MY HUSBAND SAYS HE WANTS ME TO BE MORE AGGRESSIVE IN BED... WHAT DOES THAT MEAN???

WHY DO MEN NEED AN AGRESSIVE WOMAN IN BED TO FEEL SATISFIED? WHAT DOES AN AGGRESSIVE WOMAN DO?

Of all the questions I receive from men and women on a DAILY BASIS this one takes the cake, men who cant seem to express to their wife that they need her to be enthusiastic and aggressive in bed, and women who when asked to be more aggressive don't know what he means or how to do it. To help ease these questions lets talk about why its important to our husbands and how we can show this aggressiveness in the sack. Saying your not aggressive enough is essentially saying your not active enough in your intimate relationship and he wants you to pick up the slack by being more vocal, physical, and doing more to warm him up just as he warms you up (yes ladies, men need foreplay too).

 TO MAKE THIS SIMPLE LETS BREAK IT DOWN INTO A FEW CATEGORIES:

1. SEDUCTION
2. FOREPLAY
3. ORAL SEX
4. SEX

these 4 categories could probably all be addressed by reading our other post on becoming a sexual wife http://howsexsavedourmarriage.blogspot.com/2017/01/becoming-sexual-wife-unleashing-godess.html.

 

1-SEDUCTION:

http://howsexsavedourmarriage.blogspot.com/2017/03/fun-ways-to-seduce-your-man-and-lock.html

 

An aggressive seductress is aggressive in many ways, in the way she prepares for sex, in her flirting, in her sexy moves, in her appearance! For example, if you're having a date night be bold enough to show something sexy off, wear something that shows a little cleavage, or have a skirt a bit shorter than usual. Make it obvious that you want to and will be F*cking his brains out later, show this through your body language, be a tease at dinner or in public, whisper dirty things in his ear, get his mind running before you ever get home and reach the bedroom. Flash him in public, whisper dirty things in public, in the car, at the movies, foreplay starts long before the bedroom if you want a fun and enjoyable sex life!

 

 

2-FOREPLAY:

http://howsexsavedourmarriage.blogspot.com/2016/10/enthusiasm-what-makes-or-breaks.html

Soooooo many woman are to selfish to realize that men need foreplay too, generally not as much as us females, but still... Learn how he likes to be teased! wear slutty lingerie from time to time, scratch him, push him around, shove him to the bed, if he tries to take control push him back and pin his wrists or chest to the bed, grab him by his junk and pull him where you want him, dirty talk is an absolute must, he needs to hear two simple words EVERY TIME (fuck me), these words are essential to dirty talk and owning his mind, he'll love it if you tease him, smile, gasp when you see his bulging manhood, tell him how great it is EVERY TIME! If he likes to spank you, ask to be spanked, if he always asks you if you love his cock, tell him without being asked that you love his big hard cock or things like that, its all about increasing the intensity and activeness as you warm each other up. This is also a time he really needs to see that your confident about yourself and your abilities in bed, men love smiling, teasing, gasping, groaning, moaning, confident stares, this is the time to show off what a goddess your are.

 

3-ORAL SEX:

http://howsexsavedourmarriage.blogspot.com/2017/01/a-wifes-duty-blowjobs-ultimate-act-of.html

As a man oral sex is 50% of the sexual intimacy experience, without it sex just wont satisfy his physical and mental needs to get close to you, far too often we see women who have an attitude of "I guess its my duty to go down on him , but I really don't feel like it so I'll just lick it for a minute and then go back to kissing him so I don't have to...", these women just don't realize they're leaving their spouse bored, unsatisfied, and extremely sexually frustrated with their relationship! He can tell when you want to do it out of love, vs. doing it out of duty.

What a husband wants from his beautiful wife is to see her absolutely worship his pogo stick with her mouth, the same way he worships you during oral sex. A real wife has an attitude and passion about blowjobs as if to say "OMG if I don't get that beautiful thing in my mouth this very second I may die!" she loves giving, she loves making him happy, she attacks his penis like an animal, she teases it, she makes it an absolute prime time show for him to enjoy. If women would learn this one principle no husband would ever feel unloved or sexually frustrated. A spouse who does not love giving their partner pleasure doesn't deserve to have a spouse... Learn to love giving him head the same way he loves eating you out. As a side note, be enthusiastic with his cum, its just as important as his penis...


Men also love it when you are forceful and bossy about him giving oral to you! take his head and force it down there, or push him to the bed and sit on his face and boss him around, most men love it!

MY # 1 RULE FOR GIVING HIM BLOWJOBS: Love it more than he does :) AND I DO! I prize myself in my abilities to make each and every oral experience for him a full on show, I make it a performance, I love teasing and torturing his mind, I love making him moan by my abilities, I love feeling his body twitch and convulse from my skills, I love knowing he loves me more because I love him enough to be a loving wife and do my duty just as he does his :)

4-SEX:

http://howsexsavedourmarriage.blogspot.com/2016/09/what-do-guys-enjoy-during-and-leading.html

What does it mean to be sexually aggressive during sex? Push him around, learn to ride cock (bounce up and down), talk dirty to him, ask him to do things to you, moan, beg, scream, just simply be vocal if he hits the right spot :) make his orgasm (and yours a special experience by being vocal and physically showing it! Love your partners orgasm as much or more than your own, learn to embrace his cum orally just as he does with your juices, don't ever just be laying there like a dead fish, scratch his back, use your voice if he is on top, grab the sheets, move your hips into his pelvis as he thrusts, essentially just be more active in intercourse, so often men are the ones who end up doing all the work, it makes them feel as if they're just using our bodies, which in turn makes them feel bad about sex and for wanting to be intimate with you (which really damages the relationship outside the bedroom as they will feel distant from you). You really don't need to act like a porn star during sex and over exaggerate, but watch and listen to the things they do and you'll be sure to see something you can add to your sex life.