How Sex Saved Our Marriage

The Letter A recent email exchange quite literally saved one Arizona couple from relationship disaster, and with their permission (having changed names for privacy) they asked we share this for the many spouses who suffer silently waiting for a spouse who has forgotten entirely about their commitment to intimacy, and for those who unknowingly are ripping their marriages apart to the very core by neglecting their spouses physical needs. THE LETTER My wife and I have mismatched libidos, with hers being much higher. We have been married 11 years and have three kids and sex less that 10 times a year (maybe 3 or 4) for the past five years. My wife last night sat me down and made me read something she had written about the sex thing. I will be honest that I don't really get it, but she asked for my "official permission" to engage in extramarital affairs. She said she will be discreet and that me and our children will always come first. I'm so angry. I'm...

Can a Sexual 'Hall Pass' Be Good for a Long-term Relationship?   One question that's all too common goes along the lines of " My wife/Husband wants me to have a lover. Can anyone help me understand their point of view on this? Why would be want to see me being pleased by another person?   bet the majority of people in relationships who are reading this just raised their eyebrows with looks of disapproval. The first thought that probably popped into their minds was, "But, I'm in a relationship — I shouldn't flirt." Relationships, however, never come with a signed contract that states we must be stripped of all of our sexual traits. As human beings, our sexuality exists whether we're single or in a relationship. Settling down doesn't mean we must convince ourselves a certain person isn't attractive. When you’re in a relationship, you have an intense connection with your partner that no one else can infiltrat...

Having sex under the shower is a lot more than just a new way to have sex. Shower sex is intimate and can help both of you feel closer and bond better. When you’re under the shower with your partner, you don’t always have to think of sex. Both of you can lather each other up with a loofah and spend a while talking and relaxing after a long day at work. As turning on as having sex under the shower can be, it also creates an emotional connection between you and your partner. Now and then, both of you may not be keen to have sex after a tiring day. At times like these, getting under the shower can be the best thing to rejuvenate yourselves and feel grateful for having each other. HELPFUL HINTS TO STAY SAFE: Watching these sex steamy scenes are downright inspirational, but then we discover in real life they are far more complicated — and dangerous! Water can actually be drying, so lube up with a silicone gel — water-based ones just wash away. PLEASE use gent...