Biblical Marriage: It Doesn’t mean What You Think It Means (Part 1)

The Bible does not condemn “homosexuality.” Seriously, it doesn’t.

Can we please stop shaming, condemning, judging, and misunderstanding the LGBT community? We’re all Christians, right? THEN START ACTING LIKE IT.

Today many supposedly conservative Christians have no trouble explaining what Jesus would do about LGBT issues, since “the bible says its all wrong”. BUT IS IT?

Just like history, history changes, take for example our earth, the bible states it’s 6000 years old, that it was then that Adam and Eve began, it was 4000 years ago that Noah’s ark survived the flood which covered the entire earth. Pretty straight forward right? WRONG. We know now that the earth is millions of years old! We know that there is evidence of advanced civilizations and human colonies as far back as 12,000 years ago, we know that there has been no worldwide flood in the past 20,000 years if at all, and that the only major flooding occurred 12,000 years ago when the icecaps in the Americas melted, flooding major portions of the world. HISTORY CONTINUES TO RE-WRITE ITSELF.

So it is with the scriptures, they are at times wrong, or even taken out of context, through decades and centuries of scriptural manipulation and changes, and through the misinterpretation of the language itself, Christianity as a whole had come to reject and hate LGBT relationships to the fullest extent. But what if Christianty had it all wrong?

Let’s rewind 2000 years back to the time of the beginning of Catholicism, an age where the Nicaean Creed was composed, as Catholic monks gathered together all of the scriptural writings of the gospel and translated them to the best of their ability into what is now the Holy Bible. Now lets fast forward to 2003, when scrolls and documents were found along with the “red sea scrolls” that vastly contradict the Catholic views on LGBT issues. Quickly the Catholic church came clean that it has over centuries altered the scriptures to its own preferences, and no longer condemns LGBT to a full extreme, and is even on the verge of removing its practice as a sin!

Now here’s the BIG ISSUE AT HAND… 95% of Christianity borrowed or originated with Catholicism as a religion, we all have similar founding beliefs, and while some beliefs have changed we all took from them the belief that gay and lesbian tendencies and relationships are sinful. Well good news! Not only has the original scrolls and documents revealed that LGBT beliefs are not a sin, but that catholic church revealed the same! So since we as Christians barrowed all our beliefs from them, and we’ve confirmed from two sources that LGBT beliefs are not a sin, why do we still believe and condemn it as a sin in most Christian religions??!!! It’s as if we can’t put 2 and 2 together…

Ask any Christian if LGBT beliefs are sinful, and they’ll be quick to point out “It’s in the bible that it’s a sin!”, BUT IS IT? Let’s review. Whether its Gay/Lesbian relationships, Sex before marriage, oral sex and swallowing, or even things like swinging and hotwifing, Christianity has lost its way.

WIVES & HUSBANDS BEING OBLIGATED FOR DAILY SEX

“Deprive ye not one another, unless it is by consent for a season, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer and again be joined, that Satan doesn’t tempt your inconsistency”. Makes sense, right? Husbands and wives have the responsibility to love each other sexually regularly, but nowhere does this say daily, nowhere does this say that if either party doesn’t feel like having sex that day can the man or woman force their spouse (rape) to indulge.

BUT YOU WON’T HEAR THIS IN ANY CHRISTIAN CHURCH… You’ll hear “My dear women of Christ, if your husband seeks to make love to you, join him! No matter what”.

MODESTY

We’ve all heard it, we’ve all been shamed for it, or worse shamed someone else for dressing a tad sexy… Go to ANY Christian church and they’ll teach that modest is hottest, and your worth to God is determined by covering the girls up, or by not showing too much leg… WRONG!

I could list 20+ references to the wives of the prophets, the women of the bible, or even the women of the church, their apparel, of the breasts hung practically openly exposing their beautiful cleavage, luxurious legs, and long flowy hair. So yeah, please stop, just stop with the slut shaming, if a woman wants to be modest she is free to do so, if she wants to dress sexy she is free to do so, neither is a sin, neither is a commandment.

