WE HAD OUR FIRST THREESOME! YAY!

In the past few decades, threesomes have moved from dirty taboo to wild fantasy (commonly considered a male-driven one) to a fun diversion for committed couples. Now they're just another option on life's sexual smorgasbord — for couples, no its not a porn thing, it’s a couple thing. As cultural attitudes toward sex, sexual identity, and relationships change, three-ways are less "something you saw in porn" and more "something you talk about at brunch." "Threesomes are becoming more mainstream as a topic. Real people, real couples do this.

As a firm believer in Jesus Christ, who believes in and follows his teachings, I can with 100% confidence exclaim that he in no way shape or form condemns threesomes... As we have discussed in the past Christianity in the past has twisted and churned sexuality into being a sin, when in reality the bible clearly shows and even states its not... Filled with threesomes, swinging, incest, polygamy, extra marital sex when its consensual between spouses, heck, even pre-marital sex is not frowned upon. Yet over the decades our scriptures have been twisted and turned into something they aren't, making sex evil... T see this clearly we need only to look at the Aramaic or Hebrew bible, the oldest and most accurate around. Their “Christian biblical principles” are nowhere found in the Bible.

The argument that God disapproved of multiple partners but tolerated it, as with divorce, is unfounded. There is no suggestion anywhere that polygamous, same-sex or extramarital unions are intrinsically wrong. Some may be, but not all. Yes, Solomon was rebuked for taking too many foreign wives. But nationality was the problem there, not multiplicity. Although 700 does look a bit greedy [1 Kings 11:1-3]. God’s prophet told King David he could have had even more wives had he wanted [2 Samuel 12:7-8]. This is just not possible if polygamy was in any way sinful. “It is good for a man not to touch a woman”, Paul instructs [1 Cor 7:1]. And later, “He who marries does right, but he who does not marry does better.” [1 Cor 7:36-38] AKA SEX HAS VERY FEW LIMITS WHEN ITS CONSENSUAL IN MARRIAGE...

OUR FIRST THREESOME:

The sexiest, craziest, most erotic experience of my life, and one hell of a memory.
Just to rehash, I'm a stay-at-home-mom with small kids, both of us come from a pretty traditional ethnic/religious background, so there was an extra layer of taboo to this whole thing. This has been a fantasy of mine for years now. The fantasy itself has been a part of our bedroom play for years now, but kids, work, and of course nervousness kept getting in the way of making it a reality. finally last month I decided I was ready and we set up a date with an online contact (using SLS app).





I was so nervous that night, I almost called it off. (he was too, but he tried not to show it.) I gave it a 40% chance this was gonna end in regret and shame for both of us, 40% chance that it was just gonna be a disappointment, and maybe a 20% chance (if even that) that it was gonna be a positive experience.





We met him at a local lounge that night. he was ridiculously hot, but pretty awkward in the beginning. (i guess all three of us were). he later told us I was only his 3rd wife ever, a couple of drinks later and we were all better, my husband went outside for to allow me and my our guy friend to get a little friendlier. My husband came back, paid the bill, and told the guy to meet us in our room in 30 minutes, so I could get a head-start on the bottle of wine we brought to lose my nerves (which worked like a champ).





I'll spare all the details, but here goes: it started out a little awkward, but when we found our rhythm, it was the most mind-blowing experience i ever had. I never felt nastier, sexier, sluttier, more womanly and sexually and free. I came so hard the first time I thought I was having an out-of-body experience, and my whole body shook. About 30 minutes in, my husband laid back on the couch and started stroking himself while he watched the two of us. I came twice while he watched. this guy's dick was just so perfect, he hit all the right spots in the most delicious ways, and he was a great kisser.





We went down to the beach by the hotel and just walked around in a glow. BEST EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And yes, we'll be doing it again.

 

WHITNEYS ENJOYMENTS

• The hands: Having four hands on both breasts, my hips, ass, neck, pussy, and so on all at the same time was too much too handle, the sensations of being worshiped were indescribable.

• The kissing: Feeling my man (or him) kiss me as the other sucked my nipples, pussy, or elsewhere was insanely hot, it basically was a double up of oral sex and kissing foreplay all at once.

• Two big hard cocks: Need I say more?

• The added moaning: Something about getting it on  with a stranger just made me let go and scream!
• The empowerment: giving two guys a BJ at once made me feel powerful, in charge, like a goddess who was the expert. looking up at two guys whose eyes kept rolling back just made me gushing wet.

