CUM GET IT: WHY CUM MATTERS, HOW WIVES USE IT OR LOSE IT
I FEARED CUM, I HATED IT, I RAN FROM IT, AND IT HURT HIM
I've always been one of those girls that hated cum... I ADMIT IT. Every time Brett would cum on my belly or hands I would make a face as if I'd just been shot, or as if I had just grabbed a babies poopy diaper... Unfortunately I wasn't alone. Far too many selfish and uninformed wives fail to understand the importance of cum and what it means to their man. They treat cum like hot acid, like a bullet that might kill them, or even like the plague.
To illustrate how men view and feel about their cum let me lay down this analogy: It's thanksgiving day, both you and your husband have slaved away all night and morning to prep a large festive meal for the family, both splitting the cooking duties. Your husband went above and beyond this year, cooking nearly twice as much as you, the meal is set, you both sit down to eat, and you go to town on the food, both your and his, enjoying it to the fullest. But then you look up, and you see the look of disgust on your mans face, who has decided not to eat anything you made because of the look texture, or taste of the various foods... You're insulted, devastated, confused, why doesn't he appreciate me and participate like he's supposed to?
To illustrate how men view and feel about their cum let me lay down this analogy: It's thanksgiving day, both you and your husband have slaved away all night and morning to prep a large festive meal for the family, both splitting the cooking duties. Your husband went above and beyond this year, cooking nearly twice as much as you, the meal is set, you both sit down to eat, and you go to town on the food, both your and his, enjoying it to the fullest. But then you look up, and you see the look of disgust on your mans face, who has decided not to eat anything you made because of the look texture, or taste of the various foods... You're insulted, devastated, confused, why doesn't he appreciate me and participate like he's supposed to?
Well... Cums the same way to a man, to him it is just as important, and to show such disrespect and disgust to it hurts him deep down. He wants you to enjoy him, and all of him, his cum is part of him, and when you don't dig in it severely hurts his feelings and ego. He wants you to taste it all, to go mmmm, he wants you to love it, to get a big smile on your beautiful face when you see it, he wants you to beg him for it, and to lick up every last crumb. You see swallowing cum is the true sign a woman loves a man, for its chemical connection to him is what solidifies a relationship. Without this connection his heart wanders and desires another woman who will embrace him.
CUM SWALLOWING ORIGINS
Cum swallowing originated in the early 800's in Asia, where the culture recognized the health benefits of doing so. Researchers from NYU, Rutgers, and Florida State have recently publicized information showing that women who swallow become physically addicted to her mans semen! What does that mean? They become dependent on it, she'll crave it, which means MORE SEX! She needs her husband, she's chemically dependent on him, without it she'll get moody, anxious, stressed, and even angry. CUM STRENGTHENS MARRIAGE!!!
RELATIONSHIP & HEALTH BENEFITS
- It’s Bonding- Showing your man that you are not disgusted by his fluids and want to take it in you is a show of absolute trust and familiarity. You trust that he is disease free, and you are sharing a very intimate experience with him. You Should Swallow When Pregnant – Studies have found that swallowing his load after oral sex correlates with a diminished occurrence of preeclampsia, a nasty condition that pregnant women sometimes get that raises your blood pressure and can affect other organs like the kidneys. So yes, swallowing cum is a healthy thing to do even for pregnant women!
- Oxytocin aka The Bonding Hormone – Semen contains oxytocin, a hormone that helps you to increase trust, reduces your fear and is also known as the bonding hormone (or cuddle hormone) which is great if you want to feel closer to your man. The Asian cultures have been doing this for thousands of years, long before it was a porn thing. Cum has a natural age reducing glow on our skin, it is packed with protein, and is one of the healthiest substances on earth to be blunt.
- Brain Booster – You man’s seminal fluid aka his cum contains a lot of nerve growth factor[9], a compound responsible for the growth of neurons in your brain and boosting your brain health.
- Live Longer – Your man’s load contains a compound known as spermidine which has been proven to have anti-aging properties.
- Electrolytes – A guy’s semen contains numerous electrolytes including calcium, magnesium, potassium, sodium, zinc and chloride
- Why Wouldn't You?-- swallowing semen has been known to lower blood pressure, enhance moods, boost the immune system, and lessen acne. Some people even regard swallowing sperm as a spiritual, cultural, and social “norm.” Not to mention that swallowing can create an awesome visual effect that will blow your man’s mind
- Helps Depression-New research in the scientific community has determined that consuming sperm can combat depression, due to hormones present in seminal fluids. Bio-psychologist Gordon G. Gallup Jr., believes semen functions to improve a woman’s mood.
