SEXUALITY REDEFINED: FACEBOOK LIVES CHRISTIANITY, SEXUALITY, & HOTWIFING Q & A

 

BUT THE BIBLE SAYS!... Wait? What does the bible actually say about sexuality?

Who among us hasn't had their lives altered by Christian teachings for good or for bad? Christianity at its best not only makes us better people, but allows our marriages to grow stronger. That being said, at its worst Christianity has the ability to harm us deeply, physically, mentally, and specially sexually. Who among us as Christians haven't met someone whose been so brainwashed that sex is bad that just the mere mention of the word "penis" or "vagina" makes them blush... Christianity at its core is good, but when we take and apply incorrect teachings from it's scripture it harms our marriage, hurts and restricts our sexuality from growing, and in the end kills our sex drive.

Recently in our Facebook Live video streaming thousands of you took part in our live question and answer session tackling topics ranging from sexuality in general, correct biblical teachings about our sex lives, as well as what our hotwifing lifestyle is like. For those who missed we though it prudent to take the time to write about the various topics covered. Christianity in general has done so much to destroy sex in marriage and life in general, it’s important to know what Gods sex rules actually are.

CHRISTIANITY AND THE BIBLE


It’s no secret that our views on sex are drastically different than that of your preacher who only uses historical teachings passed down from the corrupt catholic church. Billions worldwide firmly believe that things like sex before marriage, sex outside the marriage, oral sex, and many other various sexual concepts are sinful and of the devil. These topics have been tackled in depth in various articles which can be read below:


The Christian prude: "I DON'T DO THAT". OVERCOMING RELIGIOUS NEGATIVITY
Modesty kills sex within marriage: MODESTY AFTER MARRIAGE: HOW THE MODESTY MENTALITY KILLS LIBIDO & SELF-ESTEEM
Self help & Pleasure: MASTURBATION: THE KEY TO THE FEMALE LIBIDO
Dirty talk & Christianity" TALKING DIRTY: WHAT'S APPROPRIATE IN THE CHRISTIAN BEDROOM?
What do Most Christians do Sexually? YOU'RE NOT ALONE: LEARNING FROM FELLOW CHURCH MEMBERS
Sex outside our marriage: Why Three Is ALWAYS better than two...


But in summary, here’s some of the various questions asked and clarified this past week.

What is considered a sexual sin?


There’s no denying that the bible itself is one giant CONTRADICTION when it comes to sexual rules, naturally Christian teachings are taken out of context and manipulated to the point that the teaching no longer represents what was stated in the scriptures.

For example: We find examples of this in every category, whether it be oral sex, sex before marriage, polygamy, incest, homosexual relationships, sex outside of marriage, swinging, hotwifing, rape, slavery, abuse, and even sexual punishment.

What teachings about oral sex can you provide?


Literally nowhere does it state that oral sex is bad… NOWHERE. But one thing is certain, in the book of psalms the prophet and king Solomon and his wife write of their love for each other and how they love going down on each other and that their lovers cum is delicious. Clear enough right?

What does the bible say about incest?

Leviticus teaches not to get freaky with sisters, parents, cousins, and so on. YET, only a few hundred pages later God commands Lots daughters to get freaky with their father, Abrahams brother marries his niece, Abraham (father of Israel) marries his half sister, Isaac marries his cousin, Amram marries his aunt. Inconsistent to say the least right?

What does the bible say about polygamy?

Multiple wives are looked down on in many verses, and yet throughout the old testament we see dozens of couples, prophets, and even commandments to marry multiple women.

What does the Bible teach about lesbian or gay attractions and relationships?


Homosexual relationships: Again in Leviticus it commands that an or woman should not lay with anything sexually, but this is misconstrued to say there is to be nothing but male female sex. You see within these verses we read that not only is a man not to lay with an animal, or another man, but it also even states not to lay with another woman! When we take a step back and review the entire message and chapter we see that the chapters intent is not to condemn homosexuality, but to make it clear that within marriage sex is to be for the purpose of uniting the couple, and that by cheating with others it destroys its sanctity due to betrayal and dishonesty.

Sodom & Gomorrah are often sited as the basis for this “commandment”, yet again when we read it we see that God condemns not homosexuality, but rape… Just as the savior mentions in his reference to Sodom and Gomorrah,  that they were destroyed because of their pillaging, raping, and lack of love for their neighbors.

For the ultimate nail in the coffin proof marriage is ok between man and man, or woman and woman, we need only look at the prophet Ruth to see her female lover, or even refer to king David who had a male lover on the side with the consent of his wife.

What does the Bible say about sex before marriage? 

Again good old Leviticus screws us over by taking the entire message out of context… Women and men were to be stoned if they get pregnant before marriage, but again it clearly states that sex is not forbidden.

What does the Bible teach about Hotwifing & Swinging?


