BRINGING OUT EACH OTHERS INNER PORNSTARS

What sets apart good sex from great sex? Let’s just call it the “pornstar” factor.

I’m constantly amazed at just how little a bit of effort and attitude adjustment can change a marriages sex life from being good or decent, to being mind blowing and near perfection. I’ve always said that porn is fake, that it shouldn’t be used as a reference for real life sex, at least that’s what I used to think. Porn when taken to an extreme can be harmful, both to our sexual mentality and our sex life within the marriage, yet when used moderately and constructively it can create pure bliss and sexual fulfilment within a marriage. While porn should not necessarily be copied and used as a template, it sure as heck has the ability to be used as a template for sexual techniques, seduction ideas, positions, fantasy building, and as a way to increase the female libido.

From what we’ve found in our marriage the more of these ideas we pull from porn, the happier and healthier our sex-life is, and the happier our marriage becomes. So… How to implement it safely and to each gender?

 

How every husband can be a Sexual God & Male Pornstar:

Now obviously we as women and wives need first and foremost a kind, soft, delicate, devoted, hard working husband who not only brings home financial support, but serves as a good father with  our children, assists in chores, yard work, and most of all treating us like the royal queens we truly are. Aside from that we as woman have a primal need deep down to be the damsel in distress when to comes to the romance and sexuality department, we need a man who not only can be a big and strong dominant figure, but who knows how to fuck our minds just as well as he fucks our bodies.

 


So, lets think about this, what does a male pornstar do? Maybe watch a few to get an idea, but more often than not he's able to talk so romantically and dirty that a woman is on the verge of cumming before he ever even touches our pussy! A man can rip off our clothing, make us feel helpless and weak, the feeling and sight of a man devouring a pussy like it was his last meal is one every woman should experience in her life. Seeing a man push us up against a wall, hold our hands behind our back as he kisses our necks, pins our arms to the bed while he has his way with us, and hearing him moan our name as he grunts into a cum filled explosion all over us is what sex is all about to a woman. Sure, the cuddles are great, the slow intimate sex can be fulfilling from time to time, but what most women need is to be fucked, and be fucked well for that matter.

How you treat her outside the bedroom:

How you treat her outside the bedroom far outweighs how you treat her inside the bedroom, a woman needs to be treated like a queen, worshiped and honored gently and sweetly. A real man helps out with the kids, chores, and yard work, aside from just paying the bills. He brings her peace and joy through romance, dating, and respect as a woman. Only then can he hope to unleash the whore within.

How you dress:

The thing about a male pornstar is there’s not one right way to dress, you can wear a handsome suit, athletic wear, or even nothing at all, find out what she enjoys and stick to it!! Every so often it doesn’t hurt to throw in a bit of role playing to spice things up, perhaps a wild cowboy, maybe a dominant boss, or even the young fit gym trainer who can’t keep his hands off the married babe he sees at the gym every so often. Whether its a pair of rock hard abs, or just a big hard penis, it doesn't take much imagination to spark our desires...

How you seduce her:

Here’s the thing about seduction, there’s not one right or wrong formula that works and works every time. If you want to sweep her off her feet and get her to open her legs you’ll need to change it up from time to time. Sometimes she needs the romantic stud who gently romances her into submission, other times she needs to feel a big strong man take her against her will, dropping her jaw with amazement.

Body Language & Attire:

It's amazing how just a simple look, pose, or even text message can spark a fire in a wifes pants.

How you dominate her

A woman needs to feel owned at times, as if her lover is big and strong, capable of taking her and claiming her body. We want to feel you throw us around, pin us down or against the wall, we want you to get primal, raw, even animalistic at times, pull our hair, spank us, make us feel alive. The only way for a man to fulfill his poornstar sex god status is to live up to this category.

 

How you tease her

Nothing makes us wetter than a tease, seeing what we want only to then make us wait for it, or even deny it, whether its a rock hard cock resting against our soaking wet pussy lips, or kisses & steamy breathing all over our body, YOU HAVE TO TEASE A GIRL!

