SEXUAL ROLEPLAY TO SPICE UP THE MARRIAGE

My One-Night Stand - With My Husband How to Have an Affair… With Your Spouse.

Before the night started, I had been very worried that the pressure to have sex, but what followed was some of the hottest sex I’ve ever had. To spice things up even further, we pretended that my "husband" could be back any minute. It seems so simple, but this little shift in reality allowed us to try things we had never done before - and it felt amazing! The strangest thing was that I found it really was like having sex with another person, but without any of that first-time awkwardness. The whole thing felt natural and sexy and ever so slightly wrong. Which, of course, made it even better. (Want some other ideas for spicing things up with your partner?

Part of the adventure and excitement is the wooing and enticing of your lover.

Why be you every night of the week, when you could be a seductive secret agent, a superhero with a kick-ass outfit, or a chambermaid with a very alluring French accent? Role-playing enhances your sex-life by encouraging you to use your imagination, and men just love it! Everyone has an imagination. The more you exercise it, the more vivid it becomes, and the more unexpected and intense the pleasure you can experience.

Men & women are dying to discover the hidden facets of your personality, which will make you seem all the more mysterious to them in everyday life too. Your spouse has their secret fantasies, so you may as well be a part of them! Who knows what levels of ecstasy you can reach once you unleash that wild uninhibited imagination of yours into the bedroom… the office… or wherever…

The shy girl’s guide to role play

It isn’t a reflection on you darling; don’t have a panic attack. It is simply imagination-overdrive. There’s nothing wrong in indulging by doing a bit of dressing up and role-play, is there? Think about playing the role of dominant women or man in positions of power, or playing with ideas of vulnerability and submission with schoolgirl or policeman outfits. Find out what turns your spouse on and have some fun with it. You might discover quirks about your own sexual personality that you didn’t even know about!

Introducing Role Play Secretly into your Sexual Routine

The idea of striking up a conversation on the topic of sexual role-play with your partner might initially strike terror in your heart. Will he think I’m a freak? Will I live up to his expectations? The truth is, he probably will think you’re a freak. Fantastically freakish in fact!

Couples who have established a fairly standard bedroom routine will feel insecure about introducing something new; this is inevitable. Perhaps you’re not even sure you’ll like it yourself? Well there’s no need to dive straight in. Have you considered that you can ease yourself into the concept of sexual role-playing before you even mention the idea to your boyfriend?

One of the biggest fallacies about sex and relationships is that they have to be fuzzy and comfortable. Sometimes it’s important for them to be just slightly uncomfortable. Most people’s fantasies aren’t really safe!

A little secret us girls like to keep is that we are just as capable as men are of having secret fantasies that involve foreign situations and people. Admit it girls! Men aren’t the only ones who can have fun in their heads. And it can be hot, right? We’re all just vixens under-cover – and if you’re not, you don’t know what you’re missing! Just the other day I allowed my mind to wander into uncharted territory while I was er… waiting in a queue at the supermarket! It was the sight of an attractive young cashier reaching for my giant phallic cucumber on the conveyor belt, and the twinkle in his eye as he smiled at me that had me wondering…

We’re all just vixens undercover – and if you’re not, you don’t know what you’re missing! Just the other day I allowed my mind to wander into uncharted territory while I was er… waiting in a queue at the supermarket! It was the sight of an attractive young cashier reaching for my giant phallic cucumber on the conveyor belt, and the twinkle in his eye as he smiled at me that had me wondering…

Private fantasies give you the freedom to be with whoever you want to be with, however you want it, whenever you want it; and the best part is that you don’t have to feel ashamed or embarrassed because it’s all just going on inside of your head!

So why not transfer that secret fun to the bedroom, and bring your fantasies to life? Your partner doesn’t even have to know that secretly you are imagining him to be a sexy stranger you’ve never met before, and that you’re pretending to have a one-night stand behind your boyfriend’s back… at least not to begin with. Or that you’re imagining you have been kidnapped and that your kidnapper is having his wicked way with you when your boyfriend takes you from behind… Yes, I’ve had that one playing in my mind many a time!

I was a shy, nervous, hesitant lover… there I said it, I admit it! Fortunately, while looking online one day on how to overcome my inhibitions about all things sexual I came across a “wiki-how” page with in depth instructions on how to do a sexual role-play, acting out fantasy situations. Let me be the first to admit, Roleplaying the first few times may seem goofy and at times downright silly, but given time, practice, and preparation it can become one of the most exciting tools to keep sex fresh, as it feels as if you’re having sex with an entirely new person, in new scenarios, acting out long time fantasies with your lover.

Will there be times of awkward silence? YES, will there be times you both think it’s so silly or cheesy that you burst out laughing? ABSOLUTELY :) role-play is new, it’s fun, it’s downright goofy at times, but guess what? it exposes us to new fantasies, it breaks down our shyness and allows us to open up to a new world.

One side note I might add, any and all types of roleplay need pre meet up planning to succeed, those who fail to prep, considering who their character is, what their motivations are, how they are going to behave and present themselves given certain situations, these people will never truly be able to relax and enjoy the excitement of roleplaying.

For many roleplaying is a tool that breaks down our sexual shyness and removes permanent barriers that have hurt the marriages sex for so long. Once a spouse starts fully committing to these role play scenarios sex will never be the same again, it becomes fun, romantic, thrilling, naughty, everything's its supposed to be in marriage.


