WHAT DO GUYS ENJOY DURING AND LEADING UP TO SEX?

So this go around we wanted to do something new!

We wanted to open up the floor for you all to share what your spouse does that drives you crazy in bed (both good and bad). This post will be for the guys to speak open and honestly about what they enjoy and wish women would do more, or what they hate and wish would go away!

Bretts Likes & Dislikes:

So before I begin we need to set the record straight as to why certain sexual things are so vitally important to men and their connection with you as women. When it comes to relationships often times duties are split 50/50, between work, chores, cooking, cleaning, yard work, etc. But with our romantic lives the balance of give and take between a man and a woman is drastically lopsided...
As a men we are the ones who set and plan fun activities for dates, plan romantic dinners out on the town, surprise you with romantic gifts, love letters, flowers plan surprise get aways from the home and kids, in bed we are expected to be the one in control, setting the pace, going down on you, leading the sex so to speak.


Now ask yourselves as a woman, what do you generally bring to the table romantically? unfortunately not a whole lot... occasionally you may do a few of the things listed above, but generally women only put in 5-10% of the effort men do to contribute to the romantic aspect of the relationship. When I had this discussion with Whitney all she could come up with was 1) putting on some sexy lingerie for me to see, 2) kissing me and saying I love you once a day, and 3) letting me have sex with her (dead fish style as I do all the work 99 % of the time). Women GENERALLY do so little to add to the romantic side of most relationships that its not even funny, is it any wonder why so many men confront their wives about not feeling loved? is it any wonder why they complain they feel their needs are not being met romantically? We know you say you love us, but what do you actually do to romantically show it?

As men we don't want or need a whole lot, we don't need flowers, we don't need love letters, we don't need surpise jewelry or other dating surprises, what we need is to feel wanted , feel desired, feel appreciated, and actually physically shown that. This is why men spend so many years BEGGING their wives to be aggressive, controlling,  and enthusiastic in bed, we need to see you doing your part, we get sick and tired of your romantic selfishness and lack of effort. Saying I love you and laying there as we make love to you is great, but it takes no effort, if we're the one doing all the work it feels meaningless, WE NEED YOU TO GET PHYSICAL!

ROMANTIC SELFISHNESS is the ultimate dagger to our love and affection, deny us of it for long enough and eventually we'll will start looking elsewhere for its needs to be met, if your not willing show it, there's plenty of other women who will. Along with aggression and enthusiasm, how else can we show our men we are not selfish, what is the most selfless act we can perform to please our man? of course I'm speaking of oral sex/ "the Blowjob" the ultimate act of selflessness. As we all should hopefully understand by now, marriage isn't meant for selfish individuals, its about give and take, give and get, trading selfless acts of service, devotion, love , and pleasure, to express how we feel about our partner. Unfortunately many women come into marriage with the perception that romance and love making is something the guys do, and women are off the hook.

Recent surveys amongst men and women indicate oral sex is as important as sex itself to both men and women. (sorry for the blurriness, the format didn't copy over very well).

BETTER HEALTH'S ORAL SEX IN MARRIAGE: HOW IMPORTANT IS IT TO MEN AND WOMEN	WOMEN GIVING IT TO MEN	MEN GIVING IT TO WOMEN
Love giving it because it makes us both grow closer together	81/100	98/100
Love giving it because it makes them feel good	79/100	99/100
Love giving it because it makes me feel sexually dominant	92/100	61/100
Do it for them, but don’t really enjoy it	16/100	03/100
Would do it more if they showered more	09/100	01/100
Would do it more if it tasted better	02/100	02/100
dislike it because it takes too much effort	26/100	03/100
dislike it because I'm afraid of their cum	04/100	01/100
I do it but feel stupid like I don’t know what I'm doing	76/100	33/100
I can never tell if they're enjoying it	82/100	71/100
I hate it, its gross	06/100	02/100
I think its morally wrong	02/100	02/100
it brings up bad memories	01/100	01/100
it makes me feel like they are using me	05/100	03/100
I enjoy swallowing their orgasm	76/100	97/100
I do it when they want sex but I don’t	49/100	03/100
I do it if we haven't had sex in a while and I feel guilty	79/100	78/100
they think its morally wrong	02/100	02/100
they wont let me try	00/100	2/100
it makes me feel connected to them as much or more than sex	97/100	98/100
I'm afraid to let myself enjoy it because only bad girls/ boys give oral	85/100	02/100
I expect it weekly from my partner/expect to give it weekly	76/100	98/100
how important is oral sex to marriage in general?	97/100	98/100
Would you marry your spouse if they told you before marriage oral was off the table	03/100	05/100
I enjoy their cum/squirt	82/100	98/100

For years Whitney refused to perform orally in any way shape or form, to deny a man of oral sex is as bad as us denying you of all foreplay, dating, and acts of romantic love, it is the purest form of selflessness to pleasure each other in this way. Studies have shown that 93% of all men whose wives refuse oral sex, fantisize about other women doing it for them, if you don't believe me just ask him.

