25 THINGS YOUR SPOUSE NEEDS TO FEEL LOVED & WANTED
WHAT DOES YOUR SPOUSE NEED IN YOUR MARRIAGE?
As Valentines day approaches a new hope is renewed within us all, marriages rekindle their former luster, individuals renew their commitment to serve, love, and adore our amazing spouses. Going into marriage both sexes have specific expectations and hopes about what a happy and healthy marriage will look like. Naturally a woman needs will differ greatly from what a man needs, sometimes it takes years, even decades before we as the spouse discover what it is our spouse actually needs to be both happy, and healthy mentally with the state of the relationship.
Cultivating a strong marriage takes work. We can’t get on auto-pilot and expect things to turn out well. We must keep pursuing one another, but sometimes we lose sight of how to do this in the chaos of life. So what does that look like in real life if you're about to tie the knot? Or, even if you've been at it for 10, 15 years? You have to know each other at the core of your gender identity. Men and women have very different and specific needs.
Everyone knows the perfect relationship doesn't exist - even the happiest relationships are made up of sacrifices and negotiations. But that doesn't change the fact that everyone dreams about their perfect relationship, where everything goes according to plan and there are never any problems.
It's not uncommon for a woman to dream of her "prince charming" and her dream home, even if she's knows her dreams won't exactly come true. But what may be surprising is that men also have these kinds of dreams. They dream of a perfect wife and a perfect life. Your mister might not ask you directly to help him make his dreams be as close to reality as possible, so it's important that a wife knows them for herself.
WHAT MOST WIVES NEED
The key to a successful marriage is unselfishness. If you can put your spouse's needs above your own, you are on the right track. Having the desire to fulfill your wife's needs is in no way submitting yourself to an inferior role as a husband. If you truly love your spouse, then you want to make her happy, and these twenty five things generally make women happy - simple as that. Every woman's needs are different; however, most women have the same basic needs. While each person is unique, these needs are what most women pick on average.
With “man malaise” in mind, I give you a list of simple things you can do to remind your lady why she chose you. You’ve likely done some of these things, but we men are reactive creatures – the goal here is to be proactive … just because.
#1- LOVE & AFFECTION
#2- TRUST & LOYALTY
A good man will never cheat, nor consider cheating on the woman he loves, he has her trust and her heart. She is able to trust him with chores, responsibilities, honey do items, and so on.
#3- 50/50 PARENTING
Nothing says I love you to a wife more than being there to help the kids, even after an exhausting day of work, chores, and stress. A good man always is there to wrangle the little ones when they get out of hand, or do their dishes, put them to bed read them a story, or even to get them back to sleep at night after a bad dream. You cant put a price on a man who does this, a man who goes to this length to assist his wife is one you don't ever want to let go.#4- FINANCIAL SUPPORT
Financial security and peace of mind are vital to a woman, that's not to say we need a palace, but we do need a home, a car, food on the table, and clothing on our backs. any man who can provide this is good enough for us. While some wives are materialistically selfish and want more financially, a good husband will always provide the basics.#5- ROMANCE, MANNERS, & THE ULTIMATE GENTLEMEN
You cant put a price on romance, nor on being a good man. These days its hard to find men with manners, men who let women go first, men who hold the car door open for the love of their life, a true gentleman is what she wants, a man who can wine her and dine her into bed, and knows the moves to get it done.#6- SEX (WE CUM FIRST)
We shouldn't have to cover this, but sex is just as important for her as it is for him. A good man knows she always cums first before penetration begins, (unless she's really wet) and you know how to get her off multiple times. A good husband is enthusiastic, dominant at times, gentle at times, and knows just how to make us squirm.#7- KISSING & HEAVY FOREPLAY
Kissing and foreplay are essentially the main course for a woman, and sex without it is just as disappointing as missing your main meal. It's our warm up, it transforms us from being the irritated wife to being the horny slut you used to date. With it our body is yours, without it we may be irritated by the time we finish.#8- HOT & SEXY BODY
Believe it or not, we are shallow too, if you were a hot stud when we met you we expect you to be a hot stud 30 years from now, a man who lets themselves go will instantly find themselves missing out on our body. A good man stays fit, exercises often, and maintains the same hot bod he met her with.#9- A BIG COCK
Believe or not, just like men enjoy big boobs, women enjoy big cocks, and prefer such in a marital partner. Do your kegels men, stay hard! a hard cock is enough to make me instantly wet, instantly want it in any hole, and instantly make me want to unleash my inner whore.#10- A GOOD FATHER
Believe it or not many women get turned on by seeing a father who is there for their children, a man who loves them deeply and would do anything to help them. Being a good father means helping out and dong whatever it takes to ensure their children are happy and healthy.