The trouble tends to be allowing ourselves to enjoy or even act out the part, our mind is the biggest barrier to break... To fix this, spouses may want to begin slowly, what we did was start by exchanging emails about different roleplay scenarios. I wrote a erotic fictional story about a repair man fixing our broken sink who I seduced while Brett was away at work, Brett wrote one about his imaginary secretary seducing him in the office, doing this helped our minds better understand the attitude needed to do it in real life roleplay, as well as ideas to use when we actually did decide to act things out in real life. Other simple things include sexting, dirty talk, watching erotic videos, all can help us to become more creative and better our skills sexually.

I would suggest that your first real life roleplay be about some kind of real lie event in your past, maybe roleplay and pretend your both still dating and one night you both give in and sinfully get it on. Pretending to be yourselves is a whole lot easier than being somebody else. Or maybe act out a sexy time in your past, or something you'd wished you'd done at the time but was to hesitant to do so.

Roleplay: Permission to act like a slut… and permission granted to be treated like a slut 

In our day-to-day lives, I’d never, ever treat her like that, nor even think of her that way. Actually, even as I write this, the idea is a bit horrifying. But, in the bedroom, I give her what she needs by ordering her to strip, pleasure me, assume submissive positions, crawl, be tied, spanked, whatever.

Our bondage play and such really started at her suggestion, although being a happy kinkster I’ve been delighted to accommodate her. But last week as I viewed her on the floor, completely naked on her knees, her forehead touching the floor, her hands out ahead of her, her ass in the air, and her legs spread a bit to give me easy access to her pussy, I realized that the roleplay was giving me permission to actually ask for what I wanted. And what I wanted was this:. Complete and absolute carnality without regard to what she might think of me for asking (no, telling) her to do, or even possibly her own desires and do/don’t list. To some degree, this is objectifying this woman I loved.

The result has been more satisfying roleplay sessions for both of us. It’s become more real, we’re both more invested in the scenes, and even if the scenes still aren’t terribly extreme, they’re more sincere. That in turn means more tension, build-up, release. And if the actual orgasms aren’t quantifiably stronger than the one’s we’ve had for the other 10+ years of our marriage, the cathartic release on other levels is. There are parts of both of us that are getting more nourished I think. Actually, being able to order my wife to get on her knees, reach behind her, and spread her asshole wide for me while I watch is a powerful thing that I was not comfortable doing six months ago. She’s not an object. But now, for a couple blissful hours each month, she is. And she’s delighted to be. It rocks. I am more fulfilled as a result. And by me getting more fulfilled, she’s more fulfilled as well. And that’s how it should be with sexual activity of two people who care about each other, of course.

So, Here’s some real couple ideas for roleplay in your marriage

You’re two strangers who meet at a bar. After a few drinks and a lot of flirting, you decide to proposition him. You end up ‘back at your place’, or in a hotel room, for a night of wild, crazy, passionate sex. You’re never going to see this guy again, so you don’t have to hold back in bed.

The one-night stand: Single Strangers in a bar

Naturally this is the top and easiest pick most couples start with these days. You’re two strangers who meet at a bar. After a few drinks and a lot of flirting, you decide to proposition him. You end up ‘back at your place’, or in a hotel room, for a night of wild, crazy, passionate sex. You’re never going to see this guy again, so you don’t have to hold back in bed.

HOW TO DO IT: Make sure you don’t see each other that night. Then, arrive separately at the same bar wearing something that you wouldn’t normally wear. Not a fake moustache or anything weird, just a little something sultry. Flirt a little with other people to drive each other wild with jealousy (but don’t get carried away: the point is to still go home with your own partner at the end of the evening). Making eye contact across the bar, you eventually go and talk to each other as if this is the first time you’ve ever met. And then there’s only one question: your place or his?

(We had fun with this one) meet up at a local club or bar, dress as if single and looking, both partners should randomly flirt with strangers throughout the bar until they finally meet (this gives a rush & boost of confidence), flirt away the night & eventually take each other home or to a nearby hotel for a one night stand you’ll never forget. If you've never watched modern family I suggest you take a look, the couple often meet up at romantic spots as total strangers.

Why is it so hot?

​This fantasy gets the butterflies stirring as you start to remember why you were attracted to each other in the first place. If you have been with your partner for a long time, this is a great way to keep the excitement alive in your relationship. Furthermore, you are not you, so you can try anything you want in the bedroom! But remember: you’re boyfriend is not himself either, so be open to what he wants to suggest too.

Doctor/ nurse & Patient:

The nurse or doctor makes a house call, where the patient comes onto their care giver. Play doctor. Or nurse. While we know this scenario is a little cliché, there’s a reason why it’s such a favorite. Pick up a a lab coat and a few “doctor tools” at your local thrift store, and go to town. You, of course, will assume the role of the reserved “patient” who’s in need of a very, very thorough examination. *Wink*

Boss & Secretary:

This is generally a desired roleplay for anyone who's worked in an office environment, but specially for men. When you spend all day with a tight young hottie naturally it gets tempting to give in and see how far she'd go... Fortunately there's and easier way to tap that young thang without actually having to cheat on your spouse!

