. Doing these not only sends a clear message to him that he is unwanted or needed, but eventually causes him to mentally be programed not to want you. Think back to your teen years when the preacher condemned sex from the time you were 10-20 years old, most women are mentally programed to think sex is bad during these years. The same thing happens to our men when we turn them down for years making them feel inferior and unwanted. The only cure here is complete devotion to becoming a sexual entity on hour part so you actually want sex with him often.

Medical issues: heart disease, cancer, diabetes, high cholesterol. Usually its high cholesterol from poor eating habits if any of these.

 

PRE-MATURE EJACULATION:

While we love your orgasm guys we do expect you take it slow and enjoy the scenery so to speak… Nothing is more disappointing for a woman than a guy who slips it inside of us only to cum within a minute or two. We love the connection that comes from penetration, when it only lasts a few minutes it’s a disappointment to us, and may even discourage us from having sex next time…

Here are some tips to keep it under control and stay calm:

Sexual inexperience: If he’s new to marriage he just might not know how to control it, or hasn’t taken the time to know he should be holding it back and it’s not a race to orgasm.

Novelty of a relationship: If you’ve been together for years things just may be getting stale and boring for him, this one is on both spouses to communicate and take steps to make sex fun again. Try adding new lingerie, toys, videos, role playing, anything that will spice it up and keep it fun. When sex stops being fun, sex stops occurring. Surprisingly this is a big reason why women don’t want sex too, we say it’s not fun, but we’re also not willing to try new things and become active in making it better on our own. AKA it’s time to get kinky and fun! THIS ONE IS ON US BOTH TO FIX.

Overexcitement or too much stimulation: sometimes his mind is just blown, our body drives him wild, and he can’t hold it back. While this is hot as hell knowing we can do this to him, he needs to know how to mentally stay calm. Deep breathing specially helps, I know some women wonder why men breath so noisily and heavily during penetration, it’s to help them hold back their cum and go longer for us.

Relationship stress: If it’s been a long time since you both last got it on he may just be overwhelmed and not prioritizing his need to meet our needs and last longer.

Anxiety: Men who worry in bed have a hard time cumming period, generally if they feel like they can cum they will, because who knows if they’ll be able to later on if they hold back. These guys need to take time and communicate with their partner or professionals to calm their nerves.

Guilty feelings: Remember how we talked about how women who push men away for years cause their guy to have negative feelings about being intimate with us? In these situations guys generally cum right away because they just want it to be over and done with, they feel sinful or bad/guilty about having to bother us by having sex. THIS ONES ON US GIRLS.

Depression: Men who are depressed generally lack emotional maturity during sex, they can’t focus on the ultimate goal of intimacy and becoming one/pleasuring our spouse. Get help if you need to!

Porn:  Immature men focus only on themselves and tend to focus only on their orgasm. Porn is a double edged sword, if used for the wrong reasons it can damage our mindset going into sex by leading to selfishness, whereas using it maturely can help us become sexual gods and goddesses in bed and strengthen our marriage like no other tool can.

There are some tools for men such as KY gel to decrease sensitivity, but it’s down side is a softer erection unfortunately. The main fix is for him to spend time analyzing the cause and course of correction. A simple internet search will more than likely provide all the answers you need for any of these issues.

 

THE IMPORTANCE OF KEGELS:

 

KEGELS FOR MEN:

Pelvic floor exercises improve the strength of the pelvic floor muscles and are more commonly known as Kegel exercises. Women perform Kegels in preparation for and to regain muscle tone after childbirth. Kegels also promote urinary continence and sexual health.

Kegel exercises can benefit men as well. In particular, they help to strengthen the bulbocavernosus muscle. This important muscle does three jobs: it allows the penis to engorge with blood during erection, it pumps during ejaculation, and it helps empty the urethra after urination. They will also assist in holding back ejaculation if done correctly.

Lets face it, women are turned on by big cocks, hard cocks, and strong cocks, given the pick most women will choose to marry a hung guy over a small guy. the good news is men can naturally increase their size and strength.

The best method for locating the muscles of the pelvic floor (the lower pelvis) is to stop your stream several times in the middle of urination. The muscles you clench to do this are the ones you need to exercise.

To perform a rep of Kegel exercises, squeeze those muscles, hold for five seconds, then relax. Repeat this 10 to 20 times, two or three times a day. You may want to try this in different positions, including lying down with your knees up, sitting in a chair, and standing.

You probably won’t be able to finish a complete series of 10 Kegels when you first try. That’s fine. Do what you can, and eventually work up to 10 to 20 Kegels, three times a day.

Don’t hold your breath or push with your stomach, buttocks, or thigh muscles. Remember to relax after each count of five. Alternate between short and long squeezes to challenge yourself.

Another way to think about Kegels is to squeeze the muscles of your anus, like you are holding a bowel movement. Hold for five to 10 seconds while breathing, then relax all muscles.

Reverse Kegels should also be done by relaxing the pelvic floor and pushing outward, this will prevent the pelvic muscles from becoming imbalanced.

Performing Reverse Kegel Exercises

Find a quiet and private place to practice your reverse kegels. You’ll need to take your time when you first begin, so be patient if you don’t feel like you’re understanding the technique right away. You’ll need to settle into a place without any interruptions. Then, you will need to:

1. Relax the penile area completely and clear your mind of tension and anxiety. You want to be calm and relaxed so that the blood can flow into your penis.

2. Begin contracting the penile muscles. Focus on contracting the muscles near the front of your penis while keeping the rest of the pelvic area as relaxed as possible. The goal is to make your penis become more stronger and more erect without actually having an erection.

