FOREPLEY- The key to unlocking her sexuality

Men and Women have varied preferences and pleasures when it comes sex, Both sides however can increase enjoyment and libido by learning to make sex an enjoyable process.  Women need foreplay far more than men, in fact, many women enjoy it more than intercourse itself, thus men MUST learn the ins and outs of good foreplay. Men too need foreplay, which is often overlooked. Foreplay for men establishes bonds of trust and commitment.


To a married couple foreplay makes or breaks sex, foreplay should be so intense, so passionate, that It almost makes the intercourse part of sex meaningless...The longer we can go without penetration the bigger the anticipation can build to, the wetter she can be to have him inside her. Teasing and pleasing should be mastered by both husband and wife.

By learning how to eliminate awkward pauses couples can better remain in the moment, foreplay neither begins during sex, nor right before. Foreplay is an all day experience, it is allowing your brain to wander and fantasize about being with your partner, its the sexual hints, messages, and build up that determines how good the sexual experience will be. similarly foreplay does not end upon orgasm and should continue to contribute to the end of the night.

From what we’ve discovered in our marriage, when we allow foreplay to be prevalent in our lives our sex life and sex quality goes through the roof. So often we picture foreplay of the teasing that goes on once we get in bed and begin kissing, couples spend a few minutes each kissing, touching, licking, and maybe sucking on each other and then begin intercourse. This approach is why spouses lose interest in each other romantically and marriages crumble month by month

What if I were to tell you that foreplay should last most of the day (if not the entire day)? Foreplay occurs in many ways, we can do it with others, with ourselves, physically, mentally, emotionally, its options are very limitless if allowed to take root in our day to day lives. One of my biggest issues with foreplay was that I only saw it as a in the moment tool, using it during our make outs, and occasionally on a romantic date if I was feeling brave. What I’ve come to find out is that many women (like myself) tend to suppress foreplay techniques and instead focus on the task at hand.

To fix this negative perspective on allowing ourselves to be horny me and Brett came up with many ways to keep ourselves mindful of each other, these techniques have helped us remain flirty, seductive, happy, and sexy as heck if I do say so myself.

Some of the ways we were able to fix our lack of sexual focus were:

Morning passionate kiss before he left for work- Every morning we would share a 15 second passionate kiss before he left for work, it’s the perfect way to reconnect daily and get on the same page for our marriage and our family goals.

Love Letters- Each month we would take a few minutes to reflect on the sexual memories (and romantic) that we’d had that month, it was a great way to show appreciation and gratitude for each other’s efforts. It also helped me to know what techniques I had done that he absolutely loved, and vice versa.

Checking others out- Obviously we check each other out regularly, but we are both secure enough in our relationship that we’re ok with each other thinking sexually about other people. It not only turns us on, but helps us to use our minds more to wonder what they look like naked, or how big their penis (or in his case her breasts) are. It has relly opened us up and brought us to an extreme level of horniness. On days that I go to the gym I tend to eye fuck half the guys there and then sprint home and pounce all over my hubby like a sex crazed teen… TRY IT ;)

Masturbation- whether together (watching a video) or alone at home I would spend 15 minutes per day just relaxing on my bed, letting my mind wander, using a vibrator or dildo to get off. I would think of Brett, or sometimes some hot guy I had met at the supermarket, and fantasize about having a quick dirty fuck with them.

SEX schedule- this one requires a good knowledge of each other’s weekly schedules and to plans/do lists, But we read on Cosmo of a couple who had this thing where once a week He had to initiate sex and have it totally planned out (surprises, outfits, pace, setting, location, etc), once a week she had to be the one to initiate and have it planned out, and once a week they had to spontaneously have a quickie or sex in a place that they usually don’t do it at. We’ve done this during times when our schedule is routine and predictable, it has really helped us not only get it on 3x per week, but has helped us to take more of an active role in planning out and researching sexual ideas to apply to one another.

Fantasizing- When driving home (with the intent to get it on that evening) I would in my head put together a plan on what I was going to do, wear, say, and how I would behave (submissive, dominant, slutty, whorish, romantic, princess like) which would help me visualize the experience and get wet just thinking about it.

Sexting- This one probably took me the longest to overcome, in the first decade of our marriage i was stone cold when I t came to sexting, Brett would send my a naughty text or a dirty picture and within 10 seconds I would either turn off my phone, change the subject entirely, or tell him to stop.

 It wasn’t until recently that I realized how important sexting could be to our marriage. With him at work so much we have very little time together to communicate or flirt, sexting helped bridge that gap for us, I started with very innocent flirts and indications that I wanted to get It on later tonight, within a few months it had taught me how to talk dirty in bed (which I always struggled with/never saw the need for it), and within 4 months I was sending discreet full fledge nudes and masturbation videos to him while away on business trips. Sexting really opened up out communication issued and allowed me to slowly better communicate sexually.