This one can be played out a few different ways, whether it be the stressed out boss getting seduced by his secretary, or her being seduced by him, or even perhaps the secretary trying to get a raise. The stressed-out boss takes advantage of his late night office work & bangs his secretary over and on the desk. (works best if you have a tiny office at home).

Maybe she made a really big mistake in an email to one of your major clients, and she had to make up for her error (or get punished for it depending on the flavor you want in your scenario). Or maybe she's married and is reluctant, and you need to coax her to give into the attraction. Or maybe she's shy and innocent and young, and you need to convince her to give you her virginity. Or maybe you are both into doing it, but worried that your coworkers are going to come in and discover you. Whatever floats your boat.

Channel your inner secretary

​If  you want to go old school, pop on Maggie Gyllenhaal’s The Secretary and make some notes. This is the original kinky role play of dominant and submissive, and involves the very first Mr Grey. Trust us, one watch of this will bring out your inner Lee Holloway.

Why is it so hot?

​The dominant and submissive goes both ways, so before you know it you’ll be the one spanking him with a book over the table as he reads your water bill back to you!

Alternately try the: Sexy boss and the naughty employee

You’re the CEO and you’ve caught one of your male employee going down on his female co-worker. You reprimand him and tell him that you’re going to have to discipline him, but first you need to know exactly what happened. Make him re-enact what he did with his colleague… on you.

Of course the fling has to continue, whether it be at one of your homes, a nearby cheap motel, or even the office itself, undoubtedly you'll end up hooking up again for random oral or a good hard boredom fuck.

This is a good roleplay to have an ongoing affair or fuck buddy texting relationship with. Maybe next time meet up at a cheap motel as the secretary and boss/co-worker?

The Slutty Babysitter

My husband and I regularly role play in bed. I like to be the babysitter, that steals him from his wife whose out of town on business. This one is typically one that confuses men, but for a woman we reaaaaaly enjoy it! It's really fun for the female since it allows her to wear some very girly clothes, maybe put on some pig tails and slutty tops and short shorts, and really just feel like a teenager again. For him it’s fun to see his wife as a young and energetic slut. Being able to play the easy slut now and then is just flat out thrilling, remember those days in high school when you literally wanted to hump everything that moved?

This is a good roleplay to have an ongoing affair or fuck buddy texting relationship with.

Masseuse & Client:

Picture the scene:  (this will work for either gender as the one receiving the massage, you can be single, or married) you’re getting a relaxing massage. There’s candles everywhere, plinky plonky music filling your earholes, wine in your mouth hole, a hottie sat on your back, oil in places oil shouldn't be…. What could go wrong?

Why is it so hot?

An erotic massage is a great way to get laid and enjoy a cheeky massage at the same time. It’ll make you feel relaxed, and the constant skin-on-skin action will keep you connect and, not to mention make you super turned on. But remember, try not to be too liberal with the oil, it’s tres slippery.

Relaxing and easy for new beginners, the husband or wife calls a masseuse to come over and work out some kinks, slowly the masseuse comes onto the client. Wandering hands. Fairly modest scenario to try: Visit a masseur with wandering hands. What’s irresistible about this scene is that not only do you not have to utter a word, but the idea that you could inspire enough lust in a massage therapist that he would want to a cop a feel — well, that’s just downright thrilling. All you have to do is lie still, breathe deep and let him rub you down… heck yeah.

Teacher & Student:

More often a male fantasy than female, this fantasy involves the power aspect, dominance, innocence, and the thrill of something taboo. For the female its exciting to feel taken advantage of in an oh so naughty way.

The sex hungry teacher makes the student stay late to work on some extra credit, alternately the student can come onto the teacher asking for a better grade.

Familiar emotional hooks. The emotions behind the role-play are easy to grasp, because we’ve all been in the position of the student who really needs to pass her class. She/he doesn’t want to get kicked out of school! What will her parents think if she fails? Will she have to repeat the class? Will she graduate? She’ll do whatever it takes to satisfy her professor, even….

How to do it: Perhaps write a letter to her?

“Miss Corte,

Please come see me during office hours this evening around 7:30pm. We need to discuss your midterm exam.

Signed: Professor Thomas”

Say things like:

“[You haven’t been doing so well in class, but you really need to pass! You might have slightly cheated on your midterm… hopefully the professor hasn’t figured it out.]

“You might be able to earn some extra credit, if…”

“Before you can bring up your grade, you need to be punished for your cheating. Bend over my knee and pull down your panties. This is for your own good.”

• “How many spanks do you think you deserve?” — Make her pick a number. Does she understand how serious this situation is?
• “Are you really trying your hardest? Is this your best effort?”
• “You’ve done well on the oral portion of the exam.”
• “I expect to see you in my office every week, Miss Corte.”
• “Good girls don’t come without permission.”
• “While you’re coming, say I’m a good girl! over and over.”

“I really need to pass this class, Professor.” — Be desperate, flash your eyes, look worried.

Why is it so hot?

​This is a great one for versatility: who’s the teacher and who’s the student? Who’s going to teach who? Is there going to be an apple or a cane on the desk? (Although we don’t recommend hitting someone with an actual cane: you can get much sexier spanking toys elsewhere.) It’s not only dominance but it’s the attraction of being taught. Sex is full of lessons to be learned, so who knows what you’ll end up teaching each other.