- It’s A Turn On-Swallowing can be erotic and romantic. Men have very erotic minds and if you go that extra mile by taking it all in, you will make him feel very turned on.
- It’s Rude Not To-Running right to the bathroom afterwards to spit it out can be such an anti-climax and even a little offensive. A friend of mine once griped that her boyfriend went straight to the bathroom to wash his hands after fingering her. So rude! Do you do the same?
IRRATIONAL FEAR OF CUM
Just imagine guys…
You are in bed with a girl and she gives you head. It is definitely not the best blowjob of your life, but all in all she knows what she is doing. She puts in a lot of effort to please you and looks up to you every couple of seconds to check if you are still enjoying it.
She does a really good job and the moment her tongue wraps around the tip of your dick, you can’t control it anymore. All you can think off is to come in her beautiful mouth. You moan, your whole body starts to shake and with an ear-shattering scream you release, But wait a second…
Why are your balls and your legs so wet and slimy? Why does she have a look on her face as if she cant stand you? “Did she really just dive out of the way from my orgasm,…? After she squirted on my face 3 times for almost an hour?”
Yes, she did. She pulled your dick out right before you ejaculated. She did the only thing that has the power to ruin every excellent blowjob. While you look at the mess on your bed, she just smiles at you and asks “how was it?” Ladies he doesn't have the heart to tell you, but that great sex, and five minutes of sucking like a perfectionist, just ended in pure disappointment, chances are he'll be thinking of another girl tonight who would have finished the job...
I know that it is politically incorrect, but please be completely honest when you answer the following question: Wifey, ask him right now: “Would you rather get a blowjob from a girl who swallows your cum or from a girl who doesn’t do it?” Hint Hint, he wants you to swallow... Its ruining his orgasm and connection to you, he's being tempted by other women who will do what you won't...
THE DOUBLE STANDARD IN THE BEDROOM
What is there to fear about cum? seriously? its liquid, its small, there's nothing to fear! A woman who fears cum shows sexual immaturity to the highest degree, it shows lack of experience and willingness to be there to support her guy the way she promised to. She shows selfishness when he goes down on her and devours her cum, yet is unwilling to do the same.
Think about it, when a man goes down on you we leak like a faucet, his face is drenched in our cum and gush, he literally licks up and swallows 5-10 times the amount of fluid that a woman does when she swallows. So why then are the wives the ones who complain? Simple... Selfishness, immaturity, they lack love and refuse to show it. And it shows, we might think he wont notice or feel its effects, but he does... And it hurts deeply, it puts him at risk of finding comfort with another woman who will do what we wont, it leaves him vulnerable to temptation, to loving another woman.
Disappointment is guaranteed without it...
HOW TO LEARN TO OVERCOME THE FEAR AND ENJOY IT
You see to love cum requires practice, it wont come all at once, but he needs to know you love it, or at least your trying to love it. Women more than men lose interest in an early age, why? because they stop trying, they stop caring, and they stop loving. Or at least stop showing they love.
TIPS FROM THE PROFESSIONALS
- As his sperm and semen are quite sticky in texture, you’ll find that allowing him to ejaculate into the back of your throat is best as it lets you more easily swallow it. It also means you don’t have to worry about it hitting your taste buds.
- If you want his cum to taste more palatable and even good, then all you need to do is get him to eat light and drink lots of juice in the 2-10 hours before you give him a blowjob.
- Mind over matter: If you go into it telling yourself your going to hate it and make yourself sick, well, you will... But if you go into it thinking your going to become his ultimate fantasy, and transform yourself into the sex freak he's always craved, well then, you'll love his cum.
- The taste of your man’s cum depends a lot on what he has just eaten. Many women have found that if their man has been eating something like asparagus, artichokes or anything greasy it will taste a lot nastier than usual. Same goes for loads of red meats... But on the other hand men who eat lots of fruits, specially pineapple, tend to have sweet and flat out delicious cum (I put Brett on the pineapple diet and told him why, when he discovered the reason he obliged rather quick).
- Hold down and squeeze your thumbs if your worried about a gag reflex, it suppresses it 90% of the time. Chew some gum beforehand and your good to go.
- if the texture bugs you have him hydrate more, or if you want it thicker there are ways to thicken it up and make it less liquidy.
