How Sex Saved Our Marriage

The Letter A recent email exchange quite literally saved one Arizona couple from relationship disaster, and with their permission (having changed names for privacy) they asked we share this for the many spouses who suffer silently waiting for a spouse who has forgotten entirely about their commitment to intimacy, and for those who unknowingly are ripping their marriages apart to the very core by neglecting their spouses physical needs. THE LETTER My wife and I have mismatched libidos, with hers being much higher. We have been married 11 years and have three kids and sex less that 10 times a year (maybe 3 or 4) for the past five years. My wife last night sat me down and made me read something she had written about the sex thing. I will be honest that I don't really get it, but she asked for my "official permission" to engage in extramarital affairs. She said she will be discreet and that me and our children will always come first. I'm so angry. I'm...

Can a Sexual 'Hall Pass' Be Good for a Long-term Relationship?   One question that's all too common goes along the lines of " My wife/Husband wants me to have a lover. Can anyone help me understand their point of view on this? Why would be want to see me being pleased by another person?   bet the majority of people in relationships who are reading this just raised their eyebrows with looks of disapproval. The first thought that probably popped into their minds was, "But, I'm in a relationship — I shouldn't flirt." Relationships, however, never come with a signed contract that states we must be stripped of all of our sexual traits. As human beings, our sexuality exists whether we're single or in a relationship. Settling down doesn't mean we must convince ourselves a certain person isn't attractive. When you’re in a relationship, you have an intense connection with your partner that no one else can infiltrat...