THE THREESOME THAT’S NOT AN ACTUAL THREESOME

Pretend a Threesome: (we both loved this one) blindfold your partner, tease them and tell them all about the friend you’ve invited over to help you out, while beginning oral sex pull out a toy, for men find a silicone blowjob masturbator (realistic mouth) and use it to give him a double blowjob, you can also sit on his face while using it to suck him.

For her, play with her body, insert a realistic dildo into her & kiss her all over at the same time, a good position for this is doggy style, use a wall mountable dildo to back yourself up against the dildo while you suck on your husband at the same time. With the blindfold it begins to feel like the real thing!

One woman writes of her MFM fantasy,

“I have been masturbating since a very early age, and my earliest fantasies had to do with groups of men forcing me to have sex while some watched and participated.  Sometimes the group of guys come into my room and say that they just want to see my breasts which are rather large.  Then they begin to get excited, and they all begin touching me all over.  I usually have sex with all of them, climaxing with the last and most well endowed.  Other times I am the only female at an all-male card game.  We end up playing strip poker, and I lose of course.  So we begin playing for sexual favors.  Me and two other guys end up in the bathroom.  In this fantasy, I imagine that I am kneeling over both of them and I take turns at taking each of them into me very slowly.  I like to watch them enter me, and, as usual, they are well endowed and rock hard with excitement.  In the blink of an eye, our position is changed, I am on all fours, giving head to one, and the other enters me from behind. 
We all come at the same time.”

Special delivery

The delivery guy delivers more than just pizza. It’s a cold and rainy night and you’ve just ordered a pizza. When the delivery man arrives soaking wet, he’s having some car trouble and he needs to use your phone. Naturally your husband isn't home, so what he doesn't know wont hurt him.

Visibly cold and wet, you ask if he wouldn’t like to take off his damp clothes and pop them in the dryer… So, you’ve got a hot shirtless guy in your living room, whether your single, or your married and your man is gone, you can take it from here.

Good evening officer

You’re definitely going to need some props for this one! Tell your partner there’ve been some reports of suspicious activity and you’ve come to investigate. Of course, you’re going to have to pat him down to check for a ‘weapon’. And don’t forget the handcuffs — you’re going to need them when your suspect misbehaves.

Personal Trainer

Your new gym membership has its definite perks, most specifically your personal trainer, Biff Buffmasterson. Just a quick and honest apology and admission to each of our husbands... While at the gym we flirt... like a lot... Seeing a hot guy all covered in sweat literally makes us wet within minutes, and when they flirt, OMG our minds wander, the things we would do to that young stud who wants a piece of this married ass. Damnit will you just bend me over here and now and fuck me already?! yes we flirt hahaha. Naturally this is a biggggg fantasy of ours.

Each week he helps you with your form. Each touch as he guides you sends quivers throughout your body. Initially you hoped he would not notice how much his touching turns you on, but each week his touching lasts longer and becomes more intimate. It is past turning you on. Now it is driving you wild!

At last you can’t resist his flirtations any longer and you kiss him. He’s relieved you made the first move and reveals how thoroughly he has planned out the next step as you, you have a husband but you throw caution to the wind.

He has reserved a private exercise room and has the only key he leads you to it and locks the door. There are plenty of windows but the lights are out. Someone may see you but you don’t care. all that matters is that you’re finally able to release your carnal desires. Best workout ever!

This is a good roleplay to have an ongoing affair or fuck buddy texting relationship with.

How To Simulate A Cheating Fantasy With Your Partner

“Sometimes I like my husband to pretend I’m someone else during sex and that he’s cheating on me”. 

This is a MUST do for every couple: More men and women are owning up to having this fantasy. The fantasy of cheating on their partner, or sometimes not even the fantasy, but the thrill of doing a  new person. Whether it’s the thrill, the excitement or wanting to feel like you have a new man or woman in your life this fantasy is quickly becoming one of the top ten. I’ve got the foolproof guide to simulating a cheating fantasy like never before, in this guide you’ll learn how to use this sexual fantasy positively to enhance your sex life with your current partner and stopping the craving for someone new.

Getting Into Character

To make the cheating fantasy satisfy your sexual urges you’ll need to get into a character and get deep inside this role. You need to be disconnected from who you really both are to make this believable, if you’re moaning and groaning like you always do it will disrupt the fantasy and you will not feel like you are with someone new. Really unhook yourself from the norm and become your ultimate fantasies.
Rules
You’re only allowed to make contact over the phone, mainly through texts.
You’re never allowed to bring up the fantasy once you have begun the process.
Having a safe word already in place will save you a lot of messing around.
I recommend trying some role play prior to this fantasy as I said before you need to be this new person and so does your partner, you kind of need to know what you’re doing.
You’ll treat it like a real affair. First dates, create friction, don’t go all the way, ect.
It’s time to start creating the fantasy.
How To Simulate A Cheating Fantasy With Your Partner
The Perfect Scene

You need to pick somewhere ideal for the first date. As it’s your fantasy you can improve the advice below making it more ideal to your personal preferences. For people who are less keen in role play, you may want to skip to the sex part of this article.

Dinner: The dinner scene is the most common and usually where the fun starts. You start by creating a background story, example: Your wife/husbands best friend made a pass at you outside your house, but to remain secret you demanded to go for dinner before anything happens, “Just to talk”. You always want to have a little, yet believable back story (for those who’re not into role play you can skip this down to the sex advice).

