4 RULES TO SEXUALLY SATISFYING YOUR SPOUSE: WHAT WE LEARNED FROM OUR NIGHTS IN LAS VEGAS
Two Years ago our night in Las Vegas changed our lives, while flying into the city I had been reading a couples blog on increasing our love for each other, and how to improve our skills in the bedroom, when I came across a website talking about the positive and negative things we as lovers can apply or ditch from pornstars and escorts. Suddenly a light bulb went off in my head... this was the thing we had been looking for! we had so desperately been looking for ways to improve our love making skills, sex had always been so awkward for us both, we lacked knowledge, technique, courage, and inspiration. My husband just about died when I told him "I want to hire an escort and a gigolo for us this weekend" he about died in terror. "No" I said, "not to have sex with silly, to have them teach us how to be better lovers in bed".
we spent two nights with them teaching us and inspiring us with new ideas, it was the most informative night of our life! the first night we hired a guy, who showed my husband all the techniques he uses to please his clients, using a bunch of pillows and vagina sex toy as props, he showed him how to give oral, how to thrust, how to seduce, behave, body language, dirty talk, you name it! The next night we hired a lady to show myself how to better love him, again using pillows and a dildo as props.
While most men and women would never be willing to do this to learn to be better spouses during love making, I will say you can learn the same information from a series they recommended called "tonight's girlfriend" wherein actors and actresses show what its like to be an escort and be a dedicated lover, I highly recommend it for all couples as a learning tool.
THE TOP THINGS WE LEARNED WERE 1. ENTHUSIASM 2. AGRESSIVNESS 3. CONFIDENCE 4.TECHNIQUE and 5. ORAL IS A MUST FOR BOTH SEXES
There are lots of things that porn stars and escorts do that you definitely don’t want to take with you into the bedroom, but does that also mean that there’s nothing we can learn from them positively? Not at all. There are lots of sex tips that you can and probably should learn from porn stars that can make you a sex goddess and make your sex life super hot. Surprisingly, these tips aren’t super secret special techniques that porn stars know and the regular world doesn’t – in fact, they’re more like philosophies that porn stars have that can actually make your sex life sizzle.
Tips for pleasuring him:
A blowjob is an amazing gift you can give to your partner – even better than sex. Every guy loves getting head – there’s nothing that compares to the feeling of a hot, wet mouth on his penis. However, there are far too many girls that don’t know how to give a good blowjob, leaving their men to watch porn and wish their girlfriends and wives could suck them like that. Make his fantasies come true by learning a blowjob like a porn star! Here are five porn star blowjob secrets that turn boring, run of the mill oral sex into something incredible!
Play With It First
All good porn stars know that you can’t just put your mouth on a guy’s cock and expect fireworks to happen. Guys need a little warm up time too, although they need far less than girls. So warm your guy up by playing with his penis a little first, before you start sucking on it. Rub it lightly over his underwear or over the sheet while you’re lying in bed. Rub it against your cheek, your lips and your face. Give yourself a little smack with it! Your enthusiasm and obvious love for his member will turn him on more than anything else.Make Eye Contact & Smile
A guy really wants to see that you’re enjoying giving him head. You can let him know that you love what you’re doing by looking him in the eye and smiling when you’re going down on him. If you ask almost any man what his favorite thing about his partner is, he will likely either say her eyes or her smile – or both. When you make deep, soulful eye contact with your lover and smile while giving him a blowjob, you’ll not only make his knees weak with pleasure but you’ll also get him involved emotionally.
Deep Throat
Deep throating is hard work. It’s easy to gag and in some cases, women have vomited because their lover’s penis aggravated their gag reflex so much. (It wasn’t their fault). Men love to have women deep throat them though – in fact, many guys feel like it’s the “holy grail” of getting oral sex. Fortunately, you can still deep throat – without vomiting – even if you have a strong gag reflex. It’s a learned skill that takes practice (and breathing through your nose). Practice deep throating each time you give your lover a blowjob, and you’ll get better and better at it.
Don’t Be Afraid To Swallow
Most porn stars aren’t afraid to swallow their partner’s semen. Some seem to really, really love it! Sure, it’s an acquired taste and all, but the truth is, if you can learn to stomach it (or learn to love it), your man will LOVE his blowjob. There’s just something super sexy – and ultra naughty – about a woman who swallows her man’s spunk like it’s the most delicious thing she’s ever tasted. If you can’t manage to bring yourself to swallow, have a towel nearby that you can discreetly spit his semen in when he’s finished. If you’re acting like you can’t get enough, he’s not going to notice or care if you spit in a towel while he’s not looking.