#11- A GOOD LISTENER & SHOULDER TO CRY ON
A good husband makes time to focus on what she has to say, focused, intent on helping, and always is available to listen should a sad situation arise.#12- ROUGH SEX
Rough sex is a staple for every wife, she needs to feel dominated, roughed up, rough sex is often what leads to vaginal orgasms for 95% of women, it is pure adrenaline and rush of lust that cannot be described. A good man knows how to fuck a wife properly, yet not so rough that it harms us, we want to be spanked, we want our hair pulled, we want to be gently choked, and want to hear you call us dirty names to feel like a sexual goddess.
#13- A DOMINANT FIGURE (IN & OUT OF BED)
A alpha male is often the kind of man that attracts women, confident, dominant in bed and with his family, he is good under pressure socially, and has the ability to take over a social conversation when needed. Women sexually want to feel helpless, we want to feel overcome by his muscular strength and dominance, we want to feel almost used, like we're his sexy toy at times. A good man knows how to use his girl and fuck her deeply and roughly. women love to feel helpless, love to feel power, and love to feel your strength against our naked bodies.#14- ORAL SEX TWICE A WEEK AT LEAST
Oral sex for a man is exciting! they love going down on us because of the pure joy it brings us, a good man doesn't have to be asked to suck our pussy, he goes down before bed, in the shower, on the kitchen counter, or any other time he feels his wife needs some stress relief.
He loves it, he moans with her, he takes his sweet time, he sticks with it until she screams, no matter how long it takes, and each and every time he comes up a smiling mess covered in our cum all over his face.
#15- HANDYMAN, LANDSCAPER, & MASTER OF THE "SMALL THINGS"
A good husband is the jack of all trades, he fixes up the house, takes charge of home improvement projects, he is the master landscaper, lawn mower, heavy lifter, and yet he still has the time and energy to do the small things like help with the laundry, the kids, dishes, sweeping, and so on to assist his lovely wife.
#16- INTELECTUALLY COMPATIBLE
For a woman intellectual compatibility means we can connect via discussion, now obviously this will differ for every couple, but its important whatever connection you had while dating be continued throughout marriage, topics, themes, and so on.
#17- ROMANTIC SURPRISES
Romantic surprises are like blowjobs to women, we don't need them daily, but we do need them weekly, and every month or so you've gotta make it a memorable one. A good husband recognizes that romance is never dead, whether it be chocolate, a out of the blue date, a trip, etc. he makes it a priority to make each month memorable for his lover.
#18- THE BEST AT CUDDLING
For a woman skin to skin contact is a big thing, cuddling is a form of bonding, relaxing, de-stressing, and overall memory making activities that allows a woman to form close connections and desires with their man. Cuddling is good at anytime, date time, relax time, sex time, after sex, and of course when we're feeling down. A good husband will always make time to bond.#19- OPEN MINDED, FLEIBLE, NOT THE JEALOUS TYPE
Now I'm not saying that you MUST go ahead and try anal, or even that you need to go have a threesome with his bff, but what I am saying is that he's open to expanding his sexual skills, knowledge, and experiences. Nothing kills a sex life faster than doing the same thing over and over again, by allowing ourselves to expand outside our comfort one we open up the potential to love sex that much more. She needs to know that you're as freaky as she is, and you're down for just about anything (within reason). Obviously boundaries are important, but we should be open enough for at least discussion.