GAY AND LESBIAN SEX

REASON #1 LGBT is condemned:

Mathew 19: “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Don’t get me wrong, this is so beautiful, correct, and Godly inspired, and even scriptuarally accurate as far as translation goes. BUT HERE’S THE ISSUE: While Man and woman come together in marriage, nowhere does it state a marriage to a man and man, or woman and woman is ungodly or sinful. It may not be ordained of God, but neither is it a sin.

REASON # 2 LGBT is condemned

Exodus 20:14 "Thou shalt shall not commit adultery".

Seems straight forward right? Don’t cheat on your spouse!!! But guess what the accurate translation paints a very clear picture “Accurate Hebrew translation: Thou shalt not forsake, nor put away, nor hide thy loins from thy husband or thy wife)”. What does this all mean? Don’t divorce for someone else, don’t have a hidden affair, don’t abandoned your partner, that sleeping around while married is not a sin if it is consensual between the man and wife. The correct translation completely alters the meaning doesn’t it!

REASON # 3 LGBT is condemned

Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."

Again, a beautiful verse and oh so accurate when understood clearly! A marriage is ordained of God, it is holy, it is not to be abandoned or betrayed by cheating via adultery without consent, and as far as sexually Immoral, we’ll get into this in the next few verses describing the “male temple prostitutes that sought to corrupt the Hebrew religion with Pagan idols.

REASON #4 LGBT is condemned

Matt 5:27-28: He that looketh on a woman lustfully, with the intent to put away, has already committed adultery in his heart.

This one is a tricky one, I look at my man (as does he me) lustfully all the time, again THE KEY WORD HERE IS ADULTERY, defined as sleeping with another person while married without the consent of your spouse. So yeah, if my husband was not ok with me sleeping with other guys, and I was to lustfully check out another guy at the supermarket, I would have committed adultery in my heart. Consent is the key, without it, it becomes adultery.

REASON # 5 LGBT is condemned

Ephesians 5:3).“But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people”

Again, a great ideal to stay pure, the Temple prostitutes of the time (sexual immorality) was  a large issue, leading many in the Christian faith to flee to the Greek Gods instead since the temple prostitutes were Greek and considered evil for the murder of Christ.

SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

One of the most common promises a Christian youth commits to is a purity pledge, promising the stay pure and a Virgin before marriage. Christianity mistakenly uses the Bible word "Fornication" They say that when Jesus refers to Fornication, he is not referring to pre-marital marriage, but rather to perverse acts. Lets look back at the meaning of Fornications meaning at the time the verse was made:

fornication (noun): sexual intercourse between partners who are not married and worship different Gods.

avoid fornication (1 Thess. 4:3)

This one has it’s Pro’s and Con’s, as fornication could lead to an unexpected pregnancy and forced marriage of those of different faiths. Obviously in such scenario the apostles would encourage us not to sleep around with such a risk at hand! But that is not to say that Sex before marriage between to loving partners of the same faith is condemned, we need only look at the Prophetess Ruth to understand that sex before marriage IS NOT A SIN!

Really? Where does the Bible give a green light to premarital sex?

Perhaps the most striking example is in the story of Ruth, though there are other examples as well. According to the Book of Ruth, when the recently widowed Ruth and her mother-in-law Naomi were faced with a famine in Ruth’s homeland Moab, they returned to Israel impoverished and with little hope of survival. Ruth took to gleaning in the fields to find food for herself and Naomi. The owner of the fields, a relative of Naomi named Boaz, saw Ruth and was pleased by her. When Naomi heard about it, she encouraged Ruth to adorn herself and approach Boaz at night while he was sleeping to see what would happen. Ruth took this advice, resting with him until morning after first “uncovering his feet” (in Hebrew, “feet” can be a euphemism for male genitals). The next day, Boaz goes to town to find out whether he can marry her, and, luckily, another man with a claim to Ruth agrees to release her. They do marry and together they produce Obed, the grandfather of King David.

