WHY SEX SHOULD NEVER HURT, ENJOYING ALL FORMS OF SEX, EVEN THE ROUGH KIND

SEX SHOULD NEVER HURT... WHAT TO DO IF IT DOES...

REASONS WHY SEX CABN BE PAINFUL

LACK OF STIMULATION

Even though your vagina is a natural self-lubricator, if you haven't warmed up for sex through foreplay, are breastfeeding, or are close to menopause, you could suffer from dryness during intercourse. Diving head first into sex can create unnecessary friction between your vagina and his manhood, so it's always worth spending more time getting into the act.

LACK OF MENTAL STIMULATION

Your mind is your best sexual aid, use it...

LACK VARIATION AND IMAGINATION

Missionary sex is great, don't get us wrong, but missionary every time? A dull sexual routine can lead to her drying up as she has lost her thrill and excitement factor. Try adding new positions, places to have sex, role play scenarios, watch a dirty video, add a third, just do something to make sex new and exciting again and she will stay plenty aroused and ready for action.

OVERLY LONG OR WIDE PENIS

No guy is ever too large-and-in-charge to wear a condom. But when it comes to penetration, a man's love gun might not fit into your, er, pistol box, says Fulbright. In a sense, you need to be "loosened" up by trying simple sex moves first—think missionary—or turning yourself on more through foreplay. Blame Kama Sutra books for introducing you to how-the-hell-do-they-contort-their-bodies-like-that sex positions. It's always good to experiment and deviate from your go-to routine, but the Butter Churner (Google it) might not be for everyone. A guy's curvature can make your go-to moves feel a little off from time to time.

PHYSICALLY WEAK VAGINA

Lack of Kegels, out of shape thighs, both will lead to less lubrication, overly worn out muscles, and a less orgasmic vagina unable to keep up with the pace and pleasure...

DRY VAGINA (UNUSED AND NOT WELL KEPT)

Sex slump, dry spell, whatever you want to call it, the struggle's real. We're not saying you should jot down sex in your weekly planner, but just know it's totally normal for it to hurt if you haven't done it since Game of Thrones season 1. Women who forget to do their Kegels also tend to have these painful issues, as well as women who fail to masturbate with dildos to prime their woo-ha and keep things useable.

THE GUY (TOO ROUGH)

Most men don't have too much of an issue with this, and yes, rough sex is great when the woman is healthy, does her kegels, and is well lubricated, but in the end there is a time and place for rough sex, he needs to know his and her limits, and when is a good time to rough it up a tad. How would you feel if she was to take a pair of boxing gloves to your balls? yeah it's like that.

RECENT CHILD BIRTH

First off, if your libido can bounce back right away after childbirth, GO YOU. But caution: It'll take your body some time to get back to its former glory. Some doctors suggest a four to six week window after childbirth as a good time frame to get your groove back, but it all depends on the individual.

SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION

Yes, though it's not often talked about, some women (often in their teens or early twenties) experience a disorder known as vaginismus—where the muscles of the pelvic floor involuntarily spasm or tighten during sex and make penetration painful or impossible. Shooting pain during sex can also be attributed to hyperactive nerve fibers around the vulva, AKA vulvodynia.

Samuels says these dysfunctions can often have a psychological background related to abuse, trauma, or some kind of negative association with penetration. Talking to a specialist or gynecologist who can help women determine what the underlying issues are and help work though them with physical therapy is the biggest step towards recovery.

Eating Her Out

DON'T DO THIS: Don't lick it like a cat at a milk bowl...

DO THIS INSTEAD: allow her to face fuck you! eat her out passionately, be loud, get a rhythm going and play with the rest of her body simultaneously. As a woman you need to feel free enough to grab his head and force him down there, trust us, he'll love it. Be exciting, be new, be an animal.

Finger Fucking

DON'T DO THIS: Don't just ram your fingers in there and poke around, be strategic, know what spots feel good and which ones don't. Also be sure to keep your nails well trimmed and soft to avoid hurting her.