As a woman it can be pretty scary baring our soul about our sexual wants and fantasies, having a man who wont judge her for them is vital for a her to feel she can trust him with sharing her feelings.
Whether it be a kinky role-play scenario, something she saw in a dirty video, or even the desire to get banged by a random stud (which fortunately for her almost all men have), she wants to know you're as turned on (or at least open to listening) to her desires. If she has a thing for specific kinks go ahead and surprise her, set it up shock her!
90 plus percent of women have some type of inkling to experience the female touch, meaning to kiss a girl, taste a pussy, feel her sensual touch. She wants to know you're ok with this and free to explore her urges.
#20- ADVENTUROUS & SPONTANEOUS
#21- CONCERNED & WORRIED ABOUT HER
As a woman nothing calms me more than knowing he's concerned about even the most miniscule details in my life. A real man is there for his wife in any way he possibly can, to strengthen or teach his love.
#22- A MATURE MAN, WITH A HOT BOYFRIEND STILL INSIDE
Naturally in marriage a husband will begin to mature as time goes along, providing wisdom and experience to the relationship, that being said a wife always needs at times a man who has a young and energetic boyish side to him. You remember the guy I'm talking about, the guy in a cut off t-shirt who flaunts his guns, and isn't shy about pushing us up against the wall in a not so private place, the guy who wouldn't hesitate to make us wet anytime and anyplace with his naughty words.
#23- VOCAL SEXUALLY
Women... Need... Noise...“He was completely silent,” Erica said. “I could hear everything but him.” The effect was deeply unnerving. not very hot huh. compare it to hearing: “I want to fuck you,” he growled as he slammed her back against a wall. Back at his place, the floodgates opened: “I love going down on you,” he said. Erica couldn’t get enough. “I was so turned on,” she says. “I’m very type A and have problems giving up control. Having someone tell me what to do was hot.” Hearing a man moan helps us moan, we need dirty talk!!!!!!!
#24- THE KING OF SEXTING
#25- QUALITY TIME
A man who provides for his family is great, but a woman as a mother and wife needs to know that they come first. A husband who knows this will make time for them above all else, they know there are things that need tending to, but he always put his spouse and children at the top of the priority list.Some guys struggle with marriage, and it’s not because they don’t love their wife; it’s because in marriage, the “rules” aren’t as clearly defined, so he struggles to know what “winning” at marriage really looks like. Gentlemen, now you know, this is what your wife needs, numbers 1 through 19 are absolute necessities, 100% non negotiable, if you expect her to be happy these "rules" must be adhered to.
What it ultimately comes down to at the end of the day, is that both man and wife has specific needs that they MUST have fulfilled in order to maintain a happy and healthy relationship, on this most special of days we encourage you both to sit down and chat about what's essential to you, what's needed by you, and what's wanted by you, so that as a spouse we can step up and fulfill our duties to love and to cherish.
WHAT MOST HUSBANDS NEED
When wives think about what our husbands really want, we typically say sex. And don't get me wrong, that is what they want, but I'll get to that in a bit. I feel like I'm at the university level in this marriage thing, and I'm convinced that's not all they want or need from us.
The key to a successful marriage is unselfishness. If you can put your spouse's needs above your own, you are on the right track. Having the desire to fulfill your husband's needs is in no way submitting yourself to an inferior role as a wife. If you truly love your spouse, then you want to make him happy, and these twenty five things generally make men happy - simple as that. Every man's needs are different; however, most men have the same basic needs. While each person is unique, these needs are what most men pick on average.