Tips:
Both arrive at different times.
You need to go somewhere you won’t bump into friends.
Treat it like a first date.

No contact before unless it’s over the phone.
Hotel: If you’re due a little break away, then the hotel setting is the perfect place to try your cheating fantasy. You’ll usually do this after the “restaurant” scene. So, continue your story on from that point.
Pick a hotel out-of-town, doesn’t have to be expensive. Then take a two-day trip and either meet your partner there or drive up together and only have one person check in.

The female usually goes and uses the hotel to get ready while the male sits in the bar waiting (usually drinking), the female then comes down to the bar where you the man will approach her, you can do it in your own time or instantly depending on the role play.
You then retire to the same room where you have sex as many times as possible with your “new” partner. The difference in your surroundings makes it all the more realistic.

Set a monthly (or weekly) day to screw around, be sure and maintain daily sexting still in character attempting to keep the affair hidden from your real spouse.

CHEATING

1.     Never meet your lover for “affair sex” at your home. Part of the adventure is finding other places to hook up.

2.     Agree to not discuss this part of the relationship at home.

3.     Try to set up a regular schedule of “dates” with your lover.

4.     Do what you can to meet your lover out of town once in a while.

5.     Do not discuss your affair with anyone. At least until you and your spouse have incorporated the affair relationship into the marriage.

Bratty Wife: “spoiled, self-centered

A serious “fight” turns into a serious grudge-fuck. (best sex ever! must try)

Power exchange. There’s an interesting power dynamic between the bratty wife and her husband. The bratty wife gets to play at being self-centered, petty, rude, and teasing. She can put him off, reject his advances, dismiss him, ignore him, and generally stick her tongue out until he demands better behavior. The husband gets to react to his wife’s disrespect with assertive dominance. Rather than pulling back or trying to appease her brattiness, the husband gets to play a commanding role, pushing his bratty wife to treat him with obedience and respect

• “But I just want to…” — You care about you. Whine about what you want.
• “I don’t want to!”
• “Do it yourself.”
• “Make me.”
• “I can’t believe you’re making me do this.”

Eventually the brattiness turns into submissiveness and respect

• “You really know how to handle me.”
• “Yes, I’ll do whatever you say.”
• “What do you want me to do?”
• “How can I show you my love and respect?”
• “Deal with me however you see fit.”
• “I’ll do whatever you want.”

The cowboy captures the Indian maiden and teaches her the ways of the West!

photographer takes more than just candid pictures of his model.

Do I look good like this? Jumping off the previous slide, this role play is also focused on voyeurism. Make love to the camera, and the man behind it, having your guy direct your every move as he “snaps” away.

The beauty here is that he’s basically going to be ordering you around — sit like this, take that off — so you don’t really have to do much except pose, of course.

The Fireman

Everyone knows that every single fireman who ever lived is a stone-cold fox. Is it the braces, or the helmet? Or perhaps it’s just the ability to rescue a gal from a burning building. We can’t fully explain it, there’s just something about firemen that drives us ladies crazy. So just imagine this: you need saving, and your man comes to your rescue. Perhaps he needs to give you mouth to mouth…

Why is it so hot?

This is another great one for those just starting out on their role-play journey. Alix says that these classic-type scenarios means you don’t have to concentrate on character too much and can get down to what’s important: having fun and, of course, having sex. Plus every woman loves to be taken into the arms of a big, strong man.

The auto mechanic allows the young lady to “pay” for repairs in a creative way.

Perhaps park your car in your garage or even backyard if needs be, the hot shirtless mechanic finishes the job, only problem is the poor wife doesn’t have the means to pay the bill, I’m sure she can come up with an “alternate arrangement to pay the bill”.

A woman invites her sexy neighbor into the bedroom to get her tied up, blindfolded husband off.

OR

The wife is tied up, blindfolded, and “given” to another man for his pleasure.

This one simply requires a blindfold, some ropes, and enough imagination to make it seem as if an actual stranger is fucking you as your spouse watches, this really plays into the hotwife fantasy as well as the threesome fantasy and allows you to get fucked by someone else in your mind, when in actuality it’s your spouse doing the fucking.

After getting screwed maybe just lay there filled with your strangers orgasm, and allow your spouse to then come a few minutes later and “reclaim you” by fucking them next and dirty talking about what you liked about the stranger.

Rape

This is consistently one of the most common fantasies women report having, though let’s be clear that no one with a rape fantasy actually wants to be raped, as rape definitionally does not include consent. Some people are more comfortable with terminology like “ravishment,” “forced sex,” or “consensual non-consent” for this type of fantasy. There are theories it has to do with some women’s desire to avoid culpability for their sexual agency, or to feel like they’re so attractive, a potential partner just can’t help themselves. Whatever the reason, this fantasy can be an interesting way to wade into more taboo territory in your sexual imagination, if you're comfortable with it.