THE HUSBANDS PERSPECTIVE
Cum is as much a part of me as my penis is. When a wife runs, avoids, and grimaces at the sight of my cum its as bad as her being grossed out by my cock... It hurts, it ruins any orgasm I have because I know she is just tolerating me at that moment. When a wife fails to embrace it she is putting her entire marriage at risk, his orgasms are ruined and feels tempted to retreat to another woman who can value him the way he needs, his mind will be elsewhere, he will stop caring about her needs, he will become indifferent towards her emotionally and sexually. The very marriage itself may end because of this small and simple oversight on her part.
On the other hand, a wife that shows she loves cum (or at least fakes it) causes her husband to become the most devoted being on earth, he clings to her, he fights for her, respects her, meets all her needs in every way. When a man sees a wife who begs him for it, moans at the taste of it, who loves the touch of it, who plays with it, and ultimately swallows it with pride and a beautiful smile, he FULLY IS ABLE TO LOVE HER. Nothing else can replace this void. He wants to see you eager for it, he wants you to enjoy his orgasm just as much as he does. he wants you to swallow him up as much as he does to you. The connection and bond that comes between a man and wife who embraces in this practice is unbreakable.
CUM & WOMEN CATEGORIES
There are 4 categories of wives when it comes to their attitude with cum, and nothing but the fourth is enough to keep his heart locked with her.
THE CATEGORY 4 WIFE:
These girls exist, but if she doesn't embrace your cum she isn't fully in love with you.When a woman is into you, she wants to fulfill your fantasies. She dreams about a fulfilling relationship in which you both fulfill each other’s fantasies and she is willing to take the first step.
Stay In Control- Swallowing your man’s load is relatively easy. All you need to do is just allow him to ejaculate in your mouth. Then when he is finished orgasming, just swallow it. The mistake most women make is they make it too hard on themselves, they overthink it, fear it, and the psyche themselves out of what is a great opportunity to solidify yourself as a bomb ass wife.
Ease yourself into it-The next tip I want to give you to help you learn how to swallow cum with ease is to start by only swallowing a small amount. So the next time you give your man a blowjob or handjob, wait until he finishes. Next take just a small bit of cum and put it on your chin, maybe your lips too, that way your in control, take a small lick/taste it. See was that so hard? Next time maybe give yourself a mini facial, lick a little bit of cum of the tip of his cock. SEE! your doing it :) this is easy right? Moving forward next time maybe consider licking it off your breasts, hands, fingers, etc. Eventually you'll be comfortable enough with the taste and texture that you can stroke him to orgasm on your outstretched tongue fully, or orgasm in your mouth during a blowjob. If the amount is too much let it drip out this time, eventually you'll get comfortable enough to let it just sit there in your mouth, take some time, play with it inside, show it off to him to see how proud he is, and if your ready take the big gulp, and watch his eyes light up with pride and horniness for the sex goddess that has become his wife. ITS THAT EASY. ITS ONLY HARD IF WE MAKE IT HARD...
Play Around With It – After he ejaculates in your mouth, instead of immediately swallowing it, keep it in your mouth. You can then open your mouth to show him his load before swallowing it. Or you can swirl it around your mouth, so it looks like you are savoring the taste before gulping it down.
I Love It! – If you aren’t too keen to play with his cum before swallowing it, but you do want to make eating his cum hotter than usual, then just make some satisfying sounds after swallowing it. Gently humming, “Mmmmmmmmmmm” or “Yummmmmm” after swallowing it is an excellent way to make it more erotic for both of you. You can even go a little further by telling him how it tasted, “I love swallowing your cum” or “I adore feeling your cum trickle down my throat” or “Swallowing your cum makes me so wet.” You can learn more sexy and hot phrases.
Lick It Up – Letting him finish in your mouth during fellatio is not the only way that you can swallow his cum. If he finishes somewhere on himself, you can still swallow it! It’s a simple case of licking it up after he cums, which can look crazy intense and hot for your man.
Facial Swallow – This last cum swallowing technique is going to be a bit out there for most. Allow your husband to finish by giving you a facial. Holding his dick while he does it will help you to direct where he cums on your face and prevent him from hitting you in the eye. After he blows his load over your face, use your fingers to scoop up all his cum from your face and then drop it into your mouth. Once you have all his cum in your mouth, swallow it and let out a satisfied sigh.
Show it Off- The biggest turn on for a man is when his girl not only takes it in her mouth, but she does so with, pride, confidence, and makes it a sexy show. stick out your tongue and show it to him, then take the gulp, stick out the tongue, and show off that clean tongue with a smile and he's sure to blow his load all over again.