King david and the Corinthians of the new testament are perhaps the best examples of why sex with others even when married is fine. David and his wife had hundreds of sexual partners, lovers, and even swapped on occasion. But notice what happens when David sets out to deceive Bathsheba’s husband and have him killed so that he can get freaky with his wife? He loses everything! Because its simply adultery, there was no consent, there was no communication, it was betrayal and sinful. The same can be found in the Corinthian church, with a large swinging community (that paul clearly states is allowed and just, but later condemns when certain individuals begin betraying their spouses behind their backs. It’s all about consent and communication!

There is one thing that is beyond doubt a sin… Adultery, betraying your spouse without their knowledge or consent. Adultery destroys trust, tears down love, and causes heart ache and division between a couple. If we combine all this we clearly see that the overall message is that sex is meant to build up a relationship and make ourselves and each other closer and stronger, that consent is a must, and communication is needed to approve of outside relationships to avoid sin and heartache.

Again, if you take the scriptures that condemn certain actions, these verses 100% contradict each other, but when you take a step back and review the whole chapter we can see these versus are part of a bigger message and can be taken out of context if looked at as a single verse of scripture and instruction. Only when combined do these verses make sense. And as we know God cannot contradict himself, otherwise God ceases to be God. Again referring to Matthew stating “he who looketh upon a woman has already committed adultery” reminds us that even the mere thought of betraying his wife is as bad as the sin itself. It’s all about making a marriage stronger, closer, and bringing happiness to each other. This only occurs if there is communication if sex is allowed outside our marriage.

What does the bible teach about modesty? 

Again, we see examples of encouragement to dress with modesty in religious settings such as worship and at the temples, but again look to the examples of the daughters of Israel, the wives of the prophet, the apparel it describes… revealing their navels, their legs, their bare backs and shoulders. It’s all about time and place.

Is masturbation ok?

The long and short… Yes, there is not one mere mention about self pleasure, those who condemn it do so because of the Catholic churches early incorrect teachings after altering the bible for roughly 300 years. The scriptures were removed but the concept lived on as one of those old wives’ tales sort of ideas, which Christianity now just assumes it to be commandment.
In conclusion, the bible really needs to be taken as a grain of salt when it comes to specific verses, being so easy to take them out of context and distort what Gods rules are. Heck, look at the rules for Israel sex slaves, wherein men and women could purchase other Hebrew women for their own sexual pleasure. THE BIBLE IS FILLED WITH SOME CRAZY JUNK! And let us also remember that Christs atonement literally eliminated all pre new testament teachings, fulfilling the old laws of strict physical acts and focusing more on our mental relationship with our savior.


FEMALE SEXUALITY


What do women want sexually from their husband?


Now again this will vary with every woman, but by and large most women need comfort, words of affection, a man who is physically attractive, and can be both gentle and aggressive in bed. A womans  biggest orgasm tool isn’t so much her pussy, but her brain, fuck our brains and we’ll orgasm harder than ever. We need to feel dominated at times, feeling a thrill and newness.

What do women need to do to keep our libido’s high?


This comes more down to ourselves than anything, but regular exercise, eating well help our self image, added to that is self pleasure on a near daily basis, whether that be masturbation, erotica, or even porn. A womans sex drive is her own duty, not her mans, while there are things men can obviously do to enhance our sex drive 90% of our desire comes down to us putting in effort to thinking and being sexual.

What do women prefer in bed?


To name a few, dominance, big muscles, big cocks, oral sex, dirty talk is HUUUGE, lots of foreplay, teasing, sensual smells, music, and new experiences. Mostly women just want to feel wanted, we want to feel pretty, and when he ravishes us and tells us how amazing we are it makes us that much wetter. 

MALE SEXUALITY


What do men want sexually from their wife?


Read our website, haha. Men love slutty women, even if your Christian , he wants you to be, dress, act, and behave in a slutty way. Whore it up girls.

How many times a week do men need sex to stay satisfied?


Again this will vary from guy to guy, some guys need sex 1-2 times per week, others are 2-4, I think a safe medium would be to do oral once a week, and sex once a week at minimum. But talk it over with him, only he knows what he needs.

What do men prefer in bed?

Literally the same list as women, except maybe throw in a ton of submissiveness and slutiness. 

HOTWIFING EXPLAINED


What exactly is Hotwifing?

Hotwifing is the practice of a wife who has sex with her husbands permission, he encourages it to open her up to her full sexual potential, he wants to see her fully pleasured, and she loves life more by flirting with new men. Hotwifing can be done playing solo, in threesomes, ore even swapping couples.

How has Hotwifing made you marriage better (or worse)

1-We love each other more
2-We have more sex together
3-I feel better about myself as a person (feeling wanted, beautiful, and sexual)
4-I unlocked my full potential sexuality
5-Life is more fun as a stay at home mom, flirting throughout the day with my guy and others
6-We communicate far better

Is your sex life better or worse than it was before?