3. Breathe deeply and slowly as you push out the muscles in the penile area and maintain focus on strengthening only the top and lower end of the penis. Take note of how relaxed and loose the muscles directly under your penis are.

4. Let go of the contraction and breathe more deeply as you exhale. Let your penis relax, then take another deep breath and contract again. Make sure you are only focusing on the front of your penis; push out, hold for a few seconds, then relax the muscles.

5. Repeat the cycle for at least 10-15 times per session so that you feel comfortable with the movement. The entire process will feel awkward at first, but it’s very important to focus on relaxation and keeping the muscles as loose as possible outside of the contractions. You can work your way up to 40-50 exercises per session as your penis becomes stronger.

Tips for Performing Reverse Kegels

If you’re a beginner at reverse kegel exercises, use some of these tips for better results:

Breathe deeply and suck in the air against the diaphragm during the initial stages to help you relax better.

Focus on relieving the contraction of the frontal penile muscles as if you are ‘letting go.’

You can experience the reverse kegel contraction while urinating; essentially, you will want to focus on supplying the penis with more energy so that you urinate at a faster rate. The process occurring here is the same as releasing the muscles when you are ejaculating.

IF YOU ARE A MAN AND YOU LOVE YOUR WOMAN YOU WILL DO KEGELS!!! THEY MAKE YOU HARDER (MMM), STRONGER, LAST LONGER, AND MAKE YOUR CUM SHOOT OUT LIKE A PORNSTAR (WHICH AS A WIFE WE LOVE). Do them anywhere, home, work, school, church, driving, its easy and adds intense benefits to your marriage. OH.. 1 other benefit boys… KEGELS MAKE YOUR COCK WIDER AND LONGER… Enough motivation for ya? Wink Wink.

 

KEGELS FOR WOMEN:

Pelvic floor exercises improve the strength of the pelvic floor muscles and are more commonly known as Kegel exercises. Women perform Kegels in preparation for and to regain muscle tone after childbirth. Kegels also promote urinary continence and sexual health.

Many women do Kegel exercises to strengthen their pelvic floor muscles. This can help manage or prevent physical problems such as the leakage of urine. Kegel exercises can also help improve women’s sexual health and pleasure by:

•Relaxing the vaginal muscles, which allows the vagina to be more open. This is helpful for women who are experiencing pain during sexual intercourse and/or with pelvic exams

•Increasing sexual arousal

•Improving a women’s ability to reach orgasm

•Improving blood circulation to the vagina

•Increasing vaginal tone and lubrication

 

How do I identify my pelvic floor muscles?

Your pelvic floor muscles form the bottom of your pelvis and support your pelvic organs. These are the muscles that you would use when urinating to stop the stream of urine or that you would use to hold back or prevent you from passing gas.

Before you can start practicing Kegels, however, you have to locate your pleasure-maxing muscles. Next time you pee, try to stop midstream without contracting your butt, thighs, or abs. After holding for a few seconds, resume the flow. Your PC muscles are allowing you to control the start-stop action. Once you've isolated your PCs, practice tightening and releasing them, working up to a 10-second hold before letting go. Then get into a sexercise regimen doing 10 to 20 Kegels three times a day, holding each one for 10 seconds. The great thing about this workout: You can do it anytime, anywhere — in an elevator, in your car, at your desk — and no one will have a clue. But don't limit your workout to your downtime. Doing Kegels while you're masturbating will enhance your solo sessions. And squeezing your love muscles when you're doing the deed with your guy will increase the pleasure for both of you.

Here are some ways you can identify them:

1.Imagine you are urinating and contract the muscles you would need to stop the stream of urine. Do not actually practice stopping the urine stream, especially if your bladder is full. This can actually weaken the muscles and lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder, which increases your risk for a urinary tract infection (UTI).

2.Tighten the muscles that are used to hold back or prevent you from passing gas, but don’t tighten your buttock or inner thigh muscles. If you’re doing it correctly, there should be no visible movement of your body lifting. If you are tightening the muscles of your buttocks or abdomen, or notice that your body lifts slightly, you are most likely using the wrong muscles.

3.Try inserting a finger or vaginal dilator inside your vagina and tighten or contract your pelvic floor muscles. When performing pelvic floor muscles exercises, you should feel your vagina tighten and your pelvic floor move upward.

  

For women really wanting to perfect their yaya you may want to consider “ben Wa Balls” to insert manually to grip and hold. A month after I started using these twice per week I got to the point where Brett could put his Penis inside me and stay completely still, I would pulse my Kegels around his cock and make myself orgasm over, and over, and over, without him having to move a muscle!!! By the third orgasm the pulsing made him cum like a rocket! I’ve never seen him tense up like he did the, his eyes rolled back, he literally basically screamed, called me a goddess and kissed me with such passion I will never forget. If you’re a woman who struggles with vaginal pain, or want to give yourself and man the orgasms of a lifetime, USE THESE!!! Your sex will never be the same…

IF YOU ARE A WOMMAN AND YOU LOVE YOUR MAN YOU WILL DO KEGELS!!! THEY MAKE YOU TIGHER (HEHE), STRONGER, LESS PAINFUL INTERCOURSE, AND MAKE ORGASM TEN TIMES HARDER!!! (WHICH YUR MAN WILL LOVE). Do them anywhere, home, work, school, church, driving, it’s easy and adds intense benefits to your marriage. OH.. 1 other benefit LADIES… KEGELS MAKE YOUR VAGINA WETTER AND WARMER FOR HIM AND YOU… Enough motivation for ya? Wink Wink.

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