For those worried about being caught, simply either: use a passcode on your phones, install a secret picture storing app that also requires a code, use an app (and only use it for sexting, that way when you get a notification you will know it is of a sexual nature, and should thus open it in private). Or hide Pictures and videos in a discreet location within your bedroom.

Kinky Music- Sexual themed songs are an easy way to get your groove going

LITEROTICA.COM- my greatest friend in the world (besides my vibrator maybe). Literotica is a couples story site were writer compose very short stories (taking 5-15 minutes tops to read) with hundreds of different subjects to choose from (Virgin sex, husband wife, pool sex, kitchen sex, neighbor sex, boyfriend girlfriend, airplane, public bathroom, affair, threesomes, hotwifing, gangbang, swinging, anal, teacher, boss, secretary, fireman, doctor, nurse) really any fantasy you have ever had you can find a story about it! I would spend 5-10 minutes of my lunch break on my phone (or bathroom break) and secretively rub crotch while I read every day.

Watching a dirty video once a day- every night once we got the kids to sleep we’d cuddle up and pick out a shot 5-10 minute couples porn video online or from our dvd stash to help get us in the mood. Sometimes it would lead to sex, other times it just made us have a good long kiss, or brief makeout session. Either way, just this simple use kept us aware of our sexuality and need to bond

Sexy notes or phone messages-need I say more…

REMEMBER!!! Foreplay is not a 30 minute thing, we should be teasing, pleasing, and thinking sexually things on an hourly basis, make the choice to allow your mind to wander, to imagine you with your lover, plan it in your head, visualize how its going to feel, you’ll soon find you are ready for love quicker than you thought possible.

HERE IS OUR TOP 50 FOREPLAY TECHNQUES ALL COUPLES SHOULD USE.

RULE 1: start early with the foreplay, both with partner, and yourself, flirt throughout the day, use a sex toy at least every other day to keep your mind cognitive of sexualness.

Consider letting each other intentionally catching you in the act from time to time, its mind blowingly hot.

RULE 1A: Every man needs a studly suit for date night, and every girl needs both a tight fitted dress, and a short slutty dress that lets the twins hang out a bit

RULE 2: Both Spouses should learn the "fuck me face & eyes"

RULE 3: Foreplay begins early, Sneakily Flash Each other a peak in public

RULE 4: Husbands and wives aren't judged except by each other, let your inner sex freak out



RULE 5: Be prepared to give him a sneak peak of laters intentions

RULE 6: Spanking is essential, it not only is kinky, but helps re-establish a bit of thrill in routine sex. to step it up, beat him to it and ask to be spanked ;)

RULE 7: Get freaky outside of the bedroom, even better get intimate outside the home

RULE 8: Women love to be controlled and dominated, take her by the hips and show her where you want her.

RULE 9: Lingerie is a must, Specifically for women the "garter set" which in general is mens  #1 preferred attire for sexual encounters. Buy them and buy them often, have multiple attires ready.

RULE 10: Make her Gasp, For women the foreplay needs to be just as good as the sex, shock her, wow her, make her scream before ever orgasming, if you want her to perform you had better perform yourself.

RULE 11: Be confident, show your spouse you have the moves to shock them and make their jaws hit the floor, have 10-15 specialty moves you've practiced in the mirror that will make your partner beg for mercy.

RULE 12: Show her who's boss, get a bit rough, make demands that will play with her mind and get her engine stoked.

RULE 13: Master the art of Strip Teasing, for both men and women sex should be somewhat a performance, take time to practice some kinky moves dancing and undressing in the mirror.

RULE 14: 50-50%... scratch that... 100-100%!!! both spouses should be fully engaged at all times, both have the responsibility to take control and push their partner around form time to time.

RULE 15: Use your nails, its sensual, fun, erotic, and sets a good pace for a rough kinky fuck fest

RULE 16: although sex should always be fun and full of passion, sometimes slow and sensual is what we need to reconnect and restore love, add some rose petals or food for dramatic effect, you'll thank each other for it later ;)

RULE 17: Masturbate eachother, and together, putting on a show for each other is and incredible selfless way of helping them build bonds of love and trust with you, it can also be used as a way to tease each other and put on a teasing show ;)

RULE 18: FANTASIZE!!! so many couples are afraid to reveal their inner desires and fantasies, let them all go talk about them during foreplay, oral sex is a great time to tell each other what you've always wanted to do. Even better, blindfold them and help them pretend to enact it.