99% Better! Hotwifing has literally awakened my sexuality as a woman, I feel more free, less constrained, I mean when you meet new guys you want to impress them! Naturally I bring these new ideas and skills back to my marriage and blow his mind with new things that I might not have been willing to do before. being a Hotwife always makes me horny, before I wanted sex maybe 2-3 times per week, now i''m horny like every day!

Who talked you into trying it?

It was a mixture of my friend who is actually a local Christian minister and my husband, their wife had been doing it and introduced me to a few friends who also explained it to us. Eventually after weighing the pros and cons we tried it.

I worry about being judged by society or church, how did you overcome your fears and embrace your slutty side?

This is perhaps the most damaging part of Christianity that I hate... The judgement, the dirty looks, the "your a sinner" mentality. At some point In time I just got this "screw you" mentality and I didn't care what others thought. I mean I don't go around and publicly advertise we do this stuff, but in terms of dressing a tad sexy in public I just got more adventurous and daring over time. starting with shorter skirts, then bare back, then cleavage, and so on. We typically avoid places we'd see people from church just to be safe.

Why does Whitney enjoy Hotwifing?

1-Our marriage is happier
2-Sex is more exciting
3-Big cocks make women go crazy
4-Flirting makes like exciting and keeps me on my toes when it comes to staying fit
5-I feel wanted and beautiful
6- I learn more sexually and become willing to try new things
7-My husband loves me more when I misbehave and unleash my inner freak

Why does Brett enjoy Hotwifing?

1-Happier married life
2-Sex is amazing now that she has stopped being the innocent church girl
3-I love seeing my wife happy and embracing her inner slut
4-I love re-claiming her after she's been with a new guy (the sex is amazing)
5-We both learn new sexual ideas to try
6- She is more willing to pleasure me the way I need it


Are her orgasms better?

Remember how I said the best tool for an orgasm is her brain? Well our brains go ape crap crazy when another man kisses us or puts a big cock in us!!! I literally orgasm within seconds of it sliding in, whether its the big cock, or just the excitement of the new guy, one things for sure, I orgasm twice as often with new guys, and I orgasm twice as much with my husband as he reclaims me!

Do you guys sext very often?


Almost daily! sexting is not only great because texting other guys daily keeps me horny, but texting my husband about texting other guys gets us both excited, whether its pictures, stories, or just new experiences, we love sharing whats going on sexually in our lives. It's a thrill being a tease with everyone sexually. Don't deny It girls, flirting is a thrill, we love teasing ;)

What's the big deal about reclamation sex?



As a guy they get a tad jealous and insecure, they are also extremely turned on knowing we just had our brains fucked out by a new man, thus they want to reprove they own us, and are the best thing on earth. my man goes above and beyond to make me scream and feel his love for me. It's amazing telling him stories as he fucks me or as I suck his cock. 

Does Brett ever worry or get jealous?

Short answer, yes! But at the same time no. It's basically the same as when you catch a guy checking out your wife at the supermarket, it's like, man you suck, she's mine, and yet at the same time it's like yeah that's right she's my girl, I married a hottie. its both pride and jealousy, it makes them love us that much more!

Do big cocks feel as good as everyone says?


YES YES YES. The feeling of being full is incredible, thick cocks make us squirt and cum so much more, and long cocks just make us have different types of orgasms. I know most women think they cant fit a bigger cock inside them, but trust me... you can! I used to think I couldn't fit more than 7 inches in me, but after practice I can fit 9 inches easy and its AMAZING!

How can I ease into the hotwife or swinging lifestyle?

The easiest way is fantasy, watch a couples porno about it, look at my website stories, masturbate to it, talk about it being realistic, maybe use a dildo to stimulate a threesome. Start by simple flirting via text or online websites, I got a texting app that gives me a new fake phone number and that allows me to remain anonymous. once your comfortable enough to sext with another guy maybe meet up with the three of you (or just the 2) for a brief mini date, eventually you'll be comfortable enough to have sex with a new person. It's all about baby steps. 

Will you ever share Brett? Does the thought of reverse hotwifing turn either of you on?



Yes! I already have, there's nothing like seeing the shock on his face as 2 girls suck his cock at the same time! He's never moaned so loudly as I sucked his cock head and she sucked his balls. I was always oddly possessive when it came to other girls flirting with him, but now its a turn on to watch them fuck my guy ;)

What should I wear to be a hotwife

Here's the thing, WHATEVER YOU WANT! Hotwifes are typically portrayed as ultra skimpy dressed and slim models. NOT TRUE! Sure, you can wear something drop dead sexy, and be ultra sexy and slime, but wives who have sex with others come in all shapes and sizes, some of my friends are simply the yoga pants and t-shirt types, where as others are total slutty wives. Be what ever kind of hotwife works for you, your comfort is key, but that being said try to grow, slut it up at some point in time.