Bring The Variety
Some girls get in a “rut” when it comes to giving a blowjob. They find a few techniques that work well and use them over and over again. Worse yet are the women that thing simply moving their mouth up and down their lover’s penis is a good blowjob. If you want to give head like a porn star and make your guy get down on his knees and beg for more, you want to learn several great techniques that you can mix and match when going down on him.
When going down on your lover, take note of his reactions each time you use a new technique. Play with it a little – this is part of the fun of giving excellent head! Try a technique and judge his reaction. Does he love it? Does he moan, grunt or thrust his pelvis towards your face? Or does he just kind of sit back, waiting for you to do something else? When you pay attention to his cues and body language, you’ll learn what he likes and doesn’t like. Then, take a mental note of what works (forget about what doesn’t) and use the best techniques in a different order and at different times to keep things fresh.
Act Like You Want It!
The single most important thing that porn stars do in adult movies is they want it, want it everywhere, any way, and all the time. Of course, much of it is acting but this is definitely a philosophy women have implemented and used in the bedroom, women who implement these techniques report having an incredibly satisfying sex life, both for their spouse and themselves (Without going overboard of course). When giving your man a blowjob, really get into it. Act like it is the only thing you want to be doing right then and pleasing your man is your priority. Act like you’re going to starve to death or the world is going to fall apart if you don’t give him head and that going down on him is something you need to do! The same goes for sex – when he’s penetrating you, that’s all that exists at that moment and that’s all you want too! You may be acting a lot at first, but as you get into it and show him you want it, you’ll actually start to realize how much you actually do want it.
Don’t Worry About Your Bod
One thing that porn stars don’t worry about is how they look. They know they look good and they’re comfortable with themselves – but is this because they look better than everyone else? Not hardly! They just know something that girls who aren’t porn stars haven’t figured out yet – that guys don’t really care about their cellulite or whatever other insecurities they have about their bodies. When they’re having sex, the last thing your guy is thinking about is your thighs, except for the fact that he’s blissed out because they’re wrapped around them! So make like a porn star and forget all about your bodily insecurities so you can try those crazy sex positions that you haven’t tried yet because you’re afraid they’ll make your ass look big.
Dress Sexy
Porn stars know that above all else, men are visual creatures. They process information best when they actually see it, and they get turned on most when they see things that are sexy. This is why you often see porn stars keeping their push up bras or stilettos on during sex, because they know it adds that extra bit of visual flair that will really make a man melt. So instead of turning out the lights and getting totally naked when you and your man have sex, leave the light on or light a few candles to help illuminate the room so he can see what’s going on. You can also wear some sexy lingerie or just keep your chic work outfit on and let him lift up the skirt for an extra naughty touch. Dressing sexy also applies to what you wear outside of the bedroom, around the house or to work. Instead of putting on what is comfortable for you, think more about how you can dress to please your man. Sure, the cotton nightie is way more comfortable than the camisole set, but with the latter, sex is going to be on your partner’s mind the whole time you’re wearing it.
Introduce Dirty Talk
Men like to hear what’s going on in the bedroom as much as they like to see it. Porn stars are very vocal about what they want, what they like and how something feels – and that’s not at all a bad thing! Try incorporating some dirty talk into your sex routine to make it a little more steamy. If you’re fairly quiet during sex, you can simply start by making a few vocal sounds when your partner really does something to you that you like. Or, if you’re too shy to tell him what you want him to do to you, describe what you’re doing to him instead. Sometimes, dirty talk is simply a verbal play by play of what is going on and how much you or your partner like it. Get your partner into the dirty talk too by asking him what he wants to do to you!
Keep Your Heels on
Next time you seduce him, keep your heels on. You might need
to adjust positions to make sure he doesn’t get hurt, but with that extra
height, you’ll have many more available to try anyway, and he’ll be driven mad at
the sight of your long legs. It’ll remind him of quick, secret sex, and really
turn him on.
FOR HER PLEASURE:
You may have heard this before, but the most powerful sexual organ humans have isn’t in our underpants. It’s in our head. More than anything else in your body, it’s your brain that plays the most important role in great sex. If your mind is convinced that you’re having awesome sex, big chances are, every other part of your body will follow suit too. To truly have amazing sex and satisfy your woman in bed, you need to learn to make her mind enjoy the things you do in bed. Get that right, and she’ll surely be satisfied and more.