DO THIS INSTEAD: Start slow and with one finger, work the entrance, then slow strokes, add a finger or two, add pressure, and add rhythm once you hit the spot that makes her gasp.

Use Your Beauty To Your Advantage

DON'T DO THIS: Blank stares...

DO THIS INSTEAD: Use your smile, use sexy facial expressions, use your mouth, your eye contact, your lips, your eyebrows, and whatever other body movements you can to hook his interest.

SEX

DON'T DO THIS: Most women love to have their hair pulled, but knowing how to do it right will determine if she wants you to do it again or not. Never eve grab by the end of her tail, grab small portions of hair, or grab it in the front only.

DO THIS INSTEAD: Grab as much hair as you can, the more you grab the less we feel it, grab by the base of the back of her head, and get a feel for how hard is to hard.

Foreplay

DON'T DO THIS: Skip, rush, or ignore it...
DO THIS INSTEAD: Each girl & situation is different, sometimes it may take minutes, other times she needs and hour to warm up, get to know what she needs.

Titty Fucking

DON'T DO THIS: Make her bounce her upper body up and down awkwardly titty fucking you.

DO THIS INSTEAD: Allow her to play with it naturally, and he can be the one to do the thrusting.

SEX

DON'T DO THIS: Be a silent and innocent church nun...

DO THIS INSTEAD: She should have the mouth of a sailor (in bed only), know what to say, how and when to say it, beg him, demand him, show confidence in your words, moan, scream, grunt even.

Sexting

DON'T DO THIS: SKIP SEXTING...

DO THIS INSTEAD: Sexting builds up your interest in sex, it warms her up all day long, it opens her up sexually to new experiences. Sexting is a must in marriage, pictures are the cherry on top.

Gentle Choking

DON'T DO THIS: DON'T CHOKER HER OR HIM

DO THIS INSTEAD: When I say choke I simply mean have him place his hand on your throat and put ever so gentle pressure on it, it feels the same as if he was to grip your wrists tight, but since its on your neck it makes you feel helpless and aroused.

Face-Fucking

DON'T DO THIS: DO NOT use her mouth the same way as you do her vagina, she may have a gag reflex and dislike it...

DO THIS INSTEAD: Know how deep she can take it, and gently thrust in and out, communicating together if it goes to deep.

Suck Him Deep

DON'T DO THIS: Don't just suck, nibble, or lick the tip...

DO THIS INSTEAD: A blowjob that lacks depth is like taking a bite of a fancy expensive dinner and then spitting it out, deep BJ's make or break the experience for him. It doesn't have to be deep the whole time, but he needs to feel your whole mouth surrounding his length.

Cum

DON'T DO THIS: When your man cums it should never just go on your torso or belly, instruct him to cum in either your mouth, on your breasts, on your face, or anywhere else he prefers. Your reaction and where you are willing to let him cum says a lot about what you think about your relationship with him.

DO THIS INSTEAD: LOVE HIS ORGASM THE WAY HE DEVOURS YOURS...

Forcefully Fuck Her

DON'T DO THIS: Don't just have sex without body contact up high.

DO THIS INSTEAD: when having sex on the bed, wall, or even floor, pin her shoulders and face to the floor, bed, or wall, it helps us feel helpless and lusty.

Show Him You Want It

DON'T DO THIS: Simply state "cum for me" or "I want your cum"...

DO THIS INSTEAD: Be submissive, Beg him for his orgasm, the universal sign for I want you to cum is to stick out your cum (as shown below). This is the moment he needs to hear you amp up your dirty talk from shy girlfriend to a kinky pornstar ready to swallow.

Screamer

DON'T DO THIS: say "oooh" & "ahhh"...

DO THIS INSTEAD: Moan his name, Beg him for what you want, let him hear your enjoyment as he fucks you senseless, squeal, moan like a total whore to help yourself love the sex that much more.