#1- LOVE & AFFECTION
#2- REGULAR APPRECIATION
A man is much different than a woman in many duty aspects, his work load is almost unbearable at times, he feels the weight of the world to provide for the family, maintain a functioning home the looks good, play the role of a father, of a husband, and of course many other duties. A simple thank you, a kiss, a hug, an I love you BJ, a small gift, all are vital to help him feel and know that he is wanted and needed, otherwise life and the relationship begins to feel as if he's being taken advantage of and unwanted.#3- ENHTUSIASTIC IN BED (OPPOSITE OF THE "DEAD FISH")
A wife who has fun in bed, and a wife who is actively engaged and moving is one that has a happy husband, in my not so humble opinion if there's one thing we as a gender are guilty of during sex is that we are overly selfish and expect him to do all the work, we become the dead motionless fish so to speak. Men need a vocal spouse, one who does the work as much as he does, sharing responsibilities in oral, kissing, touching, foreplay, and screwing itself.
#4- INITIATES SEX WEEKLY
How would you feel if your husband never came up to kiss you, never told you he loved you, never chased after your affection? like crap right? This is how a man feels when he is the one to always initiate sex, he feels like he's pressuring you, he feels guilty, eventually he either begins to stop wanting sex with you, or he doesn't enjoy sex with you because of the guilt. A man needs to see his woman seduce him at least once a week, surprise him regularly and he's sure to feel wanted and needed.
#5- THE QUEEN OF BLOWJOBS (WEEKLY)
Non-negotiable. Oral sex to a man is as important to him as cuddling, kissing, and hearing him say I love you is to you. Wives who truly love their man willingly pursue opportunities to go down on him at minimum once per week, and that's on the low end. BJ's are the ultimate stress reducer to a man, its the one time his brain shuts off, and all he see's is you, its his foreplay, its his version of going to the spa and getting pampered, he needs it, no, he requires it.
A loving wife will do this without ever having to be asked to do so, she'll drop his pants in random locations just to give him "I love you head", she smiles, she gets into it, she goes as deep as she can, she moans, she has no time limit and will suck until his cum is either on her breasts, face, or mouth.
#6- ADDICTED TO SWALLOWING (AND ALL THINGS CUM)
Cum is the pride and joy of a mans sex life (other than his large penis size of course haha), a woman who fears cum is as wanted as a cockroach on your gourmet dinner plate. Don't be that girl who get cum splattered on her chest, or who lets him cum into her mouth, and then rapidly runs to the bathroom to spit or wipe it off as if acid had just been splattered onto her... I mean think about it, we as women give him a full blown messy facial EVERY TIME HE GOES DOWN ON US! EVERY TIME! and he does it with a smile, he in fact swallows twice as much as we do.
Swallowing is another one of the "must do's" when it comes to being a wife, a woman who lacks enthusiasm or joy when it comes to taking a shot to the breasts or face, or even doing the big gulp, are again, as wanted as a cockroach on your ice cream sunday. He expects you to swallow, and he has every right to, a woman who wont swallow 95% ruins his orgasm! imagine him stopping his sucking and stepping back right as you begin to orgasm, sure you feel good, but its 75% less enjoyable, he ruined it! that's what he feels every time you don't finish the job. A good wife will swallow, a good wife will beg him to allow her to do so, end of story.
#7- SHE'S INTO FITNESS (WITHOUT HAVING TO BE ASKED)
Nothing demoralizes a man like a wife who lets herself go, whether it be a wife who won't eat well, or a wife who you have to beg to go to the gym, nothing will frustrate a man more than a woman who just doesn't care how she looks (and who can blame them, we feel the same way about them). As a wife he expects you to exercise without being asked to, if she doesn't its a clear indication that the relationship is not as important to her as it is to avoid hitting the gym...
#8- A GOOD COOK
Need we really say more on this one ladies ;)
#9- A QUEEN ON THE STREETS, AND A SLUT+WHORE IN THE SHEETS
This one may very well be ranked 2 or 3 on most men's list, nothing to a man is more important than having a classy and elegant wife, one who composes herself as a good Christian role model to both her family, friends, and fellow church members. That being said, a woman who lacks a freaky sexy alter ego is one that will quickly find herself in a unhappy marriage (or no marriage at all). What he wants, and honestly what he has to have is a slut, plain and simple. a girl who enjoys giving head, enjoys swallowing cum, a girl who dresses provocatively on date night, who fucks in public places, who is down for anything and everything freaky.