THE TONGUE- The tongue is the most important factor when it comes to cum. When a woman sticks out her tongue she is essentially saying "I want to taste you, swallow you, and play with you", it is the ultimate for of foreplay. I do it on dates, in the car, basically anytime I want him to screw me. even when we're having sex missionary style and he pulls out to cum I stick it out because of its powerful indicator that I love him and want him. DO IT, DO IT OFTEN... TRUST ME ;)
PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE
Lets do a bit of practice: take a look at each of these pictures for 10 seconds, imagine yourself in each situation doing the act.You drop your mans pants to find him hard as a rock, you feel him growing harder, ready to blow, what do you do? instead of moving away, you get further, and lick the underside of his cock to help him get closer.
After licking you notice a drop of pre-cum appear from the head, instead of wiping it off you decide to lick the tip and take it in your mouth. How does it feel? just like saliva right? NO TASTE AT ALL :)
Suddenly he starts to orgasm, you see a single droplet of cum start to drip from the tip of his penis. What do you do? Cower in the corner in fear? NO! you start stroking him to speed him up.
Suddenly it begins to flow, you decide to stick out your tongue and lick from the bottom of his shaft up to the tip, to clean the cum of his cock and into your mouth for the first time. You hardly notice any taste other than a small sweet sensation, the texture is like saliva, you actually enjoy it.
His orgasm is finished and his cum rests all over the head and shaft. Courageously you decide to clean it off by giving him an after orgasm BJ to suck him clean. The small amounts of cum don't phase you one bit.
After hours of teasing him he finally is ready to cum hard... you see his cock start to throb and harden, and like any good wife you drop to your knees, slide your head under his cock, and stick out your tongue to take his load on it. this is the most cum you've tasted at once, you can tell its sweeter, he starts to moan as he see's his wife looking insanely sexy with cum on her lips and in her mouth, you smile lovingly up at him saying mmm, as you swallow it all down.
WAS THAT ALL THAT HARD? IS SWALLOWING MANDATORY THEN?
NO! Of course not! But then again... If you want to keep him... If you want him to know that you actually love him... then... you know... Swallow... She wants to make sure that you choose her and that you keep her. It is a sign that she not only wants to make you happy, but also that she is totally turned on by you. And without even knowing it she improves her health.
Every woman knows that coming inside a woman’s mouth is one of the biggest fantasies of nearly every man. If she is really into you she wants to keep you she'll put in the effort to make your orgasm complete and be the wife he needs.
Comments
I was also a virgin before marriage so its taken a while for me to get in the game so to speak, my S.O. had 1 long time girlfriend/sexual partner before, and while it bugged me at the thought of her being with him, our sexual experiences have quickly erased most memories he has of her. The one memory he says he cant get out of his head is of her being a frequent swallower. I guess I've gotta put on my big girl panties and make some kinky memories of our own.
None of us will ever admit it, but we day dream, fantasize, and obsess about the way you deal with cum. Girls who hate semen are major turn offs, whereas women who love cum have their men wrapped around their finger. I would never ask my wife if i could give her a facial or cum on her tongue, but boy oh boy do i fantasize about it.
Always love your Friday night articles! It’s been a while. You know, this is one of the more controversial topics you’ve touched on, but its def legit.
I really think most women don’t have any idea how important cum is to us. You touched on it pretty well, its part of us, when the woman shy’s away from it it completely ruins the orgasm, and strips the guy of whatever emotional and romantic connection that had been there before. It leaves him feeling empty and wanting something (sometimes it causes our mind to wander so to speak).
I love how you pointed out the double standard, I know for myself I go to town on her willingly, she sometimes drowns me in her cum and wetness, yet when it comes to returning the favor many husbands get nadda in return. It does come down to love, emotional and sexual immaturity, and willingness to show love in return.
You can always see how much a person loves you by how much they are willing to do in bed, if a woman refuses to give oral back, you know she could care less about you, if she does it for a couple minutes here and there, she cares about you, but not that much, but if a woman is madly in love with you (as you would hope they are) they'll proactively swallow without being asked. Oral sex is the ultimate selfless act, and bluntly, its where we find out if our partner cares more about themselves, than they do about us.