None of this would have been possible if Ruth had not set out to seduce Boaz in a field, without the benefit of marriage.

So what does this all mean? CHRISTIANITY HAS NO CLUE ABOUT WHAT GOD DEEMS OK SEXUALLY, THEY FOCUS ON 10 key scriptures AND IGNORE THE OTHER SCRIPTURES, and the context of the scriptures themselves. We see it throughout the bible, LGBT relationships being blessed by God, we see women dressing sexy, we see examples of polygamy, swinging, hotwifing, sex before marriage, and so on, AND ALL IS GOOD IN THE SIGHT OF GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! When you understand the context the translations, and how beautiful sex can be, that’s when sex becomes beautiful. 

OK, but what about Jesus? Can we appeal to him on these questions? Wasn’t he opposed to divorce, for example? And what does his decision not to marry tell us today?

Sodom and Gomorrah

Third, when people say that the “Bible says homosexuality/gay marriage is a sin,” I know that they believe that the Bible says this, since I used to think so, too. But it does not. There are passages such as the Sodom story (Genesis 19), which depicts every male in the town gathering to gang rape some visitors. The issue there is not “gay sex,” but rather that these men were just plain cruel to outsiders and not hospitable. The scene would have been no less offensive if Lot had succeeded in giving the men his two virgin daughters to do to them as they pleased. That is about cruelty. There are other passages people turn to, such as Leviticus 18:22, and focus on men having sex as an abomination. But they do not take into account why. Just as in Genesis 38, where Onan is struck dead for avoiding getting his sister-in-law pregnant by pulling out early, the issue is about the people of Israel needing to grow in numbers. Any wasting of semen was not to be tolerated and thus was an abomination. None of those situations are talking about two same-sex people in loving relationships.

The savior clearly states that Sodom and Gomorrah was destroyed due to the fact it didn’t love its neighbor and was not hospitable to strangers, along with their pervasive rape culture, not once in either story is LGBT sin ever brought up. AGAIN, UNDERSTAND THE CONTEXT MY SISTERS AND BROTHERS!

David and Jonathan: Same-sex love between men in the Bible

Love between men is celebrated in the Bible with the story of David and Jonathan. “Your love to me was wonderful, surpassing the love of women,” David said in his famous a lament for Jonathan. David’s feast day is Dec. 29.

Jonathan fell in love at first sight of the handsome young hero. As the Bible says, “The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David.” Their story gets more chapters in the Bible than any other human love story. There are no actual wedding ceremonies in the Bible, but the covenant between Jonathan and David is described in detail.

The modern idea of sexual orientation didn’t exist in Biblical times, but the powerful love story of Jonathan and David in 1 and 2 Samuel suggests that same-sex couples are affirmed and blessed by God.

“Then they kissed each other and wept together—but David wept the most. Jonathan said to David, “Go in peace, for we have sworn friendship with each other in the name of the Lord, saying, ‘The Lord is witness between you and me, and between your descendants and my descendants forever.’”

Were Ruth and Naomi Lesbians?

Ruth loved Naomi as Adam loved Eve

Ruth 1:14 Then they lifted up their voices and wept again. And Orpah kissed her mother-in-law, but Ruth clung to her.

And throughout Christian history, Ruth's vow to Naomi has been used to illustrate the nature of the marriage covenant. These words are often read at Christian wedding ceremonies and used in sermons to illustrate the ideal love that spouses should have for one another. The fact that these words were originally spoken by one woman to another tells us a lot about how God feels about same-gender relationships.

The Hebrew word used in Ruth 1:14 to describe those feelings is quite telling. The text says, “Ruth clung to [Naomi].” The Hebrew word for “clung” is “dabaq.” This is precisely the same Hebrew word used in Genesis 2:24 to describe how Adam felt toward Eve.