 

The recent Ashley Madison website scandal showed this example perfectly, both men and women who cheated on their married partner all stated similarly that the reason they were cheating was because their spouse had no passion in their romantic life, sex between them was entirely up to them to take the lead on, and that their partner rarely if ever performed oral sex on them. They also admitted they loved being with someone who would go down on them without being asked to for long periods of time, and they enjoyed someone who tried new things, did oral outside of the bedroom, ultimately they had given up on a partner who only gave 5-10% romantically efforts in the marriage. One thing from this scandal is certain in todays modern marriages, it takes two willing, eager, and energetic partners to make sex enjoyable, and that oral sex isn't optional, it is expected when you say I do. anything less is an insult and indication you don't love or care about your partner enough to show it.

 

At some point we give up on you putting in effort to pleasing us. For years I would tell her her effort and not giving oral didn't matter, that it was her choice, that just being with her enough, that her just laying there while I did her was enough. but lets call it what it is... Complete and total Bull Sh*t... if you as a woman are so conceded and lazy to only contribute romantically to laying there, that you cant put in a bit of aggression, enthusiasm, or BJ's to contribute romantically, all while he bends over backwards to woo you, seduce you, romance you, pleasure you sexually, go down on you, don't plan on him sticking around for very long. SELFISHNESS DESTROYS MARRIAGES.

We don't need flowers, we don't need notes, we don't need romantic dinners, we don't need to hear you say romantic things, we need you to physically show it, putting in an effort to pull your weight in the romantic aspects of our relationships, oral sex matters, aggressiveness matters.

 

SO LET ME SAY IT LOUD AND CLEAR, if your not aggressive occasionally in bed, if you don't show enthusiasm in bed, and if your so self centered that you wont give oral sex at least once or twice per week, plan on finding a new husband in the near future, GIRLS WHO DONT SUCK, SUCK... Without these three aspects in our romantic life, the sex is and always will be just terrible, its our form of foreplay, its one of the only ways you can contribute romantically to our relationship. If we go down on you, you'd sure as heck be doing the same to us in return. Take time weekly to not only implement it during sex, but surprise him randomly wiith it, I the shower, kitchen, or wake him up to it. If he has to ask you to go down on him during sex, or if never once gets an "I love you BJ' after a hard day, you've failed as a lover and a wife, I cant be any more blunt than that.

 

IF ORAL SEX WAS A JOB, AND YOU ARE NOT QUALIFIED TO GET THE JOB, YOU'VE FAILED YOUR LOVER BEYOND COMPARISSON, TAKE THE STEPS NOW TO LOVING ORAL SEX TO SELFLESSLY PLEASURE YOU'RE PARTNER, BOTH SEXES NEED IT, BOTH SEXES WANT IT.

Here are som of the things Whitney does to keep things enjoyable for me recently. 

• Every now and then she’ll meet me at the front door when I get home wearing a corset and garter set, it’s definitely one of my favorite ways to come home after a rough day.
• when she shaves her pussy in new designs

• Mirror teasing: she loves to come up behind me when I’m brushing my teeth in the mirror, she drops my pants and strokes me from behind while sucking on my neck and shoulders and whispering kinky things in my ear, the sight and sound is almost too much to handle at times.
• Her dedication to incredible oral sex: she’s not only taken time to research the best techniques, but she isn’t hesitant to give long slow head, she groans and sends vibrations down my spine, her smile and staring almost make me erupt on its own. Added is the way she talks extremely dirty while doing it, the way she slaps my head on her tongue, the way she sucks me even after I cum, and the way she begs for a facial or for it in her mouth ( I never even ask, she just does it ). She really is the BJ queen of the world.

• Aggressiveness: She loves to without asking push me to the ground and sit on my face, riding it and forcing me to suck her to orgasm, far too many women wait to be seduced, I love that my wife just attacks me and takes what she wants, nothings better than a woman with sexual confidence and aspirations.
• WHEN SHE REACTS WITH PLEASURE JUST AT THE SIGHT OF MY PENIS, and when she tells me how big it is ;)

• Gagging/Choking during oral: if at any point you begin to cough or gag during oral sex, do not panic. This is your body’s way of letting you know that something is in your throat. While this may cause some discomfort, men really really enjoy having a woman choke and gag their penis. It is very empowering and shows that you will sacrifice your comfort for their pleasure. It also makes them feel well that they have a large penis. (as Whitney talked about previously, if you train your throat muscles you'll never gag again.
Timing: the best time for oral sex is all the time. You should wake your man up with oral sex in the mornings and then do it again when he gets home from work. Do it everywhere: in the car, on an airplane, in a movie theater, in a church restroom, etc. Obviously some of these occasions will require some skill because he needs to orgasm in several minutes. Road trips for example provide you with more time. This feeling of adventure and all-the-time isn’t limited to just oral sex.
The best oral sex for a man last between 15 and 30 minutes (Ladies if you let your man go down on you for 30 minutes you'd better be damn willing to do the same to him). Variety is still important though so while you plan for these sessions 3-4 times per week, remember to set different goals for each night; ex. make him orgasm as many/few times as possible. An orgasm is not the end of oral sex; it’s not the finish line. Orgasms are like flowers in a bouquet; you definitely needs more than one. You should spend a lot of time with his penis in your mouth. Get to know his penis better than he does. It’s important to learn how his body reacts to different techniques, movement speeds, durations between orgasms, etc.Honesty and willingness to try anything once: Whitney often approaches me with new ideas, new kinks, fantasies, suggestions to apply, I love that even though she dislikes an idea, more often than not she’ll give it a chance to see if she can learn to love it just as I do for her