Foreplay begins before you get undressed
If asked, most of us would say that we wanted more foreplay. It often seems to us that men think of foreplay as a warm up to the main event, and try to do as little of it as possible. This is a mistake when it comes to pleasing a girl in bed because foreplay is one of the most enjoyable aspects of sex for women. Men are able to reach orgasm much more quickly than women, so foreplay gives us time to get to the same point as you. There are many forms of foreplay, so ask us what feels good if you’re not sure. If we’re not into what you’re doing then try something else; everyone is different and one woman may not like the same moves as another.
And it may be obvious and off-putting to some women if we think you’re just trying some ‘tricks’ you know pleased previous women, and aren’t paying attention to whether or not we actually like it.
Foreplay for women can start in the morning or afternoon. Anticipation is exciting so suggest watching a film together or offer to cook. This attention will put us in the right frame of mind and we’ll spend the day thinking about an evening together. If you can remember to send your partner a text message saying how much you’re looking forward to spending time with her, then you’re practically guaranteed a great night. This type of build up is all foreplay and one of the best ways to turn a woman on. In fact, if you begin with her imagination before even attempting to remove articles of clothing then you’re off to a great start.
Everyone has a fetish. It’s your job to find hers.
Inside every woman is a sexual beast just waiting to break
free. We truly believe that. So chances are, if you haven't seen her wilder
side, the issue lies with you. You need to be game to patiently coax it out. Think of kinks as a wall of candy in clear plastic bins.
Even if you think she doesn't have a sweet tooth, there will be one candy in
the store that will make her change her mind. For most women, there are even
several. It's your job to diligently try them all with her. Dirty talk leave a
bitter taste in her mouth? Maybe role-playing is more her style. Maybe she has
a thing for spankings. It's your job to figure out what her flavor of choice
is, and encourage her to indulge.LEARN THE CONCEPTS AND DEGREES OF DOMINANCE AND MALE AGGRESSION
If your wife or girlfriend isn’t too adventurous in the
sack, sex can get boring real fast. But
this isn’t all on her. Perhaps she’s
just a little shy, and needs you to coax that devilish little vixen out, and
into your bed. She’s just waiting for
you to unleash that caged beast and take control. She just doesn’t know how to ask for it.
Get her worked up
Get her to the point of no return and make your suggestions
then. Take it to the next level when she’s physically and mentally amped, and
she’ll be more open-minded and in the moment. It will just add to the already
awesome sex you're having, and more than likely, make it even hotter.
The benefits of this are two-fold. The positive sexual
experience you shared, aside from being great in itself, will also pave the
road for future freaky exploits. The next time you suggest something wild,
she'll have an almost Pavlovian response to stepping out of her comfort zone.
She’ll immediately become excited remembering that time she allowed herself to
be talked into something new, and how much she enjoyed it. Who in their right
mind would say no to round two if round one was mind-blowing? That's right—no
one.
Make her feel like the sexiest woman on earth
Confidence breeds freakiness. If your woman feels
irresistible in her skin, and she knows you find every inch of her enticing,
she wont hesitate to put herself in less than flattering positions, try weird
things, or touch herself in front of you. She’ll have no doubts that you’re
enjoying the show.
If you're the kind of guy who feels uncomfortable doling out
compliments, start expressing yourself more. Don't assume she knows how sexy
you find her ankles, the curve of her hips, her waist, her mouth—we're sure
your list goes on and on, just make sure she knows that! A self-assured woman
is the one who will be outgoing and adventurous in bed. And while much of that
confidence should be innate to her, if she's lacking, you should be committed
to showing her just how stunning you find her, flaws and all.
Let’s face it. Most women want a strong man. They want Hugh
Jackman as Wolverine. They want every guy in Magic Mike. They want someone who
can fight off a bear while not spilling his beer. They want a guy who knows the
difference between an automatic rifle and a shotgun and knows how to use both
to defend their home.
These traits trickle into the bedroom, too. Most women want
a guy who’s willing to take charge from time to time. They want a man who knows
how to dominate a woman and drive her over the edge into a screaming orgasm, to
make her so wet that she’ll need to take a shower after (which is the perfect
place for Round 2). With a couple of fool-proof tips and tricks, you’ll be able
to dominate and invigorate your love life in no time.