I think what it comes down to is love and open mindedness, its all mental. 9 out of 10 men love having her squirt covering our face, and 9 out of 10 women enjoy our cum in their mouths, but it all comes down to love. I love my wife and would do anything she asked to give her an orgasm, ANYTHING! While I hope she would do the same for me, I would never force it on her. Swallowing is one of those acts that has to come from her, it has to be her choice, admittedly I fantasize about sex with her every day (always ending with me giving her a facial or her swallowing my cum) and while its my # 1 fantasy to see her do it, I'd never ask, pressure, or demand her to do so. I can attest that the “addiction” that comes from swallowing is a real thing, and would love to have that same connection with my wife.
We men have a primal need to please and satisfy our lady. I have always put her pleasure first. Part of that is letting her believe that I’m satisfied with what she does. Swallowing is a big deal for me, and I’m sure most men would agree, if they’re being honest. It’s one of those things you cant just ask for, but also one of those things that solidifies a relationship. She mentioned last year she wants to try swallowing at some point when she’s ready, so at least we’re making progress haha.
Recently, she changed her attitude. She seems to be enjoying sucking me. Then, during one blow job, she started telling me she wanted me to cum in her mouth and she wanted to swallow my cum. I couldn’t cum fast enough. She swallowed every drop. First time after 30 years of marriage. She had attempted to swallow before but let most of my semen drip out before swallowing very little of it. For me, it was a whole new level of acceptance for me. A level I had never felt.
I think its just lack of knowledge honestly, the more your around cum the less gross it becomes, its just 80% water after all.
after reading your blog last month I decided to give swallowing a try! I was terrified but as the moment came I got more and more excited as I saw his excitement growing. Seeing his body twitch and his jaw hit the floor just sent me into full blown slut mode haha. I begged, licked, sucked, and even stuck my tongue out and got some on it (which I gladly swallowed and presented my empty tongue to him with a smile) he looked as if he was about to pass out from pleasure. It actually tasted a bit like oysterish, a tad salty, a tad sweet, mainly just watery. I actually enjoy the taste and will probably do it again! thank you girls!!!!!
Girls like it, sluts want it, women need it, wives crave it like they are dying and his cum is the only cure... Real wives swallow, if you love him you'll try it.
usually I hate hard sex but the way he looks at me, feeling his passion, feeling him pull my hair so I have to watch my cum covered face bounce around is just too hot, I tend to squirt all over him. Flipping amazing, just amazing! then he pushes me down and i'll swallow him, it is pretty addictive haha.
I saw your blog on facebook and couldn't help but chime in. Cum is like my special reward for all my hard work, I like him to ejaculate on my breasts so I can rub it all in/over to tease him.
For me I realized I needed to embrace his cum when one day he had finished eating me out, he came up for air just soaked and dripping with juices all over his chin, it made me realize If he was going to take my fluids on his face and swallow them, I needed to do the same.
I started slow, letting him cum on my breasts, I tried rubbing it in to get comfortable with it, when I looked at it on my hands I realized cum was just water. next I tried licking a drop of precum (which had no taste), next I moved to receiving a facial, next after he came I licked the tip of his penis to taste just a bit of actual cum, and finally I let him cum on my tongue, after a few times spitting I figured out I actually enjoyed the taste and began to swallow :) took me about 8 sexual sessions to progress to this point.
I read a study once that when a partner swallows her mans ejaculate it physically and mentally makes her addicted to him and it! Its Sooooo true! if I go more than a couple weeks without swallowing I get grumpy, I get clingy, I feel depressed and miss him, his load is my medicine. I guess its similar to how guys sweat attracts us females somehow.
Sometimes I will, sometimes I won't. I love love love giving him oral. I surprise him with it all the time. He's never had to ask for it or hint at it. I absolutely love the taste of him. I legit crave it. No husband should ever have to ask for oral, it should be a gift 2-3 times per week at least! he does the same on me out of nowhere. It is quick, easy, and has brought us so close to each other its not even funny, the more we do it the more we crave each other.
Recently, she changed her attitude. She seems to be enjoying sucking me. Then, during one blow job, she started telling me she wanted me to cum in her mouth and she wanted to swallow my cum. I couldn’t cum fast enough. She swallowed every drop. First time after 30 years of marriage.
She had attempted to swallow before but let most of my semen drip out before swallowing very little of it. For me, it was a whole new level of acceptance for me. A level I had never felt.
We men have a primal need to please and satisfy our lady. I have always put her pleasure first. Part of that is letting her believe that I’m satisfied with what she does. Swallowing is a big deal for me, and I’m sure most men would agree, if they’re being honest.