• When she sexts me, the perfect way to keep intimacy on our minds, and increase the lust for each other.
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• Tease tease tease: she is the most expert tease I have ever seen, not a sexual session goes by where she doesn’t either perform a strip tease, lap dance, sexual walk, dirty talk, or prolonged tongue job (Licking my penis for up to an hour slowly). Its amazing having a woman so dedicated to me that she would do that, so many of my friends wives generally won’t spend more than 10 minutes on husbands when it comes to foreplay. I consider myself very lucky!
• Pre Cum: do you realize that women have 20-30 times more pre cum than men? and what does your man do with it? he doesn't say eww, he doesn't refuse to go down on you, he doesn't spit it out the second it hits his mouth, he swallows it like a champ, because he loves you, he's going above and beyond to help you enjoy the experience.
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   as a husband nothing is sexier than a wife who doesn't shy away from my pre cum, Whitney even goes so far as to proudly display it on her tongue before swallowing it. If pre cum is the thing holding you back from  giving him oral sex, evaluate your commitment level to him, and to his pleasure, because its no where near it needs to be.
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• When I catch her practicing her blowjob skills on a dildo in the mirror, it lets me know she takes my needs and pleasure seriously.

• Cum addict: she went from having a cum-phobia, to being a total addict, seeing a girl embrace all of you is all any guy could ever ask for. Not only does she love to play with my cum and proudly display it to me, she often will give herself facials, take my load in her mouth, and swallow, all without ever being asked to. That is true love, that is why I love this naughty girl.

• Escort: as she’s mentioned in a previous post, she acted out the part of an extremely naughty escort, all I have to say is she almost gave me a heart attack, I was speechless and stunned the entire time, that was the day I became her sexual slave. To this day that experience is burned in the front of my mind, nothing will ever be hotter than that night.
• Her random Sexts: Randomly she’ll send me messages that she just needs to be F’d tonight, along with a pic or video to get my mind racing, this specially makes my day when I’m away on business and am missing her dearly.
• When she tells me exactly whats on her mind;: Nothing is hotter than a girl who asks you to bluntly fuck her, whats even better is hearing her demand you to fuck her harder.

• Takes control: I hate passive women, ALL MEN DO, women who are shy, overly gentle, lack enthusiasm.agressivness, women who wont get on their knees becasue the gground is hard, I do, my buddies all complain about their princess wives and how laid back they are in the sack, and lets them do all the work. How lucky I am to have a girl who will give me head for up to an hour some days, and ride me from sun up till sun down. We have such a perfect relationship when it comes to sharing the sexual workload. ALL MEN WANT A WIFE WHO AT THE SIGHT OF COCK GOES CRAZY, DIVES FOR IT AS IF ITS THEIR TICKET TO HEAVEN, the minute Whitney unleashed her freak and learned how to be aggressive and enthusiastic I fell in love with her all over again, I was addicted to her eternally.

• When She openly tells me of her fantasies

• She Plans: I must find her on the internet daily researching ideas to apply to our bedroom life, I’m so grateful my wife and lover dedicates so much time to bettering our intimate connection. How many marriages would be saved if men and women only put in the time she does to better their connections.

• Double bj: She monthly ties me up, blindfolds me, and uses a sex toy to stimulate her and another girl having a threesome with us, so sexy knowing she’s confident enough in our relationship to roleplay scenarios like this.
• Coming home to find her naked and in the "fuck me" position"

• Her body language: the confidence, the facial expressions and noises she makes when I hit just the right spots, the slutty stares that pierce my very soul, the smiles, the eye contact as she blows me or as she looks into my eyes as she's cumming on my penis.

• She’s committed to me just as much as she is to the children: Whitney is and always will be a hot MILF, but her sexiness can also be found in the way she raises our children, the way she puts in equal time with them.
• When she gives me head and puts my cum in her mouth without being asked to

• When she bites my lip before going down on me

• This is a bit embarrassing, but I really really get hard when she puts on the "bimbo act" where she acts like a total cock hungry slut, she moans non stop, talks dirty, basically she puts on her best over the op pronstar act for me. Its sometimes silly, and makes me laugh, but other times it turns on the dominant side in me. Seeing her all dolled up and cock/cum hungry drives me wild, she picks out a naughty dress and goes out on the town with me putting on a show, giving me the "F Me" eyes all night long before finally pouncing on me when we get home.

Guys Feel free to add your comments and likes/dislikes!

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