A woman comes home to find a “stranger” in her home with intentions to “rape” her.

rape and ravishment is a very common sexual fantasy with women. About one in two women, half of all women, openly report to having fantasies about heavily forced sex and about one in three women reports having imagined, “I’m a slave who must obey a man’s every wish. ”Over 70% of women report that being forced to have sex is their favorite sexual fantasy.
http://www.seductionscience.com/2010/the-female-rape-and-ravishment-sexual-fantasy/

Lonely housewife seduces the pool boy or yard guy

This one can be especially hot if you’ve got a pool, or even if your husband looks hot while doing the yardwork, perhaps bring him some lemonade while wearing something with heavy cleavage, bring him inside and allow him to shower off and then fuck his brains out anywhere you want. 

The millionaire offers the maid extra money if she will let him take her.

This one plays heavily into the submissive maid who will do anything to keep her job, anything… This one can be done as a male or female, but the key is you’re essentially the sex slave for the night, they give the orders, you obey if you want to keep your job.

Oddly many woman have a "Disney kink these days, outfits are available everywhere.

Sleeping Beauty. Here’s an erotic role-playing idea that requires absolutely nothing from the girl — well, except for consent: "You're in a very deep sleep and only the very skilled Prince Charming can wake you up from it. And this time, there's no guarantee that a simple kiss will do the trick... at least not just a kiss on the mouth. It's a practical role-playing game because Beauty is lying down on a bed, which is perfect for the events that follow. And it's even more of a turn-on if she takes her time to react to her prince's kisses and caresses."

Porn Star: Pick a porn you both like and re-enact it together.

This one is simple, watch a porno and re-enact it step by step! Soooooo hot!!!!!!

Dominant & Submissive

People seem to be more willing to express an interest in exploring the realms of dominant and submissive behavior in their sex lives since the popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey in mainstream culture.

Many of you may still be afraid to step foot into this unchartered sexual territory, though. S&M is very misunderstood, and women can be afraid that they are going to be bullied or hurt if they take part in this kind of sexual play. On the other hand, women might be shy to tell their boyfriends they need a more dominant role from him in the bedroom in order to get turned on, or vice versa.

If you are worried what impression you might give your partner if you express an interest in exploring dominant and submissive roles in the bedroom, and wonder – will he think I’m a freak if I reveal my kinky side? – Stop worrying right now! Most men will be willing to explore anything that gets you hot. Believe it or not, men are mostly turned on when they are able to turn their women on!

It is a pity that more people don’t take the time to fully understand the pleasure potential that discovering the dominant or submissive side to one’s personality can unveil.

Tip: If you want to develop a better understanding of how dominant and submissive behavior works, and what people might get out of this kind of role play, a fun introduction would be to watch The Secretary.

Why is it so hot?

​Alix tells us, response to impact or injury, the body produces natural ‘painkilling’ chemicals called endorphins. By purposely exposing themselves to pain, masochists can trigger these sublime sensations on demand." It is important to remember that being a submissive doesn’t mean that you are or have to be weak: the physical pain is a small part of it. And whilst the dominant is essentially in charge, they can only go as far as the submissive will allow. A sadomasochistic relationship means putting a huge amount of trust in each other, which is sexy in its own right.

Animalistic

Every guy loves the idea of a woman raking his back with her long nails – full of passion, desire, and wanton lust! So why not literally ‘play’ at being wild animals in the jungle? It might sound a bit weird but imagine the lusty freedom of pawing at each other, growling with desire, and leaping about on the bed! Not to mention playing out all those animal kingdom themes of hunt, chase and devour.

 

Don’t be afraid to get a bit rough and playful, he will love feeling you nip him with your teeth. Cower beneath him when he retaliates and then pounce on him again when he’s least expecting it. You will love feeling the vibrations of his deep growl as he bites into your neck or nuzzles other, ahem, intimate areas! This one should be a regular in your relationship, taking turns swapping roles?

When it comes down to it a lot of women just aren't aggressive enough in bed for their man to stay happy, which is why he'll eventually get bored with you sadly... You've got to be just as animalistic, dominant, and pushy as he can be. Think like a man, how do you like to be dominated? Do it back to him, its that simple!

Sex with an ex

The idea of going there again would be bad, but the ways in which they understand your body can be so, so good. In your fantasy life, you can revisit the excellent ex you’ll (hopefully) never hook up with again, without any of the emotional drama that would arise if you tried.

As a spouse I love pretending I’m my spouses ex and having him treat me like them, even saying their name, it makes a bit of jealousy a good thing, specially when I pretend they're my ex ;) It’s  a great way to apply new things you did with an ex but are afraid to apply now. A blindfold will go a long way with this one as you both use your imaginations.

Repair man:

You’ve had a number of projects that you’ve needed help with, but the more work he does, the more things you seem to think of that require his specific skillsets. Watching him work around your home is riveting, and when his hands expertly handle your plumbing or cabinetry, you can’t help but think about what that attention to detail would feel like if it were focused on you. Would he take charge of a steamy situation between you two as effortlessly as he did your last remodel?

You realize you’re staring and start to look away, but are caught before you can and become flushed. Did he smile, or are you just imagining it? Questions whirl around. Would it be wrong if something did happen? Is there an unfair power dynamic because you’re employing him and he’s currently on the job? Do you actually care? Your broken A/C has made it hotter than normal, or is that just your body reacting to your fantasizing? Remembering your manners, and looking for a reason to approach him, you pour him a cold glass of water, and turn to hand it to him…right as he’s taking off his shirt. He smiles as you freeze like a deer in the headlights, and takes the glass from you, downing it in several gulps.