Where do you have sex at since you have a family?

Everywhere! a random car, a hotel normally, sometimes when the kids are at my parents place we'll meet up at our home our his home if we've grown comfortable enough.

What rules or guidelines do you both have?

Communicate! 
We always come back to each other afterwards
No repeat dates without permission
They must be drug and disease free! it's easy to get tested these days and free, we require proof.
condoms are a must anytime she's close to ovulating
He can only cum in her if she's not at risk of ovulating
Safety is a must, whenever there's a new guy Brett has to know where I'm at/going
Permission is a must when it comes to Brett getting to play, whereas Whitney has free passes to play

Where can I find other men or women (or couples) to have sex with safely?

Of course you can go to a local club, bar, or even supermarket, or even nearby college haha. But the easiest way is either tinder or a dating app, they have them for threesomes, couples, solo play. It's way easy! I get to filter out the creepers and avoid any unwanted solicitations. It's safer too.

How do you manage family life and privacy while dating others?

It's easy, after all its only a few extra hours a week of play time.

Does Whitney have any lesbian tendencies?

Tons! All women do, I was a judgy Christian until I realized there was nothing wrong with it (as we mentioned above). I love the feeling of seeing a women kiss another woman, you can tell you like it if your nipples harden and pussy tingles when you see it. Literally all women enjoy it, they just don't know it yet. Women know each other, how to kiss, how to touch, how to lick and suck, how to grind. I would encourage you both to get a girl on girl video or dvd and watch it together, see if she responds to it, she'll feel awkward at first but you'll be able to tell if she's into it by how wet she gets.

What’s her thoughts about other guys cum?


I love it! I love being covered by another man, or feeling him drip out of my mouth or pussy. It's my way of saying hell yes I'm the best fuck of your life! Brett loves seeing my selfies of cum all over me as well.


Since you both are into hotwifing and sharing each other, what do you consider to be cheating or adultery?


Not telling each other about a fuck we had, or a date we had, or possibly continuing to see the same person without telling our spouse. really this lifestyle is about communication, if anything begins to be hidden it becomes a sin, adultery, and not acceptable within the relationship.

Have you ever swapped with a couple or had an orgy?


Not yet but we want to, our friends may try it with us soon.

In conclusion, being a hotwife or having sexual relationships with others is all about both building up the marriage and improving the sex life, as well as helping the female spouse to let go of her cares and unlock her full sexual potential, by exploring new sexual styles and people. So many times women come to me and think that to be a hotwife they have to dress like total whores in public, or look like one of those bikini models on t.v., when the truth couldn't be further! Be the hotwife that works for you, dress the way you want, hook up wherever it makes you comfortable, weight is no reason to stop you from living life tot he fullest. 

Christianity can enhance or destroy your sexuality


If we've said it once we've said it a hundred times, Christianity is great, we can learn and grow so much by following Christ's teachings, but that being said when we follow incorrect principles Christianity can be devastating both personally and in our marriages. For thousands of years gays have been attacked all because they changed the wording within the bible to instead of speak of male temple prostitutes, to refer to those with homosexual tendencies, Catholics went so far as to ban all sexual contact except for within marriage for conceiving children, banning pre-marital sex, sex outside the marriage, only to be recently caught in admitting their lies and twisting of the truth. Yet despite these lies Christian ministers continue to spread the catholic churches original teachings that sex is blasphemous in all ways except marriage...
Millions around the world have stood up to say, no we wont follow fake teachings that aren't actually from God, we have one life to live, why live it in fear, following fake guidelines that God will not punish us for, embrace your full sexual potential, Judge not, love unconditionally, and embrace the sexual being you've always known exists deep inside.

For those who do get turned on by the sight of a hottie walking down the street, or who crave to test out the Hotwife sensation, start slow, fantasize about it, masturbate about it, role play it, discus it. Hotwifing made me a new woman, I'm fit because of it, I feel wanted, beautiful, and so horny all the time now. Hotwifing not only benefits me as a woman but it has made my marriage so much hotter, filling us both with so much more love and affection!

For those interested I compiled a list of the many reasons hotwifing is amazing, feel free to finger yourself thinking about each of these ;)








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Comments

Joanne said…
This is beautiful, a clear and concise explanation about what sexuality really is. If not for the explicit images I'd use it to teach my kids about sex (the first parts). I cant even tell you how many of my family and friends have shamed themselves over the years just because they want to be sexy, wear a hot dress, or even talk about sex. Christianity has destroyed sex and I love to see you all reclaiming its real meaning!!
Anonymous said…
Wow that was a lot of good resource use! I had no idea biblically lgbt issues were so wrong!

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