  

How you please her: Fuck our brains out, plain and simple!!!

  

Going down on her

When it comes to male pornstars, watch them, they flat out devour a pussy, DO THAT!

 

Positions and Thrusting: Men... Study G-spot thrusting... END OF STORY!

 

Her orgasm

Men, her orgasm is the pinnacle event, moan for us, make it last, talk dirty to us as we cum, and for goodness sake when your eating us out don't be a pussy, swallow our cum like a real man. Swallowing allows us to feel prolonged stimulation and signifies dedication and love, a man who refuses to do so basically screws our big O up, and makes us feel as if your disgusted by our cum and bodies...

 

Your enthusiasm

When a man is enthusiastic about sex it opens us up to do anything, maybe try bondage, maybe swallowing, maybe role-play, threesomes, anal, you name it. Talk about sex together, let her know how you feel about it, what you like, what you desire, you'll be surprised that most couples have either had or want to have a threesome, talk it through, make it happen.

 

Guys, we need you to be our prince, our beast, our gentle lover, and our dominant porn star, its a heavy burden, but keep the balance!

 

The Pornstar Sex Goddess

Now in contrast to what a male pornstar is like, lets explore the mindset of the female pornstar, the woman every wife should aspire to become for her man, just like the dominant man he is so naturally. When you think about female pornstars what kinds of things do they do? Well, for starters, they need cock, they act as if it's a life or death situation to be honest, they crave it, they'd do anything to please it. Aside from the lust for cock, they're great at seducing, while it may be cheesy and silly at times, men eat it up, they love seeing us put on a short show, or dressed in some kinky outfit, or even whispering insanely dirty things to them in public.

Another trait that sets them apart is their oral talent, not only sucking, but sucking for 7-10 minutes at minimum, they enjoy doing it, they smile, they take pride in it, and when it finally comes time to get it on they make noise, they bounce back, they put in work and effort, they get ultra aggressive and dominant with their man, and make sure he doesn't have to put in all the work, they tease him to the point he cant take it, and then when he finally cums they shower themselves in his orgasm, licking up every last tasty drop.

 

How you treat him outside the bedroom 

It's amazing to me that so many wives fail to live up to their end of the relationship in the bedroom, true a man needs a dedicated wife who can cook, clean, and be a good mother, but what happens to so many of us as women is we forget about our man, we lose ourselves and transform into boring prudes in the bedroom. A man needs 4 things in life, Food, Water, Sleep, and a dedicated whore who will do ANYTHING in the bedroom to keep him happy, and who also is sexually happy herself.

So, ladies... How can you be the slutty whore your man needs so he doesn't find someone else to do the job you wont do? Here's your list to transform from time to time to the goddess he needs.

How you dress

When it comes to how you dress, this sets the stage on what kind of sex you're about to have, is it going to be gentle and romantic? or will it be hot and passionate? Whether it be a skimpy thong, a classy garter and heels (most mens favorite), butt naked, or a role-play costume such as a school girl, secretary, or other imaginative ideas, the easiest way to get his attention and start your own porn story is to dress appropriately. Also don't forget, sometimes you just need to dress a bit whorish when your at home, out on a date, or in the bedroom, wear something that hints to him "I'm going to beg you to cum on my face or tits tonight". And of course, be a good actress, and shave your pussy clean or design it in a new and exciting way.

How you seduce him:

When you think about a porn movie, its cheesy right? its some bimbo female seducing the dude in a ridiculous way, yet when we do it together its so stinking hot! the first time I did a bimbo move I thought to myself "I cant believe I'm doing this, I'm going to feel so stupid! he's going to hate it!" BUT GUESS WHAT, He loved it, I loved doing it, it was kinky, it made me feel sexy, powerful, and it was something new! ALWAYS BE looking for new and "bimbo" ways to get it on with your man! Anytime, anywhere!

Asking for things he enjoys:

Does he like to spank you? Pull your hair? Cum certain areas? then beg him to!!! Spank yourself, be a tease, spark his enjoyments and put on a show.