You are transfixed, by his newly revealed torso, the sweat rolling off his body from the effort he’s been expending, and the bob of his Adam’s apple as he drinks down the ice water in long draughts. He finishes and steps forward as he hands you back the glass. You can smell him now, the heady musk of a man who’s been pushing himself, hard. He smiles again and asks you if the A/C is the only reason you called him, or if there might be other work for him to do. As the realization of what he’s suggesting grows, a slow smile steals across your face. Moved to boldness, you grab hold of his toolbelt and intimate that yes, there is another project that needs some attention. While maintaining eye contact and undoing his buckle say, “But we’ll have to see if you have the right tool for the job.

You can approach this a few different ways, whether it be her throwing herself at him, her helping him take off his wet clothing from the repair, her acting like a whore, or even him coming onto her slowly. Cleavage is a must, slutiness is a must, blowjobs are a must, screaming whorish sex is required, nothings hotter than “telling him to hurry before her husband gets home”.

Why is it so hot?

​There are many erotic aspects that come into play with this one. It’s someone different, someone who isn’t your partner. Someone who can help you at your time of need. He can fix stuff that we can’t be bothered to learn to fix. This kind of fantasy can help to keep your long-term, monogamous relationship from feeling too monotonous, Alix advises. And, as your partner is now the repairman/lover, the thought that your ‘husband’ could come home any second leaves you with the thrill of being discovered.

Prostitution/Call-girl

The first thing that probably comes to your mind at the thought of your man wanting to sleep with a prostitute is ‘yuck’! The risk of sexually transmitted disease is thankfully enough to put anyone off, even most men. But when the risk is eliminated, the idea of hiring an anonymous professional to satisfy one’s carnal sexual needs is many a man’s secret fantasy.

Call girl. Have your partner “book an appointment” with you, and have him list exactly what he wants as you act like a call girl whose sole purpose is to cater to his every need. Then, provide all the services he has requested. You’ll be surprised at how empowering — and hot — it can feel to immerse yourself in the role of someone you would never have associated yourself with before.

In fact, your man may have privately attributed the role of dirty slapper to you in the past without you even knowing about it! What? The cheek of him! Alas, it is probably true, so you may as well get involved – why should he have all the fun!

Let him ‘book an appointment’ with you, or even arrange one for him, turn up at the hotel room he has booked (or you booked for him) as if you are a complete stranger, with the right attire on underneath your raincoat of course – and provide all the services he has requested. You’ll be surprised at how sexy it can feel to immerse yourself in the role and environment of someone you would never have associated yourself with before. I’ve done it before and believe me, it is a liberating experience!

The High-Priced Escort and the Client

Costumes:

* the sexiest shoes you own
* stockings, knee socks, thigh highs, or stocking-style fishnets
* a garter belt, if required
* super skanky panties 

* a sexy bra
* a ridiculously short dress or skirt
* a cropped jacket or sexy coat
* a sexy top, if you want to bother with that, or if it makes you feel more confident
* a slightly trashy or over-the-top purse or bag filled with supplies and goodies
* bling – huge earrings, gold chains, body jewelry, toe rings
* fake tattoos
Note: The more detail, the better. Think about who this escort is. Is she smart and polished? Is she trashy and street-smart? Does she have a signature move, like a silk scarf she wears tied around her neck to use for bondage play later? Will she only meet clients wearing four-inch hoops? Does her supply kit contain a fresh pair of underwear that will ‘accidentally’ spill out on the table in front of the client?

THE CLIENT:

* Comfortable, at-home attire (if this is a house call)
* alternatives can include business attire (for a hotel location), club wear or upscale casual if you’re meeting at a bar or lounge, very casual if you’re going to pick up your escort/hooker on the street corner.

HAIR AND MAKEUP – ESCORT:

* Hair should be tastefully over-the-top – style it with large Velcro rollers for big, loose curls, or iron it straight and tease it slightly at the crown
* A pony tail, side pony tail, or pigtails can make great handles
* Very few men can resist a good smoky eye finished with full, glossy lips. Think high, high shine. I love MAC Lip gloss for dress-up. They are really sticky and have real staying power when put to the test. For a truly trashy look, line your lips first with a pencil several shades darker than the gloss. This is often all that is left behind, and for some reason this look makes guys mental.
* Self-tanner like Bare Essentials Faux Tan is awesome for that fake-tan look. Don’t forget bronzer for your face too!
* Splurge and get a mani/pedi if there is time. Air-brushed French manicure and pedicure are classic

SETTING THE SCENE:


The escort/client scenario offers lots of possibilities for play. I’d recommend trying this one for the first time somewhere relatively private, where you’ll be most comfortable. If you can play at home, uninhibited by the reminders of your “real life”, then this is a great place to start. Otherwise, the privacy of a cheap motel is awesome.
The escort should arrive on the scene to meet the client. This means if you’re at home, you may have to stage this either by getting ready elsewhere, or by texting each other to avoid ruining the surprise. The idea is to stay out of sight until you arrive at the appointment. Trust me, the anticipation and impact of that first glimpse of you properly tarted-up will do half the work for you.