• The new experience: Like a first date all over again, nervous, excited, horny, anxious.

• The intense orgasms: I've never orgasmed so much and often in my life. there was a point that I tried dp and for the 15 minutes I must have cum15 times, first vaginally, then anally, then on my clit, and it just kept rotating. BEST SEX OF MY LIFE! ever woman needs to experience this.

• The cum: I love cum, its my prize at the end. And when you do two guys at once you'll have plenty to spare.

• The looks: Seeing him in awe as I pleasured another man, I've never seen him so proud and happy

• The dirty talk: think dirty talk is great with two people? try adding one more!
• The rush of pure bliss: The most pleasure and fun we'd ever had as a couple! By the end it felt like just getting off a first date with someone you're totally fallen for.

WHAT WHITNEY DISLIKED

• The nerves before it all went down
• The positions became tricky at times to make work
• The scripted feel since we wanted to be the ones leading the pace and in control.

WHAT BRETT ENJOYED

• The looks on her face: Seeing her eyes rolling back as she kissed me or blew me, as he did her from behind was the single hottest thing I've ever experienced hands down, she moaned as she looked deep into my eyes which drove me wild.

• The noises she made: Squeals, grunts, moans, screaming, many noises I'd never heard before.
• Seeing her come out of her shell: She opened up and showed extreme confidence,

• Seeing her go above and beyond like we used to do when dating: She was always eager to impress him just like a first date, wanting to put on a good show for us both.

• The eye contact and smiling: here stares with her smile and gasping jaw made it all worth it.

• Her eagerness to please: She went into slut/whore mode, going all out in every aspect imaginable.

• The positions: Sexy as heck to see her suck while taking another strangers dick, and vice versa.

• Seeing her happy: LOVED IT!!!!!! she was smiling, orgasming, laughing, giggling, moaning, it was such an incredible bonding experience.

• Watching her orgasm endlessly: She must have cum 20+ times in 3 hours... Need I say more?
• The thrill of seeing her with a new guy: It was something totally new and different and added to her thrills.

• A shared experience: We bonded like never before afterwards, cuddling, reminiscing, making love again with just the two of us.

THE NEGATIVES FROM BRETTS PERSPECTIVE

• The nerves leading up to it: It was like having a first date or something, but it kind of was nice and brought us back to our dating days.
• The momentary "should we do this" jealousy thought: When I first saw him put his hands on my wife I had that brief "oh crap moment, but the second I saw her gasp and moan that feeling turned to enjoyment and love.
• The pace: with 3 people there are a few awkward times where it got confusing on what to do next/ who was going to set the pace.
• The positions: Some positions were great, others were harder to maneuver with 3 people
• The desire to do it again ASAP: The only bad thing was we both wanted to do it again ASAP!

WORDS OF ADVICE TO MAKE IT GO SMOOTH

1. If done properly, the experience will bring you closer together and intensify the physical intimacy between the two of you.

2.  Group sex can increase your desire for your primary partner.  For many people, it is easy to take your partner for granted and forget what an amazing person you have in your life.  Seeing your wife with another man (or woman) can make you see her “anew” and remind you why she is the love of your life.  Group sex can also make you want to claim her as yours, which can bring exciting energy into your relationship.

Threesomes can be male, male, female (MMF) or male, female, female (MFF) and different couples are likely going to have difference preferences about the gender of the third person whom they invite as a paramour. There will also be those couple who may wish to experience both MMF and MFF threesomes.

Lots of guys are surprisingly cool with sleeping with their friends (in a threesome situation, at least). I was surprised to find that guys are really cool with each other more than we they are with jealousy.


The old wives tale of "threesomes will doom your relationship" is such a load of horse manure.

Nearly anything CAN ruin a relationship, if handled poorly. But then, was it the thing itself, or how it was handled? Surveys have shown that ALL who plan well, set rules, communicate, end up loving it, the only relationships that fail are those that are already crippled with anger or harsh feelings, and those who don't prepare beforehand.

If you're doing it with your partner, make the whole process feel like a team activity. Come up with rules together. Find your third together. Plan the night together. For me, each step of the way has been a fun bonding experience, from initially sharing the fantasy with one another, to seeking out potential partners. You really feel like you're in this together and are learning about one another.

 

Finding a third person who everyone is attracted to can take a really, really long time. You'll strike out a lot when looking for a partner, but the important thing to remember is that no matter what, at the end of the night, you still get to go home and have amazing sex with someone who knows and loves you. It's a win/win really.