The book of Ruth is the great love story of the Bible and it is a story of love between women - Ruth's marriage to Boaz is entered into only to protect the relationship between the women and ensure their survival. The reality of such gay and lesbian partnerships is that if they were heterosexual, we would unhesitatingly call them "good marriages".

ORAL SEX & SWALLOWING

This one always makes me laugh, hearing Christian wives, ministers, and even husbands rebuke individuals performing acts that are actually described in the bible and acts that are clearly encouraged (such as oral sex and swallowing pussy juice and cum). One needs to look no further than to look to these various scriptures to feel confident and comfortable that oral sex is A ok with the big man upstairs.

1 Corinthians 7:3-4

The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

Song of Solomon 4:16

Awake, O north wind, and come, O south wind! Blow upon my garden, let its spices flow. Let my beloved come to his garden, and eat its choicest fruits.

Song of Solomon 2:3

As an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. With great delight I sat in his shadow, and his fruit was sweet to my taste

Song of Solomon 2:1-17

I am a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valleys. As a lily among brambles, so is my love among the young women. As an apple tree among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. With great delight I sat in his shadow, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love. Sustain me with raisins; refresh me with apples, for I am sick with love. ...

Songs of Solomon 10How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride. Your love is much better than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume than all spices. 11Your lips, my bride, drip sweetness like the honeycomb; honey and milk are under your tongue, and the fragrance of your garments is like the aroma of Lebanon. 12My sister, my bride, you are a garden locked up, a spring enclosed, a fountain sealed with the greatest of all tastes.

So please, my friends and family don’t be so quick to condemn that which you don’t understand, the bible does not condemn:

• Gay or Lesbian Marriage
• Male on Male Sex
• Female on Female Sex
• Oral Sex
• Swallowing Cum
• Sex Before Marriage
• Swinging
• Hotwifing
• Modesty/Immodesty

WHAT THE BIBLE DOES CONDEMN IS:

• RAPE
• INFIDELITY/SEX WITH OUTHERS WITOUT SPOUSES CONSENT
• SEX WITH TEMPLE PROSTITUTES 
• FORNICATION (PREGNANCY RISK WITH DIFFERENT GOD BELIEFS)
• LUSTING AFTER OTHERS WHILE MARRIED WITHOUT CONSENT OF SPOUSE

Now don't get me wrong, while I would say 75% of Christian sex teachings have been either mistranslated or misunderstood because of the context, there definitely is sexual sin. Ultimately sex comes down to one of a few things, love, consent, pleasure & person.

For so many generations our boys and girls, men and women, husbands and wives, have been shamed and mislead when it comes to our natural sexuality, having been one of them I can honestly say that the more I broke down the walls of these incorrect teachings and embraced my sexual self, the more confident about myself, I now love sex, and honestly you can too.

So, take a step back and decide for yourself, WHAT IS SEX, WHAT'S RIGHT & WRONG IN GODS EYES, WILL I CONTINUE TO FOLLOW INCORRECT CHURCH TEACHINGS? OR CHOOSE MY OWN PATH AS TRUELY DESINGED BY GOD. Whether you choose to masturbate, or give and receive oral, or swallow, or dress sexy, or modest, or swing, or have sex on the side with our partners consent, or even should our children have sex before marriage, the choice is up to you, just know whatever you decide in regards to these topics... IT'S NOT A SIN!!! As long as the consent is there, and you don't fall into the five sinful categories, your choice is your own in Gods eyes, and he will neither punish nor reward you for following said guidelines.

Fortunately many Christian sects have begun to catch on and realize that their teachings don't line up with what's taught in the bible, and have stopped condemning these sexual actions, but to all my Baptist, Evangelical Christian, Jehovah Witness, Mormon,  Judo Christian, and even other standard denominations, please stop spewing hatred when the scriptures themselves do not support your hatred and mission to attack the LGBT and swinging communities. Love as Christ did, teach as God wants.