Take your time getting ready, ladies. You may find that the process of getting made up and dressed up for sex is highly arousing. This scene can even be a total surprise, so long as you have a good cover for why you need an hour plus for prep. Text your man when you are at the ten-minutes-to-show-time mark, so he knows to either hide while you leave the house, or to be ready for your arrival.

Some Suggestions:
If he knows about the scenario that is going to transpire, or he knows that you’re up to something and you’re meeting in public:
TEXT: “Hi [insert name]. It’s [insert ridiculous call-girl name] from the Agency. I’m about ten minutes away and wanted to give you the head’s up.”
Instant hard-on.

If your visit is an at-home surprise:
TEXT: “Hey there. Please hang out in the [insert room in house away from the main entrance]. I’ve got a surprise, and you’ll know what to do next when I’m all ready.”
Instant confusion, and perhaps some panic, until he sees you. Then, instant hard-on.

If the client knows about the scenario, he can prepare drinks, music, and anything else he might like (cameras, towels, toys, movies, etc.). If he doesn’t, try to think ahead and include all of this stuff in your kit.

The kit should be a fully-loaded arsenal of anything or everything you might use to play out the scenario. The sky’s the limit here, really. I would advise that you only use toys that you’re comfortable and experienced with, since you’re supposed to be a pro. This scenario should play out as smoothly as possible, so trying new things in this context isn’t recommended.

When you and your kit are ready to go, slip out of the house (if you’re at home) or head to the meeting place. If you’re meeting on the street or in public, text to make sure that your client is there before you are, to make sure you’re as safe as possible.

THE ARRIVAL:

Be very gracious to your client upon meeting him. Give him your sexiest smile, delicately shake his hand, and introduce yourself with your ridiculous new name. Remember that you are working, that your job is to entirely please your client, and that you’re really great at your job.

Your client may be very sweet. He may offer you a drink, or a snack. Only take these things if offered, and make sure to take whatever is offered to you. (Assuming your partner knows about any pre-existing food allergies, etc.) The only thing that you should request is water if you’re thirsty.

Answer his questions as vaguely and sexily as you can. Don’t offer any personal details, or ask him any personal questions. If you are playing at home, and notice any family photos, do not comment on them. A pro would never make her client reflect on his wife and children. (What kind of naughty, naughty person would have a prostitute in their family home? These are the moments when role-play makes me want to giggle.)

Once you’ve established the introductions, let the games begin, taking the client’s lead. You may decide to settle up payment first, you may decide that the date is on his account (hahaha!) or you may decide to skip this part and just begin to show him your kit. Let him instruct you and remember your only goal is customer satisfaction.

Expect to be asked to go change into something a bit more scandalous, and eventually perform a strip tease and/or a lap dance (you may want to practice this first because yikes!) to remove your clothes. If you aren’t asked to do this, but are comfortable initiating a strip show, then by all means, go ahead you naughty little muffin! Let the client remove his own clothes as he decides that he wants to. DO NOT remove your shoes or your stockings or any jewelry at any point, unless he tells you to.

Enjoy the ride. Both parties should try to remain in character, unless the safe word is used. When you’re ready to end the scenario, you can tag out and then enjoy each other’s descriptions of the experience. As you grow more comfortable with this particular scenario, move the location elsewhere. Costuming may have to be slightly modified for public appearance, but a new locale can pack a powerful punch for both players.

OTHER TIPS:

*If you are asked to strip or dance, take your time. Enjoy the tease.

*Clients, you may want to start out on your best behavior, but as you grow more comfortable in the scene, try to really take on the role of someone who has paid for sex, whatever this means to you. Trust that your partner will give you cues, and will use your safe word if she’s uncomfortable.

*Remove a typical, intimate act from the repertoire – like kissing on the mouth. I know, it’s so “Pretty Woman” but if it’s something you’re both used to, the tease of it being off the table will be so delicious. If your client is good to you, maybe you’ll even bend your own rule.

*Dirty talk and porn star sound effects are absolutely perfect in this scenario. The sky’s the limit here. Challenge yourself to not feel shy or self-conscious.

*Complement each other as you enjoy how hot you are together. Be dirty with the compliments. We all love to hear these things, believe me.

*Escorts, if you bring a vibe, or if you want to orgasm, don’t try until you ask the client if that’s what they want. If they don’t want it, don’t do it. Wait to get off when the scenario has ended.

*Practice makes perfect. This scenario is so delicious, and open to so many variables. Re-visit it as often as you like. Even go so far as to set up an email address to “schedule appointments”. Really explore your relationship, and the joy of sex that is strictly about getting each other off.

SO NOW THAT WE KNOW ALL THE FANTASIES HOW TO DO THEM??!!

1.      First, Figure Out Your Fantasy

2.      Now Share It

3.      Establish Some Limits

4.      Set the Scene

5.      Don't Forget to Have Fun

6.      Do It Already

Also feel free to visit the below wiki page for how to roleplay made easy!

http://www.wikihow.com/Role-Play-With-Your-Lover-or-Spouse

Some of the best sex we have comes from roleplay, yes there will be times it’s so silly we both break character and have a good laugh and have to recompose ourselves, but the thrill of screwing new people without actually doing so is amazing! What’s more amazing is when you find a role or scenario you like, and can keep the sexting going through a 3^rd party private app where you can sext pretending to be these people on a monthly or even weekly basis. There are even simple adult board games that focus on the exact topic of role-play and sex!