#10-NURTURING MOTHER AND PARENT
Nothing can replace the need to be a loving, gentle, and caring mother, the soft and sweet nature shown from a wife is enough to make him fall in love with her all over again. she is a 50/50 parent, and goes above and beyond to assist her children.
#11-A DOMINATRIX (AGGRESSIVE AND DOMINANT IN BED)
Enthusiastic, dominant, bossy, in control, sets the pace, teases, seduces, owns the tempo, makes demands, forces him to please her, grabs him by the dick and shows him who is boss tonight, she ties him up, she acts like a total cum whore, she begs, screams, scratches, spanks back, pushes him against the wall.


Think about your ultimate fantasy about him dominating you in bed and in foreplay, HE WANTS THIS FROM YOU.
#12- SUBMISSIVE AND WOMANLY IN BED
#13- DRESSES ATTRACTIVELY
Nothing is more disappointing than a wife who lets herself go overtime, a man needs to see his wife taker care of herself to remain interested in her romantically or intimately. Although sweats, the yoga pants, and the gym shirt can be cute occasionally he needs a wife all glammed up. He also needs a wife who isn't a prude, who doesn't cover up "the twins" as if they were fort Knox...
He needs the low cut tops, the cleavage, the tight fitting jeans, and on date night the outfit that just screams "I'm going to be your slut tonight and let you cum all over my face". Every wife needs that go to outfit that makes her look like a total skank or whore, pull it out from time to time when your away from the kids. She knows it's important to show off what she has, bikinis at the beach are a must!
#14- THE GODESS OF ALL THINGS LINGERIE
A good wife is the queen of the closet, she has an outfit for every different scenario, romantic gentle sex? she's got the Chemise just for the occasion. How about kinky rough sex? she's gotcha covered with some thigh high fuck me boots and a revealing top to tag along with it. How about the weekend get away?
She's got multiple outfits, ranging from the role-play schoolgirl, to the classic heels, garter, and stockings set which is a wife's staple go to outfit. She has classy lingerie, she has whorish lingerie that leaves little to the imagination, she has the 3 inch heels, the neon colored thong and push up bra, she's got it all. When it comes to date night she has it on underneath so she's ready to go at anytime.
#15- CLEANS AND MAINTAINS AN ORDERLY HOME
I know most women think this one's a biggy, but it really isn't, men are very self sufficient, if they can do it themselves they don't need you for it, that being said he has a lot on his plate and needs help.
#16- TAKES CARE OF HER OWN NEEDS (MASTURBATES)
#17- ENGAGES IN FOREPLAY
Men need foreplay too... they need to be touched all over, kissed all over, squeezed all over, pinned down, teased, seduced, the need to hear you beg, to tell him what you want, what you want to do, and egg him on.Foreplay is not just for you, please don't be selfish.