Grab her

DON'T DO THIS: Simply touching her body while you pound her.

DO THIS INSTEAD: Grip her by the wrists, by her hips, by her knees, make sure she knows she is yours tonight as you strongly move her body around while fucking her.

Manhandle Her

DON'T DO THIS: drop her

DO THIS INSTEAD: Fuck her against a wall as you sweep her off her feet. This position helps us feel it deep and makes most women cum like a rocket.

Moan for Her

DON'T DO THIS: simply grunt or sit quiet like a virgin.

DO THIS INSTEAD: Far too many guys are terrible at making noise during sex, we want to hear him grunt, moan, and talk extremely dirty as he fucks us stupid.

Grab Her Shoulders

DON'T DO THIS: simply fuck her from behind.

DO THIS INSTEAD: Grab her by the shoulders, neck, and breasts, as you fuck her from behind.

Hold Her Hands Behind Her Back

DON'T DO THIS: Fucking her from behind isn't enough...

DO THIS INSTEAD: Grab her hands and from behind use them to help you leverage her body for better thrusting, this feels amazing for us as women as we get it deep and we feel so slutty being used.

Experiment

DON'T DO THIS: Never stop trying new things!!!

DO THIS INSTEAD: Try and kiss a girl, if you like it, take it a step further, the least you can do is watch some porn on it, trust me, as someone who ignored this for years I now love female porn as it teaches us to better pleasure our own bodies.

Fuck Someone Else Besides Your Husband (With permission of course)

DON'T DO THIS: Monogamy loses its spark eventually, don't continue with a flameless relationship.

DO THIS INSTEAD: Explore having a fuck buddy on the side, she'll have better orgasms, have better sexual technique, and be happier and hornier overall.

Rough, Hard Sex

DON'T DO THIS: Don't just randomly (out of the blue) fuck her hard.

DO THIS INSTEAD: Learn to read the situation, is she aroused, is rough sex what we both want right now? Is she enjoying the harder than normal sex? If yes then continue pounding away.

Riding Cock

DON'T DO THIS: Ride/ Gyrate on his cock

DO THIS INSTEAD: Fuck your man! Learn how to bounce, grind, and penetrate him vertically the same way he thrusts in and out of you during missionary positions.

Reverse Cowgirl

DON'T DO THIS: Bore him to death with plain motions and lack of dirty talk.

DO THIS INSTEAD: Bounce and twerk your ass on his cock

Rough Sex Is Better Outside Of The Bedroom

DON'T DO THIS: Have rough sex in bed.

DO THIS INSTEAD: Fuck each other around the home instead.

Have Threesomes (And lots of them)

DON'T DO THIS: Sex with just your husband gets old...

DO THIS INSTEAD: Have him arrange (or arrange together a threesome with another guy or girl friend, fucking together with a 3rd is an easy way to get her horny on a regular basis.

Tease her

DON'T DO THIS: Dive right in without making her anticipate it.

DO THIS INSTEAD: Tease the hell out of her and make her beg for it.

Spanking

DON'T DO THIS: A hand straight on the ass...

DO THIS INSTEAD: When you spank make sure your hand slides off the side so it doesn't sting, have it kind of glide by the ass rather than land on the ass and stop.

Play With Her Upper Body

DON'T DO THIS: Ignore her breasts, Neck, Shoulders, Arms, Ears, and so on.

DO THIS INSTEAD: Cover it all...

Arch Your Back

DON'T DO THIS: Just do missionary...

DO THIS INSTEAD: Arch your back to show off your tits and how much they can bounce, the angle also helps her reach the g-spot.

Missionary Sex

DON'T DO THIS: Have bland missionary sex...

DO THIS INSTEAD: She HAS TO BE ACTIVE! Wrap your legs around him, use your voice, your hands and breasts, your kisses. Add to the experience, avoid being a star fish.