I was so confused why she so suddenly changed her attitude, turns out she'd been reading erotica on it.
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http://www.marriedheat.com/perfect-blowjob/
oh... and swallowing has been around since 500 AD... Chinese discovered it was healthy and semen helped women become addicted to their man, which has since been proven 100% true by studies.
SWALLOWING CUM ISN NOT A PORN THING... is it used in porn? yes, but is it done because of porn? NO
100% agree Sky, oral sex is the true love test, my husband is fully dedicated to it, and that lets me know he is madly in love with me and wants to be my everything. If I didn't return the same effort for him... well... I'd be a terrible wife and lover. the bible even actually speaks of swallowing cum oddly enough, in the psalms of Solomon it talks of how a man and wife should drink of each others orgasms.
There you have it Husbands and wives, swallowing is an approved act of god :)
Its so crazy how the more cum I swallow the more I crave it, its like a drug! they say cum is an aphrodisiac that has the ability to make you crave your partner even more, I can vouch for this 100%, who had a lackluster sex life before I began swallowing, but literally within a few times swallowing I had sex on my mind all day every day, I'm so horny that I'm now the one that wears him out haha.
I call myself a "Cum Queen". I like the warmth, the smell, the flavor, everything. The more cum the better. REally though, If I'm in a very raunchy mood, I love to get my guys cum sprayed all over my face.
I like swallowing his cum. You're probably all going to laugh at me, but I really like it. I like to do it just like you see in the cum swallowing porn videos, sitting in front of him with my head back and my mouth wide open while he strokes his cock and cums into my mouth. I like to watch his cum squirt out of the head of his cock. It doesn't always all go into my mouth, but I keep my mouth open very wide and catch most if not all of it. Then I suck and lick his cock clean while he's having his orgasm. It's a whole lot less messy than a facial. And yea, I like facials too, but I haven't had one of those in a long time now.
There's an old saying... Swallow some cum today so your hubby won't wanna go elsewhere to play.
To be honest I'm really disappointed we're even talking about this, any married woman should without hesitation be swallowing the love of her lifes cum... I love swallowing. not for the taste. its not awful, but I don't especially look forward to it. I love swallowing because I love hearing the guy moan and feeling him squirm and tremble under me as I suck every lost drop out. taste isn't that bad, but the guys reaction is the real reason I love doing it
The twitchy thing he does when cumming is so hot. Honestly, I get turned on just thinking about it. I swallow as he cums. The feeling of it sliding down my throat is amazing. I love every moment right down to him slowly going soft in my mouth.
1- Sex without blowjobs are just meh... What we do do is great, but you still leave the experience feeling as if you didn't get the whole package, kind of like having a sandwich without bread, sure you get full, but it really doesn't taste all that great. Most women don't realize that oral sex isn't just about the physical pleasure (which is incredible), its more about the love, trust, and connection. Men need to see physical displays of love, rarely do women know how to do this, thus oral is insanely important if the wife wants to build trust and connection with him. on a scale of 0-100 I'd say probably around 94% important.
2- Cum is a big variable, first it depends if he's going down on you, if he's not you have no obligation to him whatsoever, but if he is you really do owe him it... I don't think women realize just how much they cum when they orgasm orally, my wife literally drips like a faucet the entire time (which I love), I think by the end of her orgasm I've usually swallowed half a cup or more of her fluids, the rest are covered on by chin, chest, and belly. There are times when the taste is bad, or the smell, but I love her so I go down on her and swallow regardless. Sex is all about reciprocation...
I think when women aren't willing to swallow it drastically alters his love for her, its a big deal. Imagine your guy going down on you but right as he's about to orgasm he pushes you away and goes ewe! how would you fell? your confidence is shot, your connection to him is gone, and your orgasm is ruined. In my own relationship I think cum is a major reason my wife doesent go down on me, whenever I leak pre-cum she spits it out desperately, early in our relationship if cum touched her she tensed up and gave me the look as if a spider was on her. Its hard to get hard when she thinks your body is gross.
Usually it just indicates that you're not sexually mature and your purpose in sex isn't where it needs to be. Its all about your mindset, about love and commitment. If its a taste issue its reasonable, there are ways to make it taste better, you can tell him you love him but when your actions say otherwise its going to damage your relationship, and his dedication to you. Just saying... It of course is your choice and you shouldn't do something you don't want to do, but don't expect his heart to belong to you if your not displaying your love physically. if you reject his body you also reject his heart, they are one and the same.