RULE 19: EAT HER PUSSY ALL DAY EVERY DAY! if you expect good loving in return, you had better master you skills and show her who's the sex god.

RULE 20: let her ride your face, face fucking is not just for men, its ten times more erotic watching her orgasm on your face.

RULE 21: Never ever ever neglect the nipp's, her entire body is one sensitive area, but always remember to stimulate her twins.

RULE 22 A: Hold her hands down while you eat her out, it helps her connect, and when it comes time to cum it brings her closer to you in an incredibly sensual way.

RULE 22 B:Tease, Suck, And devour the clit after tons of foreplay.

RULE 22: Give her oral sex with her head hanging off the bed, the blood rush makes the orgasm ten times more powerful.

RULE 23: Nothing is more empowering and thrilling than owning your man In every way, One of Bretts biggest turn ons involves me confidently and aggressively pushing him around and making demands. Research the are of romantic fem dom, you may find a side of yourself you never thought existed. without asking push you man down, and ride his face, grab his hair, call him you little man-slut, tell him your in charge. Men get tired of the power role during sex, its essential for women to reverse the roll from time to time and push them around.

RULE 24: take control of positioning, throw her body around and show her you have what it takes to keep the pace exciting.



RULE 25: Dildos and other toys can help a girl get to know her body, Women should use them weekly, exploring fantasies, keeping themselves horny for their lover.

RULE 26: Whenever his Dick pops out always greet it with a smile and a jaw that hits the floor, seeing you gasp at his cock is a real ego booster, even if you've seen it a hundred times. It never hurts being told how big and sexy it is

ASKING TO BE SPANKED

RULE 26 A: THE MOST UNDERATED MOVE ANY WOMAN CAN MAKE... TAKING HIM BY THE PENIS AND PULLING HIM INTO A ROOM WHILE GIVING HIM A DIRTY SMILE.

RULE 27: Don't underestimate the power of the twins, not only are they great to look at and suck on, but can blow his bind away when you wrap his penis around them, mix in some sensual smiles and dirty talk during the process, telling him every last naughty thing you intend to do to him, and he's guaranteed to pop his cork all over them ;)

RULE 28: Don't neglect the tennis balls, perhaps one of my favorite things to do is take one ball in my mouth and stroke him with kinky eye contact, his body quivers every time, mix in some food and he'll forget his own name ;)

RULE 29: When Possible implement mirrors into your routine, not only can they be used to take kinky images, but the added angles allow for you both to see each other pounding away from a third person point of view.

RULE 29 A: (AKA rule #1 in the minds of your man) It's not enough just to like the cock... You need to love the cock, be desperate for it, beg for it, dream of it! The biggest mistake women tend to make is thinking men don't need foreplay too, Foreplay on them is perhaps even more important than sex, it allows them to sit back and be the vulnerable one for once, similar to women, men need at least 10-25 minutes of oral stimulation to really fully connect with their partner. DONT JUST SUCK IT, MAKE FULL BLOWN LOVE TO IT!!!

RULE 30: (AKA mens rule # 2) SMILE!!! nothing is hotter than seeing an engaged and enthusiastic spouse smiling back at them while their penis is in your mouth, The smile that comes from their face seeing you enjoying pleasuring them allows them to fully relax and engage in your love making.

RULE 31: Master the crawl, many think this to be silly but crawling towards a penis is incredibly sexy and animalistic! the look of seeing her inching closer to her prize is an experience every man needs to have, it gives them an incredible view of your smile, hanging breasts, and gorgeous ass sticking in the air.

RULE 32: Get AGRESSIVE! theres nothing men hate more in bed than a passive, unengaged dead fish, he wants to see you get dominant and push him around at times, give orders, pick up the pace, blow his mind with how passionate and aggressive you can be, he'll be guaranteed to eat you out for days straight if you do. THE KEY TO A GOOD BJ IS PUTTING ON A SHOW, practice using a dildo in the mirror and your skills will be that of a goddess.

RULE 33: change up the pace occasionally, switch between fast paced and slow placed BJ's worshiping every last spot on his erect penis. When tired take a break by keeping his penis still on your mouth, instead of bringing the penis in and out of your mouth, suck it like a vacuum in your mouth, the sensation will utterly shock him. Bretts fav is to wake up with my lips wrapped around his cock...

RULE 34: Suck his entire penis (I know I know, easier said than done), but with practice online videos, and dildos to experiment on, all women are capable of this great skill. In surveys of the 1 skill they wish their partners could develop sexually its this. Brett reports that deepthroating is the equivalent to 5-10 blowjobs at once, feeling even better than a vagina. the sensation overwhelms him causing his entire body to lock up, shaking, eyes rolling back in his head, moans and grunts come out of him that I'd never heard before. If nothing else at least experiment with it, your man will love you eternally for it.