Sites like AdultFriendFinder, tinder, SLS or apps like 3nder, a Tinder-like app designed to hook up couples and singles, are options that can help people get over some of the initial awkwardness of arranging a three-person sex date, Being able to negotiate everyone's terms over an app or email lets everyone be clear about their boundaries from the start," she says, "which makes for a more positive experience."

 

Prepare for the worst.

many of us fail to anticipate worst-case scenarios—such as, say, seeing our partner look longingly into a third wheel’s eyes in that special way we thought he or she only gazed at us. To prevent yourself from flipping out when everyone’s clothes are off, visualize the whole event (beforehand): Imagine your partner making out with or touching another person. Or what they might look like getting someone else off. (Consider, also, that this unnamed other could be more attractive, or fitter, than you.) Talk to your partner ahead of time about some of the things you hope will go right, and some of the things that could go wrong. Even the possibility that you or your partner may fall for the third (or vice versa). This way, if surprises happen, you and your partner will be better prepared to deal with them.

• What if the other guy is really good? Could you handle your wife getting pleasure from a more skilled lover?
• What if your wife wants out after it starts? How would you tactfully call it off?
• If it turns out to be a negative experience, how will it affect your relationship? If one of you hates it and the other loves it, then what?

Set Boundaries

If one participant is someone that you are in a committed relationship with, it is important to establish what is and is not acceptable including the scenario (two girls, two guys, etc), kissing, oral sex, or even penetration. Talk about what’s on and off the table. Is your special guest going to play with just you, or does your boyfriend get to get in on the action too? Are you rounding the bases, or just sticking with foreplay? Is kissing OK? Would you feel comfortable letting her stay the night, or do you want her to leave right after the fun?

Other issues to consider are self-esteem. How would this activity make you feel about yourself? How would it make your partner feel about herself? 

Take Baby Steps Have a drink if you want to calm your nerves, but don’t get drunk. Being intoxicated makes it so much harder to make good decisions. Plus, you want to be able to actually enjoy your threesome, right? How sad would it be to wake up the next morning with only foggy memories?

Try a blindfold if you get nervous. Wearing a blindfold always helps reduce tension and nerves in most sexual cases. If nerves are too much. Either start slow and ease into it, or flat out jump on each other like wild animals. We took the slow route and the nerves quickly disappeared.

 

Always bring an extra condoms.

 

Don't expect to just lie back while two people go to town on you. You're going to have to multitask. My partner recently told me, 'A threesome isn't just a tag-team match. Ideally it's a free-for-all of pleasure. Otherwise it's more serial voyeurism, which isn't a bad thing, but often that isn't the goal.

There is no “I” in Threesome A threesome involves “3” people. Even if two of the three people involved are in a relationship, it is important to realize that there are three people in the bed that need satisfying. Giving equal attention is crucial. Do not be selfish!

 

Don’t be jealous, It’s ok to take breaks, sit on the side and watch or hell, go make a sandwich. Your partners must be hungry too! Nobody needs to be the star of the show. I personally love to take a step back and watch what is happening in front of me.

 

Communication is more important than anything else you do the whole night. While I enjoy spontaneous sex, it's vital that everyone has a similar set of expectations from the sexual encounter. Negotiate safer sex, comfort levels with different sexual acts, and be present with everyone involved as much as possible.

 

Check in afterward to make sure everyone is feeling awesome and cared for. Sometimes even if the sex was out-of-this-world amazing, if there are lingering issues between the folks involved, it's going to be seen as a negative experience

 

The next time you have sex with just you and your partner after a threesome can be amazing. "I look forward to it being just the two of us. Each threesome has been a fun experience that I don't regret at all, but in the end, each one makes me appreciate what my man and I have together.

Better Sex Life If you are in a relationship, many believe that your chances of remaining in a committed relationship drastically improve.

threesome allows for variety and some familiarity. If you are single having a threesome gives you a chance to “play” and experience new things in turn increasing your creativity in the bed room.

It's totally cool if you want to have one threesome and then never do it again.


Threesomes WILL NOW BE A REGULAR PART OF OUR SEX LIVES! WE RECCOMEND IT TO EVERY HUSBAND AND WIFE TO EXPERIENCE. The experience not only brought us closer together, but has increased our desire to have sex, to stay fit wanting to stay attractive!


Update: Next on the to do list: FFM Threesomes ;) We're planning on adding either my best girl friend, or maybe even my sister whose always had a thing for Brett!