3 categories of dominance
I’ve broken your keys to dominance into three categories:•gentle
•moderate
•aggressive.
Depending on what’s okay with your partner, feel free to
start gentle and work your way up. Or, you can mix it up. Try a little gentle
followed by a little aggressive. Keep her guessing and you’ll
Gentle Domination
The best place to start if you’ve never tried anything
before. You don’t want to go full-on handcuffed to the bed with a blindfold on
if your partner has never even had her hair pulled a little.
1.Against a wall—Pushing your partner up against a wall or
door is a great way to express your dominance. Spread her legs and keep her
pinned between you and the wall. She won’t have any choice but to offer herself
up to you.Have her spread her place her palms against the wall for balance as
you grab her ass and spread her some more. You’re the one with all the power
here, so give it to her and show her how much power you’ve got.
2.Talking Dirty—There’s no easier way to turn someone on
than by talking dirty to them. Tell your partner that you’re in charge, that
you’re the one that’s making the decisions. Tell her in no uncertain terms that
she’s under your control until it’s over. Whisper it in her ear
as you breath on her neck and you’ll get her riled up in no time.
3.Manhandling—You’re probably going to be bigger than your
partner. That’s just how we’re made, so put your body to good use. Manhandle
your partner. Pick her up and throw her on the bed and show her how strong you
can be. Try holding her down, too, while you’re at it. Don’t give her a chance
to get up when you’re on top. If she attempts to, use your strength and hold
her down. Try putting both her wrists above her head and holding her down with
one hand while you pump into her. If you’re doing it right, you’ll see a
mischievous glint in her eyes. She probably won’t say it, but she’s loving
every minute of it.
4.Pulling Hair—Ever have your head scratched? Feels good,
right? Try pulling her hair while you’re in her to heighten her pleasure. Don’t
pull too hard—you don’t want to distract her—but tug to let her know who’s
boss. Grab a handful of hair and pull her neck back to expose her throat. When
she’s in this position—particularly when you’re behind her—feel free to lean in
and nibble. Not only will you be pushing deep into her, but you’ll turn her on
extra by attacking her neck. She’ll be moaning in no time.
Moderate Domination
This is where the fun really starts. The two of your are
comfortable now and she starts coming back for more when you whisper the things
you want to do to her in her ear, biting the lobe as you do.1.Spanking—She’s been a bad girl and she needs to be punished. Bend her over your lap and spank her. Or if you’re behind her, grab her hip with one hand and leave a nice palm print with the other on her ass. Then, switch sides. Spanking is a great way to show your dominance from any position. Even if she’s on top—but if you’re in charge why would she be on top?—you can still smack her ass. If your partner does manage to get on top and you want to show her that you’re the one who’s really in charge, grab her by the hips or in a hug and flip her on her back. It’ll happen too quickly for her to do anything and the look of lust in her eye for you after it happens will be priceless.
2.Biting—Nibble and bite her all over her body—her ear
lobes, her nipples, the insides of her thighs, anywhere. The little shock of
pain will titillate her and keep her coming back for more. Try working your way
up or down her body, leaving a trail of hickeys or almost-hickeys. Tell her
that you’re marking your property, if she asks why. This is a great technique
to use at any stage of being dominant, it just depends on how hard you bite.
3.Orgasm Denial—Ask any guy who’s ever had blue balls and
you’ll find out quick that orgasm denial is torture. Tease your partner by
bringing her right to the edge, then backing off. When she finally does cum,
get ready to be rocked, though. If you’re going down on her, kiss the insides
of her thighs and lick and suck around her clit, eventually making your way
there, getting her closer and closer to the edge and, just when she starts to
tense up, go back to kissing her thighs. If your cock is in her, pull out and
hold it for her to see. Do this a few times until she looks desperate and then
plunge deep and hard and bring her over the edge.
4.Handcuffs—Nothing says ‘I’m in charge’ like handcuffing
your partner to the bed. Get multiple pairs and make sure she doesn’t move.
She’ll let you do whatever you want once she realizes she’s not going anywhere.
You can get a good pair of handcuffs from any sex shop and, if you want to
appeal to her feminine side, you can even get them in the fuzzy variety. Start
with just her hands or feet handcuffed to the bed then move on to total
domination by handcuffing each limb. If you don’t have handcuffs, use belts or
ties—they work just as good and you don’t have to go out and spend any extra
money on them.