Posing in sexy ways: Need we say more?

 

Foreplay:

Ladies think about it, your mans at work all day... How else are you going to flirt throughout the day? It can save your marriage and sex life...

Dirty Talk:

YOU HAVE TO DO IT! YOU HAVE TO! you have to be a tease, you have to beg, you have to learn kinky phrases that makes him hard and groan, he wont enjoy sex without it, specially in your pornstar mode. Fuck Me! learn to say it, say it often.

Body language:

Ever give him a bj sign out in public? try it!

A pornstar also always reacts with shock at the sight of a big giant penis, always show you love it, it stokes his confidence and ego.

How you please him

Bounce, moan, scream, give him the pornstar stare where your jaw drops as you moan, men love this, they love to hear and see us in pleasure during sex.

Oral Sex:

Take a look at the chart... Now... How much time do you think you need to spend orally on his cock? I would say at least 5-10 minutes if you want him to enjoy it, at minimum at least lick it for 5 minutes. Ladies by now you should know a pornstar would suck a penis as if desperate to do it. That doesn't mean you have to suck like a maniac, you can still mix it up slowly, in fact many men prefer it slow.

His Orgasm:

Is there any question by now ladies? His cum is gold, treat it as such, learn to love it, if he swallows your orgasm you had better swallow his, you after all cum 5 times more liquid than he does... Cum is precious to him, if you accept it his orgasm will be phenomenal, and he will have sexual fulfillment, if not his orgasm is ruined, and the whole experience was for not. When he's about to cum always have him pull out and drop to your knees to receive his white gold.
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Enthusaism:

Just like him, he needs you to be energetic, he needs you to be aggressive and assertive, It's your goal as his lover to fulfill every one of his fantasies, be bold enough and open enough to make them happen, doing so will bring you both closer together by strengthening your love and marriage.

 

So as a sexual therapist and marriage counselor, here's some ideas on ways to bring out your inner pornstar:

 

• Surprise him with a new outfit out of the blue!
• Wake him up in the morning or at night with a BJ
• During a random t.v. show go down on him out of nowhere, don't even bother kissing him first!
• Talk dirty via text, out in public, anywhere, anytime
• Have sex where for once you do ALL the work
• Public sex (car, restroom, outdoors, be creative)
• Loud and moaning sex (over the top)
• Sex in with selfies or video so he can pleasure himself next time your not around or out of town.
• Beg Beg Beg
• Rough sex
• Hotel sex 3-4 times per day
• Have a threesome or foursome
• Swallow his cum (which you should be doing already anyways)
• Role-playing sex
• Be confident, aggressive, over the top, be a submissive yes girl, play the bimbo role (the slutty girl you like to talk bad about and slut shame)

 

 

It happens to the best of us. Maybe you’re in a long-term relationship where the passion has started to fizzle. Maybe you’re depressed, busy, or stressed. Or perhaps you’re on a hormonal rollercoaster due to pregnancy or recent childbirth.

Whatever the reason(s), there comes a time in every slut’s life where she may settle for a lackluster sex life or little to no sex at all.

Here are some tips for reawakening the slut within:

1. Masturbation & More Frequent Sex

Masturbation and sex are healthy for you both physically and mentally, and sex or stimulation = more desire. So make time for it, and do your best to get into it or make the most of it when it’s happening. Increase the frequency and your hormones will soon take over.

1. Fantasizing

This can be done during tip #1, in the shower, on the way to work, while zoning out in class, drifting off to sleep, etc. Just conjure up an image of your favorite bad boys and all the dirty things you’d like to do to them or have them do to you. If you’re into girls then throw them into the mix, and if you find that trying to let your imagination wander feels like too much work, there’s always porn. Either way, this visual stimulation will help light the fire under your inner slut.

3. Break out the lingerie

If you go to bed every night in sweats, you’re not going to feel sexy, and if you have a partner, he’s not exactly going to be overjoyed either.  As women we can give ourselves an easy boost by slipping on our sexiest underwear in the morning, and crawling into bed in racy lingerie at night.