RULE 35: Don't hate on the saliva. We as women tend to look down on "sloppy blowjobs" as being gross, the truth though is men prefer it wet and sloppy for good reason. Dry and moderately blowjobs while feeling good, tend to lead to a lot of friction, friction then leads to cracking in the penis skin which apparently hurts like a SOB and kills erections. 'a reason pornstars spit on the penis before starting, and  why they allow saliva to build up, it increases the pleasure and protects the penis form injury. One added bonus is if you don't have time for sex but want to get him off, it only takes 2 minutes to make ANY MAN cum using this technique.

RULE 36: Nibble on the cock teasingly

RULE 37: Men love to watch you, put on a show while you give oral, make it a performance, a spectacle, shake your ass, play with your breasts, use your hands all over his body, most importantly MOAN, it is both kinky and sends vibrations up his spine which have Physically shown cause full body orgasms without the release of semen. Women who hate blowjobs consider it to be a job, women who love giving them understand its about putting on a show, building his level of excitement, playing with his mind, visually torturing him.

RULE 38: Stare into his soul, men are visually needy. The look is sexy, but more importantly he feels a deep and profound connection to you as you lovingly please him. As I embraced this technique I felt instantly more dedicated and loving towards him.

RULE 39: This ones taboo, but don't let it scare you. 90% of men (even Married) tend to look at porn, simpy because their spouse is sexually inactive or doesn't have time to make love. Instead give him something to look at instead better to be looking at your wife naked than some random stranger. I enjoy dong this because it helps me with the whole  "performance concept" and helps me se just how bad or good I actually do.

RULE 40: At times use 1-2 hands at the same time during oral sex, this gives him the sensation that his entire penis is in your mouth (similar to deepthraoting).

RULE 41: Learn to love and cherish the 69 position, nothing is better than cumming at the same time while you both give oral sex.

RULE 42: Learn the art of Pre Penetration Teasing, torture your partner, make them crave and wait for it, make them beg, put on a show as you tease their desires.

RULE 43: the most important 2 words ( aside from love you) that couples MUST be using inside the bedroom, FUCK ME, so carnal, so sensual, even a bit dirty. There are many other phrases that you can substitute, but nothing brings as much lust and desire as hearing those two words spoken in our ear. Even as Christians Sexual words such as "fuck" can be appropriate when used in (and only in) our sex life.

RULE 44: The pornstar hair flip. Men go wild for this one, plain and simple, it exhibits confidence and showmanship in bed.

RULE 45: Learn to ride him like a horse. While we as women love the grinding motion of cowgirl sex, men prefer an alternative method, "the bouncing method" Brett cums within minutes when I bounce on him in this way.

RULE 46: Learn her body ques, learn to recognize what thrusting is making her feel pleasure, and what thrusting is feeling quite bland. Women tend to have orgasms vaginally when the penis rubs against the g-Spot (research it)

RULE 47: Give her clit tapping Orgasms, You know she's loving it from behind when she starts to back her hips into you with every thrust. This is also a good way to give him a break during doggy sex, as he can watch your glorious behind make his dick disappear over and over again.

RULE 48: Give him a big target to hit, press your breasts together when he's about to cum, (or any other time, men love the visual)

RULE 49: Regardless of if you let him cum in your mouth or not, always stick your tongue out when he's about to cum, even if you don't intend to catch it in your mouth. just seeing you do it will make him fantasize about seeing you taste his cum, and make his ejaculation explosive.

RULE 50: Be a beggar!! nothing will send your man over the edge than hearing his beautiful wifes voice begging him to give her his cum. Begging and dirty talk are a must if you wish to release your inner vixen and sex goddess. A true lover sprints to cum without being asked.

RULE 50-A: Mens #1 fantasy is to see their stunning wife receive their cum in their mouth, tasting it, licking it, loving it, swallowing it even. Learn to love his cum, He after all is willing to taste your cum, squirt, and orgasm when he suck you off. Start slow and you'll soon be addicted to him. Medical research has proven that cum contains a powerful chemical that actually makes women addicted to them, and when ingested orally or vaginally we crave them more and more. thus cum is addictive!  just remember, spitters are quitters, love him, all of him, and your sex drive is guaranteed to sky rocket because of your dedication.

RULE 50:B Follow up in the bathroom secretively, take a good pic of his cum covering you, save it for later, and then on a random day when your carving his touch, send him the picture, its guaranteed to drop his jaw to the floor.