5.Hot Wax/Hot Lube—Light a candle and pour the melted wax on
her nipples. It’ll hurt a little, but candle flame will be nothing compared to
how hot it’ll make her. Do this slowly and sensually to really heighten the
pleasure over an extended period of time. If hot wax is out of the question,
trying warming lube. Many of them are edible, and you can lick/suck/bite the
lube off as you please.
Aggressive Domination
1.BDSM—Short for bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism,
this is the umbrella term for a lot of what would be considered aggressive
domination. Tying your partner up, spanking harder than before, leather whips,
chains, you name it. If your girl’s seen 50 Shades of Grey she’ll know what
she’s in for and don’t be surprised if she’s went before you even start. The
key here is to not go too hard too fast. Dole out her punishment in small
doses, gradually ramping up the power you use. Remember to agree to a safe
word, but if she doesn’t say it, keep going—she’s probably loving it. Adding
some manhandling in there and you’ll obliterate any image of the movie and book
she has. The only one she’ll want to spank her will be you.
2.Choking—Depriving someone of oxygen in measured amounts
can lead to euphoric experiences. When you’re on top, try choking her. Start
with one hand, gently pressing down on her throat before moving to the two-hand
choke, where you have more control over the power you’re exerting. As with any
aggressively dominant move, be careful. Too much can be incredibly dangerous.
You want to turn your partner on, you don’t want to hurt her permanently. Be
sure to know the limits and start slow. There’s a not-so-fine line between
aggressive dominant sexual behavior and being abusive.
3. Dirty Talk —The words “You dirty girl” are beginner-level
stuff if you’re looking to degrade your partner. Taking her down a notch by
degrading her not only shows that she’s the one that needs to be submissive,
but it’ll turn her on in the process. If dirty talk isn’t necessarily your
thing, try “You’re my little bitch, aren’t you?” on for size. Words and phrases
like this would work to show that she is in the submissive position. Get her to
call you sir or master. Make her respond as such to everything you say and, if
she doesn’t, let her know that she’s going to be spanked. Hard.
It’s OK for you to make noise.
Otherwise, we feel like we are fucking a ninja. Unless you
actually are a ninja, and have sneaked into our rooms with vibrating nanuchaku
and zippered black pajamas, please, please make some noise. If you’re banging a
woman, and she’s crying out and saying your name and moaning, and you can’t
even manage a grunt, she’s going to feel like an idiot. You don’t have to make
the sounds she is making, but do SOMETHING. You know how when you are watching
porn, and the girl does something great to the guy and the guy kind of goes
“Ah!”, half grunt, half yell? That’s HOT. Do that. Whisper our name (assuming
you know it) gruffly. Groan against her neck when you’re in missionary
position.
Most women like dirty talk, in addition to the grunting
If you’d like to get some dirty talk going, ask her if she
likes the way you fuck her. If she responds well, continue with something like,
“I love fucking you. God, you look so fucking hot.” Is she still moaning in
response? “Your tits are so beautiful.” Does that work? If she doesn’t respond
well to the term “tits”, you might have to stop there. If she keep moaning or
responding, pass Go and collect $200. Try the following: “Oh, god. Your pussy
is SO tight.” “You’re so wet – are you wet because you like the feel of my cock
ramming you?” “I think I’m going to come inside you. I’m going to fill up your
little cunt.” (It doesn’t matter that you’re wearing a condom; we LOVE hearing
this.) If all of those work, you can then progress to things like “sexy little
bitch” and “dirty whore”. Tread carefully, but please, tread. Do not tiptoe. Do
not sit down. Charge.
Most women like to be fucked, and fucked well
Yes, there are women out there who want to “make love” every
time – sweet, gentle, rocking love with lots of eye contact and loving kisses. Those
women are not the majority.
The majority like to be pounded. The majority like to have
their hair pulled. The majority like a good, solid jackhammering. When a woman
is bucking wildly against you, it’s not because she wants you to pull back and
slowly swirl your cock around her vagina like you’re mixing a cake batter up
there. It’s because she wants you to hold down her arms, or grab her hips, or
push her legs above her head, and fuck her harder. Don’t be too afraid of what
this means as far as gender equality goes – I am a raging feminist bitch, but I
still want to be penetrated like you are planning on fucking my throat from the
inside out.
A little roughness is nice
Do not pretend that you had no idea that some women like
their hair pulled. Do not act shocked if she wants you to spank her (“Really?
