TALKING DIRTY: WHAT'S APPROPRIATE IN THE CHRISTIAN BEDROOM?

We all have a kinky side, dirty at times even, but when it comes to communication and dirty talk, is talking dirty sinful when we're Christian? 

One of my most difficult hang ups in our early stages of marriage always dealt with what to do and say in  the bedroom, Brett however has always been a natural at communicating throughout sex, communicating verbally as well as physically how he was feeling, what he wanted, asking what I wanted. One of the few things Brett would ask of me when it came to sex was the “talk dirty to me” request. Each and every time I would become red in the face, thinking to myself what do I say? What is he asking of me? He knows I’m a shy tentative girl, we’re both Christian and watch our language, how am I supposed to talk dirty?

Dirty talk in my pastors words can be described like this, some words are good, some are all together bad, and some can be both good and bad depending in what context and setting they are being used in. 

Dirty talk is not a sin, it's just not. But that's not to say that some of the words we use during sex, should also be used outside the bedroom too. Words like "Pussy", "Cock", "Fuck", and other similar lingo has no business ever being used outside of sex, but when we look at the words and their meanings, they are describing a physical act or part of sex, the add flavor, emotion, and connection to sex. I mean who wants to hear someone say " I want you to stick your big penis in my vagina and move it in and out to make intercourse with me"? NOBODY! But in its place we say "I want your big cock in my tight pussy, Fuck me baby". See? Much better huh.

Its all about how and where we use it, keeping our mouths clean outside of sex, and dirty during sex.

As I more recently discovered dirty talk means different things to different people, different words mean different things at different times. Dirty talk often requires planning just like sex, learning phrases to say, voice tones to use, Brett told me its not so much what I say, Its just that I say something. Apparently most men aren’t so much focused on the words themselves, rather the person saying it, they find comfort and pleasure in hearing our sensual voice, knowing that we are feeling what they are, it’s a way of connecting verbally through our thoughts and feelings.

Personally, I started slowly as I simply described what I saw at the moment, saying things like “mm baby I love how hard you get when I…” nothing over the top, nothing like you see in movies, just simple connection, to my surprise every time I spoke my husband would smile, loving the fact I was connecting with him verbally. These phrases grew over time, describing what I wanted to do to him, or what I wanted him to do to me, slowly I introduced sensual moans when he hit just the right spot to let him know he was doing well, and to stoke his ego, never fake, but as I did so I noticed I found more pleasure in myself, more in tune with him, more easily able to achieve orgasm quicker and longer in duration. Occasionally when all alone, I would let out an occasional scream or moan, which always sent him over the edge, as he would return it with a sensual grunt and passionate kiss.

Now I know many of you with Christian values may be asking yourselves what is, and isn’t appropriate to say during sex, so often we’re told never to say a bad word, never to curse, to deal with this we must first understand words have a purpose, and should be used in its time and place.

 Level 1: SEXY PHRASES

Sexy phrases are nice, simple, yet effective. They are an easy way to dip your toes in the water of dirty talk while adding a little excitement.

These are basically sweet and nice phrases. These are the kind of phrases you can use to get used to dirty talk, specially if you’re new to this, or you don’t know what kind of response your man is going to have.
Some examples are:

• "Yes! Right there!"
• "Oh yeah, that’s nice"
• "That feels soooooo good!"
• "Touch me here"
• "Your mouth feels amazing"
• "I feel so safe in your arms"
• "I’m so loving this!"
• "I am so happy to be wrapped up here with you"
• "I have been thinking about doing this to you all day long"
• “Ohhhh, that feels good … right there”
• “Mmmmm, that feels incredible”
• “Your body feels amazing”
• “When you enter me, mmmm, it feels so good I have to catch my breath”  
• “Oh yeah, kiss my breast”
• “Yes, deeper”
• “Yessssss!”

Level 2: HOT PHRASES

These are the phases that will definitely add spice to your sex life; just make sure that you feel comfortable saying them, and that he will be ok with them.
It will all depends on your level of openness about dirty talk.
Some examples are:


• "My panties get wet just thinking about what you are going to do to me"
• "I want your thick meat!!"

• "Oh baby, I want you to cum all over me!"
• "Who makes that cock so hard, cowboy?"
• "I want you to fuck me all night long"

• "Mmmmm, harder… don’t stop!!"
• "Can you feel how wet you get me?"
• "I love to feel that hot cock inside me"

"stretch my pussy"
"cum on my"...
"Fuck my brains out"
"Whose your daddy"
"Who owns that cock (or pussy)"
• "You like banging this slick pussy, don’t you?"

• "Don’t stop fucking me until I beg you!"
• "I want to lick that dick like a lollipop"
• "I want to be so satisfied, that everyone who sees me tomorrow will know why I’m still smiling"

• "Put me on my knees and bang me til I cum all over your dick"
• "I love the feel of your soft balls in my mouth"
• "Oh yeah, that’s it, don’t you dare stop fucking me"

Level 3: DIRTY PHRASES

This is the level where you have to be very very careful, phrases similar to the ones below may turn him off or even offend him. Only use these kind of phrases if you’re sure that he's super comfortable and cool about it:
Some examples are:

• "I want your fat cock to cover me with cum"
• "Whip it out and cum all over my tits!"
• "Watch me while I’m sucking your balls and licking the underside of that gorgeous cock of yours!"
• "Do you want to spank my ass while you’re grinding me from behind?"
• "Tell me you want me to swallow your load!!"

• "I’m going to let you eat me after you fuck me for a few minutes first"
• "Do you want me to deep throat that cock of yours, baby?"
• "I want to sit on your face babe"

Personally I have never used a single curse word outside of the bedroom, like… ever! But certain words add to the experience, for example, it sounds rather silly saying put that big penis in my vagina, doesn’t it? Instead I’d use the words cock and pussy, sounds better huh! One of my biggest hang ups had to do with the F word, but no other word was as appropriate during sex than this, one day while Brett had me bent over, I let it slip, “F*ck Me!” I demanded. My face grew red, his did too, but quickly the shock and aww turned into a smile, as he told me to tell him again what he wanted from him, “f*ck Me” I begged more sensually while biting my lower lip. Words have a purpose, a time and a place to use, obviously these words should never leave the bedroom, and when used responsibly can help even Christian couples to amplify their sexual experience through vocal communication.

As a lover we have the ability to not only make our partner horny by physical touch, but equally through our sounds, our screams, our moans, and specially our words, as a man nothing is hotter than his lover asking him to fuck her, as a woman nothing is hotter than hearing her guy lose control as he cums. Be vocal, be loud, be slutty and whorish, say their name, beg them for actions, describe what your doing, or about to do, if your fuck their minds first, the orgasm is sure to follow quicker.

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http://badgirlsbible.com/dirty-things-to-say-to-a-guy

http://badgirlsbible.com/dirty-talk-examples

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