#18- VOCALLY EXPRESSIVE+SLUTTY DURING SEX
Couples who scream together stay together! “The sex was better the louder we got,” my husband says. “It just felt so good to lose control.” This is all too common for most couples, the louder the sex is the better it gets, and the more often it happens in the future. Husbands want 2 things vocally from us in bed, they want to hear us moan, scream, whimper, and grunt when something feels good. Secondly they want to hear us talk dirty, filthy even in necessary. He wants to know you've got a slutty whore down inside who can talk just as dirty as he can. lose the nun act ladies, get in tune with your inner whore.#19- THE QUEEN OF SEXTING
Sexting is like air, you don't realize you need it until its gone, sexting to a man is as important as air itself, it allows the chance to warm us as females up, it allows their (and our) minds to wander and flirt, seduce, tease, and beg for what's to come. As his wife he needs this at minimum weekly, both in written and visual form, he also needs to see your body, to see the curves, see your lingerie set, see your breasts, your pussy, and even if your brave enough full nude! of course if you don't have the guts to do so you can always do close up pictures instead to keep out your face or any unflattering body sections.#20- SPONTANEOUS & ADVENTUROUS
As a man we need life (and sex) to be fun, random, new, out of the blue! Men naturally have an inkling to screw and fool around at places they aren't necessarily supposed to, such as at the public restroom, the back alley, the back seat of the car, they want to know you're down to blow them out of the blue as they watch the big game, or even a surprise hand job in the car or restaurant under the table. Sex for them has got to be at times risky, kinky, and even semi-public. Shock him, flash him randomly, take off your underwear and hand it to him under the table.#21- EXPERIMENTAL & OPEN MINDED SEXXUALLY
Nothing kills a sex life faster than doing the same thing over and over again, by allowing ourselves to expand outside our comfort one we open up the potential to love sex that much more.
He needs to know that you're as freaky as he is, and you're down for just about anything (within reason). Obviously boundaries are important, but we should be open enough for at least discussion.
#22- ISN'T A JEALOUS B*TCH
There's nothing worse than a wife who goes ape crap crazy when he accidentally stares too long at the hot girl walking down the street, or the MILF at the supermarket bending over to pick up a can, or even the busty college chick at the beach practically busting out of her swimsuit.It happens, and heck, we do it too! There's nothing wrong with looking, we all do it, we all from time to time wonder what it would be like to have a threesome with a stranger, or to have a one night hall pass to go wild. A good wife understands we all do it, and is ok with him looking (to an extent).
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Sex to men is so much more than feeling a physical release or physical pleasure (though it can become an irritating itch that needs to be scratched if ignored too long), our physical connection is literally the glue that keeps a relationship together as one, without it we become just two friends and individuals living our lives, without it its not a relationship at all.
Sex is one of those things that's vital for reducing stress & tension, it’s amazing no matter how difficult & frustrating work, school, or home life gets, if in the past couple days we had been intimate it’s as if the stress of all these things doesn’t even exist, whereas when we’re in a dry spell the stress becomes unbearable, because issues in the relationship causes males to become emotionally unstable and on edge. Sex with you literally allows me to deal with life.
And when I’m able to deal with life I’m able to take more on my plate, help more around the home, do more chores, do more home projects, smile, not mope around, live life with excitement and enthusiasm. Being close with her makes or breaks how successful we are in other areas of life. It’s not just a need, it’s a necessity, a good father, husband, and man goes above and beyond to be the best he can for his family, but to have the strength and energy to do so he needs to feel fulfilled both emotionally and physically, he needs to feel that the work and effort he puts in is appreciated, and that as he lives up to his duties as a husband and ensures his wife and children are happy, that she will be there at the same time to support him and take care of his most vital needs. we want to be the best husband humanly possible, we want to meet your every need, we just need the strength to do so, she gives us this strength.
We want to be better husbands and we need to be, we want to be there for her and support her as much as we can, having to suppress our physical side though really does cripple us in more ways than you know. Without it I was I was instead miserable, upset, angry, bitter, snippy, and a whole passel of negative emotions. When we start having sex, all that negativity goes away immediately. In one day I was kinder, helpful, sweeter, more loving, touching, etc.
The feeling we get after being intimate is mind blowing, obviously there’s the physical pleasure side but that’s nothing compared to the mental comfort that comes. It’s a feeling of comfort, of feeling wanted, feeling safe and secure, feeling as if no matter what’s going on in life everything will be ok, it’s a feeling of love, and of wanting to recommit myself to be the best we can be, to serve her, protect her, adore her even, it’s a feeling of closeness, and completeness, its satisfaction, it’s a calmness, it’s the feeling of perfection, both physically, emotionally, and mentally. That’s why it matters so deeply, that’s why we can’t just ignore it, that’s why we work towards it every day, we want to fight for our marriage, we want to fight for us, for her, and knowing.