Spanking? Won’t it hurt?” – yes, it does. That’s the point).
We know you’ve read Stuff and Maxim, and that’s all those
laddie mags talk about in their “How to Please Her” sections. Start with light,
full handed smacks to the area of her ass that she sits on. Judge her response
and continue on from there. You don’t have to bend her over one knee and tell
her she’s a naughty girl and that Daddy’s going to punish her; save that for
the fifth date. Women are less delicate than you think, so don’t worry about
breaking her hip. If you’re not strong enough to leave a mark, do something
about it. Get to the gym and lift skinny boy.
Be more selfless
Focus on her pleasure rather than yours. Make sure she’s
orgasming and enjoying herself, every time. Be devoted to discovering her every
erogenous zone. Find things that turn her on she didn’t realize existed. So
when you suggest something new, she’ll know it’s not for selfish reasons, but
because you truly think she’ll enjoy it.
Sometimes women get so caught up in their partner's pleasure
that it can feel like sex, and even climaxing, is a show. Reassure her that
being freaky is not that hyper-exaggerated spectacle she sees in adult films.
It’s not a performance. It’s about figuring out what truly gets you going, and
being fully, passionately committed to the experience. It’s not about the
theatrics, it’s about giving in to real pleasure.
Be outrageous
Sex gets sexier the more wild and outrageous it feels. If you want to satisfy your woman, learn to get risqué with your actions. Do something bold now and then, and sex will feel a lot more exciting. Have sex near an open window, use blindfolds, grope each other on a dark dance floor… The wilder your thoughts and actions, the sexier the sex will be.
Multiple orgasms are considered the “holy grail” of sex for women – if you can give her more than one, you’re golden. Porn stars are often looked at as “sex gurus” – and in a way, they are. They do it A LOT more than the average person. Adult films are known for featuring some of the hottest women on earth, but they aren’t just about showcasing women who look good on camera. Women can have many kinds of orgasms, but today we are going to focus on two kinds: Clitoral, and G-spot orgasms.
What's her fantasy?
We can tell you right now that you will never find her
inner-freak by trying to fulfill your own fantasies. The express route to
freakdom is figuring out hers.
Start by having an honest conversation about what turns her
on. What does she think about when she's alone in bed? Are there any things
that turn her on that she's never shared? Reassure her nothing is off-limits,
and that nothing will offend you or disgust you. Treat her every admission
seriously, and make it a point to make things happen, rather than going at it
the other way around and trying to meet your own needs first. Which brings us
to our next point...
Encourage Her Enthusiasm
reassure her. If she gets slightly freakier than usual one
night, confess that you enjoyed the sex even more than usual. Tell her you find
her most attractive when she's uninhibited, and she’ll be more likely to keep
bringing her freak-game to the table. The more you encourage her creativity, the more passionate
she’ll become about sex. Not just having it, but experimenting with it, making
it fun, exciting and unpredictable.
10. Give her breasts more attention
Lots of guys pamper a woman's breasts during foreplay but forget about them during the main event, which is a shame because the extra stimulation can lead to a bigger orgasm for her. Plus, it's important to pay attention to more than just her nipples, since her entire breast is packed with nerves, especially the underside. When she's on top, use your fingertips to draw wide, slow circles, starting around the perimeter of one breast and spiraling in until you're just about at her nipple. Then use your hand to cup and lift the underside of her breast, and lick around her nipple before covering it entirely with your mouth and sucking gently.
9. Give her a G-Spot orgasm
This much-talked-about area is located about 2 inches inside her vaginal canal on the front wall. Some docs say it's spongy and the size of a dime, but it can be hard to feel, so just stimulate that general area during sex and you may give her a more intense orgasm. To hit it with your penis, try modified doggie-style. Instead of having her keep her arms straight with her palms on the bed, ask her to lower herself onto her elbows. Holding her hips for balance, thrust slowly at first and then up the intensity. With each stroke, your penis will rub against the front wall of her vagina, stimulating that special spot.
8. Surprise her with a quickie
When you jump her out of the blue, it makes her feel like she's so irresistible that you simply can't wait to have her. Right when she gets home, pull her in for a deep kiss to get her going. Relieve her of any bags she's carrying and lead her to the couch, bed, or kitchen table, where you will have already stashed a bottle of lube nearby. Don't totally undress her; just lift up her skirt or pull down her pants. Then use your lubed fingers to massage her clitoris while whispering how hot she is in her ear. The more aroused you are, the faster she'll get into it. (Of course, there will be times when she's not game. If that happens, let it go and try another night.)
7. Gently pull her hair
There are thousands of nerves in the scalp, and when she's aroused, they're more sensitive, so pulling on her tresses feels extra stimulating. But there's a catch: If you do it while you're having sex with her from behind, it'll make her feel like you're treating her like a hooker. Instead, while she's on top, run your hand through her hair, grab a handful of strands close to her scalp, and give it a little pull. This works especially well when you're having intense, passionate sex, because grabbing her anywhere, especially somewhere sensitive, adds to the feeling that she's being ravished.
6. Talk dirty to her
Women are verbal creatures and our love of words extends to the bedroom. Unfortunately, most of what you may have heard guys say in porn is all wrong (Ask "Who's your daddy" and you just might get a slap across the face). What your partner does want to hear are phrases that let her know how turned on you are, how much you love her body, and how good you want to make her feel (see this month's CFG Sex Map for more tips). And even more important than what you say is the way you say it—when she can hear the burning lust in your voice, her thighs pretty much catch on fire.
5. Nibble on her neck
The skin that stretches from underneath her ear to her collarbone is very thin, making it supersensitive to touch. Start out by using your tongue to lick from her ear down to where her neck and shoulders meet. Then blow along the trail you just left. The warmth of your tongue coupled with the coolness of your breath will shoot tingles all over her body. After that, get a little more aggressive, and lightly nip the bottom of her neck (the skin is slightly thicker here and can take more pressure). You should suck on her neck too, but for just a second and not hard enough to leave a mark, hickeys are so high school.
4. Bring her to climax with oral
A luxurious oral-sex session allows her to kick back and enjoy being spoiled. (Sound familiar?) But different techniques may feel more or less pleasurable to her on different days. To figure out what's going to work best for her each time, be sure to use a variety of moves. Try licking softly, sucking, and using a firm, pointed tongue and then a wide, soft one, and take note of which she responds to the most enthusiastically. When you sense that she's about to orgasm—her body will tense up and she'll start breathing more quickly—go back to the move that elicited the biggest moans, and continue doing it until she climaxes.
3. Touch her hot spot medication
Most women can't orgasm during intercourse without clitoral stimulation, which is probably why so many want more of it! Whenever your hand can reach her clitoris (girl-on-top and spooning from behind are two great positions for access), you should rub her hot spot. Your touches should be slow and soft in the beginning, progressing to harder and quicker. When it comes to technique, every woman is different, so you have to experiment: Try one finger pressed directly on her clitoris, three fingers over the entire area, or the heel of your hand on her pubic mound—her moans will tell you when you have it right.
2. Kiss her during sex
If you're like most guys, once intercourse starts, you probably stop kissing her. That's a bad move, since kissing makes sex feel more intimate for her, which is crucial to female pleasure. Pick a position that allows you to be face-to-face, like missionary, or have her sit on your lap, then mix up your smooches so they mirror the mood of the sex you're having. If you're going at it like gangbusters, pull her in for a deep, tongue-filled kiss—try sucking on her bottom lip and pressing your lips firmly against hers. When things are slow and romantic, go with a more sensual kiss.
1. Be more aggressive
The number one thing women want is for you to be more aggressive in bed. That means handling her body with strength and confidence, which can be insanely erotic for her. And it doesn't require a lot of work or advanced skills on your part. In fact, doing just one take-charge thing can spike her arousal level. A few to try: In missionary, take her wrists and hold them above her head, pinned to the mattress. When she's on top, hold her hips and push/pull them back and forth, so her clitoris grinds against your pubic bone. And when you want to change positions, don't do it slowly or politely—grab her and put her where you want her.
In conclusion, I again would highly recommend spouses to watch and learn from romantic/erotic videos, specifically the tonight's girlfriend series which illustrates the perfect example of how both spouses should be dedicated to each others pleasure, showing aggressiveness, enthusiasm, and willingness to go above and beyond to please and tease our lover.
In conclusion, I again would highly recommend spouses to watch and learn from romantic/erotic videos, specifically the tonight's girlfriend series which illustrates the perfect example of how both spouses should be dedicated to each others pleasure, showing aggressiveness, enthusiasm, and willingness to go above and beyond to please and tease our lover.
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